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Can I be like pansexual, but without being attracted to males?

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Last Updated: 12/03/2019 at 2:07pm
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December 22nd, 2018 3:36pm
I have heard of a sexuality that means your Pansexual but not attracted to every gender. It's called Polysexual! Polysexuality is sexual attraction to multiple, but not all, genders. So that's a possibility of what it could be ^^ Though I'm not saying you might have a completely different sexuality, Because its your choice if you'd like to label yourself that or label yourself Pansexual. The beauty of LGBT is that you have the choice and freedom to be what you want to be and love who you want to love! But I hope this helped you out, As I am new to LGBT. ~TheClosetCat
August 6th, 2018 2:48pm
Yes, you can. Pansexual doesn't necessarily mean "all genders." That's kind of impossible, even. The most important thing is that you feel comfortable with the label you choose for yourself.
December 3rd, 2019 2:07pm
Pansexual means attracted to all genders. That would mean that’s a no. However there is other types of sexuality- like bisexual if you are attracted to say women and non-binary people or two other genders. You can even just identify as queer if that is what you think fits you best. But it’s all up to you and what you are feeling- no one can tell you what you are and slap on a level. They can only help you figure it out on your own. It’s okay to question your sexuality- just know that you are you no matter what.
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August 5th, 2019 2:37am
Pansexuality means attraction to people regardless of their gender, so pan could potentially be attracted towards anyone. Not being attracted to one specific gender implies that you aren't pan. Bisexual people, on the contrary, could be potentially attracted towards all genders, but not necessarily: they can also have specific preferences.
September 4th, 2018 2:48pm
When you're sexually attracted by people of different genders but not all of them, it's called "polysexualily". Poly means "several" when "pan" means "all". So by definition, being pansexual means "being potentially attracted to people of all/any genders" and polysexual means "being potentially attracted to people of some/several genders but not all". So in your situation, "polysexuality" is more correct, ethymologically speaking. I hope that helps :) Self-determination is important, and being coherent with the existing terms and what they include is also important (or else why bother using differents terms, right?) So for instance, someone can identify as "hetero" even if they have very rare attraction toward people of the same gender, because "hetero" fits them better (as their "same-gender" attraction is very very rare, like the exception confirming the rule, you know).
December 1st, 2018 4:36am
No, as pansexuality is the attraction to all genders. I believe what you're describing here may fit better under the label of bisexuality (attraction to two genders) or polysexuality (attraction to multiple genders). Pan = all, bi = two, poly = many. I feel as though polysexuality may fit what you describe - perhaps do some more research into it? However, it depends on what you wish to identify as. If you feel as though it would be more simple to identify as bisexual or pansexual, then you're fully validated in doing so. Please don't just identify as things 'for the heck of it', though. The LGBT+ community is a place for people to love who they love, and you’re welcome here. Hope this helped!