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Can I just be a person, not a girl or a boy?

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Last Updated: 01/19/2021 at 1:59am
Can I just be a person, not a girl or a boy?
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September 11th, 2017 9:35pm
Of course! Being a boy or girl is generally just tied to the whole social concept, where the world tries to tell you that if you were born this way, then you must behave this way. But it's all just a concept, and it's totally normal to not feel like that fits you. There are a few genders that are outside of boy or girl, like agender, nonbinary, neutrois, or even just genderqueer. Or, you could just choose to not use a label at all, if that's most comfortable for you!
September 11th, 2017 3:43pm
Yes! I think what you may be looking for is the term agender, where you feel you don't have a specific gender.
October 8th, 2017 9:14am
Yes, you can! You don't have to be a boy or a girl. If you're neither, you're probably nonbinary. There are lots of labels included in the term "nonbinary" that you can do research on, that way you can see if any of them fit you. And if you don't find any label that fits you, or if you don't want a label, it's perfectly okay too!
October 17th, 2017 8:50pm
You can be whoever you would like to be, genderfluid and or non-binary. It is up to you who are not your parents or the people around you, just be yourself.
December 12th, 2017 2:18am
Yes, non-binary means that you identify as neither a girl nor a boy. Meanwhile, genderfluid means you identify as both.
June 26th, 2018 6:12pm
There is a whole spectrum of gender. Some people identify with one gender, some identify with more than one, some people feel as though their gender identy fluctuates even within their own self. And there are a lot of people who don't identify with any gender. If you feel like you are a person, and neither a boy nor a girl, maybe do some research on the term "agender" and see if any of that info resonates with you.
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August 13th, 2019 12:06pm
Yes. Many people who feel the same as you identify as agender, meaning people who do not feel like any gender at all. If you feel like this, you are probably agender too. That's ok, it's a completely valid identity and you're not alone in this!
May 26th, 2020 6:32am
yep! You can be whoever you want to be. There's such this as genderqueer/genderfluid/agender/nonbinary people who either fluctuate between genders, dont consider themselves female or male, or don't assign themselves a gender at all!! Some people are also born as "intersex" individuals which means they are born with various/multiple/"opposite" sex characteristics that aren't commonly associated with their sex at birth. To be honest gender is a social construct created through forms of culture and isn't an actual thing of its own. There are three sexes including females, males, and intersex individuals. These terms solely relate to the sexual reproductive organs you are given at birth, nothing more. In conclusion, yes you can just consider yourself a person! Some people also use pronouns such as they/them (instead of she/her or he/his) !
January 19th, 2021 1:59am
ofcourse, gender is becoming a flexible thing explore and be who you want to be and wear "male/female" clothes or non-binary clothes, wear makeup change you hair colour/style, research non-binary or binary clothes find your aesthetic