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Do i deserve to be bullied? I'm trans and I'm starting to feel like terfs are right about me.

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Last Updated: 07/01/2019 at 1:18am
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September 17th, 2018 9:09am
In any situation, it is never okay to be bullied about who you are. Being trans is unique and is part of you entire being. You are entitled to feel how you feel and not be embarrassed about it. Everything about the LGBT community is about support and acceptance, you might find that you can have the support you should and deserve there. There are so many people who support you, even a cis gendered male like me fully supports the trans community, anyone and everyone can support it, and you'll find so much acceptance in the LGBT community. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do anything, you are so awesome, keep being you :)
September 23rd, 2018 6:49pm
No one deserves to be bullied, regardless of why. You are very valid and deserve support for being who you are. If someone disagrees, you need to ignore those opinions, including if they're your own. You're not alone, you deserve respect, you deserve acceptance, you don't deserve to be bullied, you are who you are. When people go after others and bully them, it's usually because they're insecure about themselves, they don't understand what makes you different from them, or that they're dealing with some problem of their own and they're taking their frustration/anger/etc. on you. I've never heard of a case of bullying where the victim actually deserved it. So please, never think that you deserve it. I know I'm just saying the same thing in different ways, but I really want to get my point across. You do not deserve to be bullied.
June 3rd, 2019 7:16am
No one deserves to be bullied. People tend to hate what they don't understand and what they fear. I am not Trans but I have a friend that is and he has spent his life trying to explain to people why he is different. I suspect that perhaps he, like you, need to find a community of people that are in your corner and act like a buffer for all of the hatred in the world. There are people who will want to be your friend and to love and support you. I look forward to hearing about how you are doing. Take good care...
April 9th, 2019 7:49am
You do not deserve to be bullied. Nobody does. TERFs simply have their mind set on "traditional views," and have not come to grasp the idea of gender as an identity not based on our sexual organs. You are uniquely you, and your gender is yours to feel and express. Even if they happen to say the most hurtful things to you, and try to set labels on you, remember that only you can say who and what you are. Nobody else has any control over that. Take the time to breathe, get yourself in a safe metal space, and give yourself a big hug and say "I love me." You're worth love.
February 19th, 2019 1:43am
No one deserves to get bullied, no matter who you are and what you identify as. Whether you're trans, non binary etc. You should never feel like what they say is right, people can be mean and normally when someone bullies someone either they're going through something worse or they don't understand something. You should never let them get to you though, I'd recommend speaking to someone and letting someone know you're being bullied though. I know it can be tough to reach out to someone about something like this but it's honestly one of the best things you can do.
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July 1st, 2019 1:18am
No one deserves to be bullied or discriminated for their identity. Your identity is perfectly valid, and those who say the contrary are doing it because of ignorance or straightforward cruelty. There is no rational reason why you should be treated badly, and I'm sure you know that deep down, but being constantly bullied has made you doubt yourself. When you feel like this, it's important to surround yourself with supportive people, LGBTQ+ organizations can also help, and so do therapists, who will guide you towards a greater self-awareness and confidence. Practing self-love is very important, you have all the rights to be respected and valued for who you are, and it's important for you to keep telling yourself that, so that their words will not affect you that much.