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Do you have to come out to everyone?

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Do you have to come out to everyone?
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peacefulNight35
November 28th, 2017 12:53am
Absolutely not especially if you are not safe. Come out when you feel comfortable and are sure that you will not be harmed for it. I'm only out to my best friends at the moment. And if you're in the closet now, you don't have to be forever.
positiveWhisper24
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
October 16th, 2017 9:29am
No. You do not have to come out to anyone. You can choose to come out to only some people and not to others. However, if you choose to come out, you can't force other people to keep your secret - because that's not coming out, that's dragging people into the closet with you. You don't have to tell your boss, but you should probably tell the person you're dating. It's your choice.
SnoOnTheBluff
September 26th, 2016 9:48am
You don't have to come out to anyone you don't feel comfortable coming out to. You also don't have to come out if you don't feel comfortable doing so. That is something that you and you along can decide.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2016 3:38am
It is all your choice who and where and when you come out to. You are the controller of your own life. No one else.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2016 2:25am
No, you do not have to come out to everyone. Coke out when you are comfortable and you feel safe. And if you cannot come out to everyone, than so be it.
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 4:37am
No it's not necessary to come out to everyone. Tell who you trust, it's not everyone's business to know who you love. Their opinion of you shouldn't change because of you're sexuality.
CallMeMatheus
July 13th, 2016 3:57am
No, you don't. You come out to whoever you want at whatever pace you want.
Sunshinehelpers92
July 13th, 2016 12:35am
This is your life. You get to chose depending on how you feel. There's no "right" or "wrong" way of doing anything that makes you happy.
AustenE
July 13th, 2016 12:08am
Of course not, you live your life the way you want to live it. You're in control of your life, and when it comes down to it you will have to support yourself, and be your own rock. Don't let your happiness depend on someone else love. xx
Nadine
August 13th, 2015 3:55pm
No, you don't have to come out to everyone. Coming out (or not) is your choice and you can decide to tell everyone or nobody or just a few people. The life is yours and you must not feel like you owe people an explanation for who you decide to love or who and how you decide to be.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2015 1:44pm
You never need to tell everyone of what your sexuality and/or gender is. It's best to tell the amount of people you are comfortable with, you are not obligated in any way to have to tell everyone including your parents.
Emily90
February 2nd, 2016 10:11am
I believe that is something you decide. You don't 'have' to do anything. And it doesn't have to be as 'official' for everyone. For example, telling your parents may be quite important, while colleagues finding out about your sexuality may just 'happen', for example if you mention having e.g. a boyfriend/girlfriend when you're at work :) Personally I think that if you don't want to come out to someone, you don't have to. I do think coming out to people can be sort of a 'relief', to have people who also know that part of you, so you have people to talk to. Ultimately, it's your life and your decision :) Hope this is helpful!
AnimeNerdRae
October 28th, 2015 12:10am
No, it is completely your choice when you come out, and who you come out to. You can do it whenever you feel comfortable to, just take your time.
Anonymous
October 31st, 2015 2:58pm
No, of course not! Coming out is a personal choice, and it's totally up to you whether to come out or not. The most important thing is to make sure you feel comfortable and safe, and if coming out will make you feel better, go for it, but if it doesn't, you have zero obligation.
bountifulMemory59
November 9th, 2015 2:15pm
No you do it to who you feel comfortable telling....in time that may result in more people knowing Its never something you should feel you have to do or feel pressured into doing I think for most people when they are in a committed relationship they do end up coming out as they want people to know they are in love