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How can I be comfortable with my sexuality while living in a conservative town?

12 Answers
Last Updated: 11/15/2021 at 5:30pm
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Top Rated Answers
January 24th, 2015 5:08pm
Trying sticking with people who you trust the most (like your friends). They will accept you no matter what you do. Besides, happiness is all that matters! If people aren't happy with who you are, they can get over it and move on with their lives. :)
January 27th, 2015 1:21am
Find community online. Whatever your sexuality is, I promise community exists for it. Try to plan trips away from your town, where you can be more open in public. Find safe people within your town to talk too.
April 8th, 2015 9:38am
That is a tough one! And I have been there. It kind of depends on what you mean by being comfortable with your sexuality. For me, I avoided any public displays of affection, because I felt too uncomfortable about others' thoughts if I didn't. But the flip side of that was that it was really important for me to find others that I COULD be more open about my sexuality with. I had a small group of friends that I could just be completely open with, and that really helped me feel like I had a support system and a way to express myself and BE myself, even in the middle of a very conservative town!
May 4th, 2015 7:15am
Surround yourself with those who accept you. Walk around in a fabulous cloud of love, like a suit of armor made out of friends. People are less likely to attack someone with friends. Or, if you want to be with your partner(s), you can always find a quiet little place behind your school or on a bench in a park.
May 17th, 2015 11:49pm
Honestly, the best way to get comfortable about your sexuality is to first realize that there's nothing intrinsically wrong with it. After that, its all about finding people you can relate to
June 17th, 2015 7:37pm
Talk them off! Be yourself, feel good and don't let others bring you down! When somebody reduces you on your sexuality, they are not even worth to think about.
February 22nd, 2016 1:47pm
Comfortability starts with you, believing in you and having confidence that you are what you are. That you being you doesnt harm others, so you have to etched in your heart that it doesnt make sense that they have to be nosy to your life. Remember, for as long as you dont harm others with your belief, it's ok to go on with it. I hope it helps :D
August 30th, 2016 5:56am
Surround yourself with people that you love and trust. I'm guessing you think that not everyone will be accepting, so having those that love you as you are can help when things are difficult. Take care of yourself.
September 12th, 2016 5:03pm
You shouldn't care what people think. There will always be people that will mock you or won't like you
November 28th, 2017 12:52am
Find friends who can support you or come find the community online. Most of us are very supportive. Know that who people think you should be does not determine who you actually are. I live in a religious family and identify as bi, and it's not always easy. What you think about yourself is more important than what others think about you.
July 9th, 2018 12:10am
Understand that your opinion is the only one that matters as long as you are safe you should love yourself before trying to get the love of those around you
November 15th, 2021 5:30pm
Your sexuality is your business and you don't have to prove yourself to anyone. Share your sexuality with people that have similar ideas as you so that they can support you. If you are surrounded by people that are conservative be prepared for their opinions to disagree with your lifestyle. Not everyone in life will agree with you but you don't have to share your sexuality with people that don't agree with your lifestyle and you don't have to be around people that are not supportive. Choose your social circle carefully and consider moving if you don't like the culture in your community.