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How can I learn to accept myself?

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Last Updated: 01/14/2020 at 4:08pm
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Christie Belle, Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy


I am a U.S. Air Force veteran and a ex-Army spouse. I am a divorced mother of two teenage boys, my youngest son has a diagnosis of autism, which I am very passionate about.

Top Rated Answers
January 15th, 2015 1:05pm
First you will need to stop criticizing yourself. Every time you feel like criticizing yourself, affirm "Even though ... I still love and accept myself". Forgive your past. Focus on your positive qualities. If you feel worthless, try volunteering and helping others out! Find something positive in a negative quality you can't change. If you don't like something about yourself, change it. If you can't, accept it! Regardless, you are a unique and beautiful person beyond your imagination :)
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September 30th, 2019 12:23pm
You can try to identify what is making it harder for you to accept yourself and work on it. It may be an internalized intolerant mentality, which is always irrational and can be fought by trying to rationalize it, asking yourself what is the real, logic reason why it's wrong to be like you. You'll find that there are none, and with time you'll internalize the thought. Or maybe you fear the judgement of society: in that case, self-acceptance is helped by the act of surrounding yourself with supportive people, part of the LGBT community or not. They'll help you see that you true value can't be diminished by anyone's judgement!
April 29th, 2015 12:09am
by loving who are and the skin you ware. you're beautiful (or handsome) and you are a wonderful person!
June 1st, 2015 2:46pm
Accepting yourself can be incredibly hard when you have been living with such negative thoughts for so long, or if you have grown to believe you are not worthwhile. It takes time but eventually you can unlearn the negative thoughts and begin to feel good again. One thing I have seen many people say is that faking your confidence eventually leads you you believing it. Tell yourself you look hot, 'damn I'm amazing', 'I am the best'. One day you will believe it. When you don't accept yourself it is so hard to find any positives in yourself. Try to find 1 a day, then build up to 3, so on so on. They can be simple things like yeah i am GREAT at making cups of tea, or yes i have the best taste in tv shows. Finding any positives helps more than you think. Another thing is to surround yourself with people who love you and accept you. People who make you feel worthless and crap do not deserve your time. It can be hard to cut people out of life, but sometimes it is for the best. Realise who loves you and stick with them. Accepting yourself is really hard. But remember YOU ARE WORTHWHILE, YOU ARE SPECIAL, YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED.
June 23rd, 2015 10:44am
you don't have to....because you already have. its not us that doesn't accept ourselfs ..its the people that around that has acceptance issues. when they don't like us it makes us conscious about us. it makes us feel that we have some defects in us, and we are not like them thus making us hard to accept ourselfs. for eg. we know that being straight is common and people like it. that's why we never heard any straight guy being not able to accept himself.
July 28th, 2015 4:39am
Ignore all judgemental and negativity from the people around you, don't let them have satisfaction. And always remember, from a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.
January 26th, 2016 2:15am
Always remember that you are who you are and you are only human. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone is different in their own ways. The difference is what makes us unique and makes life less boring. So always remember that you are who you are for a reason and a purpose and accept that about you.
February 26th, 2018 5:28am
Do things that I enjoy doing. Or pick up a new hobby and to remember that I don't need others approval and that not everyone in life is going to like you.
January 14th, 2020 4:08pm
Accepting yourself is one of the hardest things to do when you are going through difficult times in your life. This is the start of a new mindset. When you can accept yourself you are acknowledging your reality, admit to your mistakes etc. There are few better things you can do for yourself than giving up the fictional version of your life and learning to accept yourself, your life, and your reality. This is something I remind myself of everyday and this is how I am learning to not only accept myself and my reality, but love myself too.