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How can I tell if Im bisexual or lesbian?

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Last Updated: 01/31/2022 at 8:59am
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February 12th, 2018 5:51pm
Well, if you think you would be comfortable in an intimate relationship with guys as well as girls, then you may be bisexual. But if you feel comfortable with only girls, then you may be a lesbian. I don't think it matters who you have been with, but instead what's important is your feelings, if you have any attraction, and what you'd be comfortable with. It's up to you how you define your sexuality, since, you're the one who knows what it feels like best :)
February 13th, 2018 5:29am
Remember that there is no pressure to label yourself right away. Consider who you see yourself with, who you want to be in a relationship with, but most importantly don't pressure yourself.
February 15th, 2018 7:02pm
Sometimes it takes a while to figure out what you want. For me, it's like this. If you can see yourself with a male the same way as with a female then that could mean you are bisexual, If you can only see yourself with females then you could be lesbian.
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August 20th, 2018 7:25pm
It's all about listening to yourself, your desires, your fantasies, your feelings. Try to leave out any other thought - what other people would think, what you're "supposed" to be according to people, what you always thought you were, what happened in the past... And focus entirely on yourself and what you want here and now. The answer is already there, you just need to allow yourself to see it! And it seems to hard for you to do, just go on living your life and following your feelings and desires, and they'll lead you to your answer. After all, you can take all the time you can, you're not obliged to label yourself until you're totally sure!
January 31st, 2022 8:59am
That you are sexually attracted to both gender or the same gender. There´s a difference with being sexually and romantically attracted to someone, so keep that in mind. The biggest hint is that you have a crush on the person with same gender. Bisexuality is sometimes misunderstood, because people view bisexual men as a gay and bisexual woman as almost straight. You have to think that if only woman attract you both romantically and sexually or if men do the same to you as women. That is the key to tell if you are bisexual or lesbian. Take care :).