How do I find out what sexuality I am?
Last Updated: 12/01/2020 at 5:21am
Cynthia Stocker, LCSW,
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
My approach is direct, kind, honest & collaborative. My clients appreciate that I help them in a way that cuts through the jargon and gives clear explanations.
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It's about analyzing your own feelings, desires, needs, fantasies. It's important to do it very honestly, without the influence of what other people may think or say. Maybe you can imagine yourself with people of different genders and see how that makes you feel. Imagine that no one is there to judge, there's just you and the other person. The answer is already inside you, all you have to do is listen to yourself and find it.
Whoever you are attracted to is who you love, and I think that you dont have to label yourself as bi, gay, etc.
Sexuality, in common defination means sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards a person. So basically your sexuality is related to the people you are attracted to sexually, romantically or emotionally. There isn't much to discover your sexuality but observation. You can observe your behaviours and the people you feel attracted to. When people realise their sexuality, they often feel nervous because of the society. I hope any one of these can explain your sexuality. Heterosexual: Heterosexuality means that a person is attracted to people of the opposite gender. Like a girl likes a boy and a boy likes a girl. Attraction towards the opposite gender is heterosexuality. Homosexuality: Homosexuality means when a person is attracted to the people of their same gender. Like a girl likes a girl and a boy likes a boy. People attracted to same gender emotionally, romantically or sexually are homosexuals. Bisexuality: People who are attracted to both makes and females are bisexuals like a boy likes boys and girls. Pansexuality: Pansexuality is sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity. Pansexual people may refer to themselves as gender-blind, asserting that gender and sex are not determining factors in their romantic or sexual attraction to others. I hope my answer was helpful. :)
Some people are able to figure it out purely through self-reflection and some people have to physically experiment to be sure. Start by doing some soul searching, for a lack of a better term, and really look at the attractions you've experienced in the past and/or are experiencing now. If you still aren't sure, do some research about alternate sexualities and see if anything out there sounds like you. If that still doesn't help, then you may want to consider experimenting with other people, if you're comfortable with that.
Who are you interested into? Who attracts you? You do not have to find out what sexuality you are, what matters the most is how you feel. No one can say for sure that they won't be attracted by x or y, just wait for the person that makes you feel good :)
It's hard to say for sure what sexuality you are. It just something you need to find out by yourself, but look up the diffrent sexual orientations and read them through. It's okay to change your identity. Explore a bit and see which one feels like it's the best fit for you, if it doesnt feel right, dont feel pressured to stay there, look at the other options and find the best fitting out to how you feel. If it doesn't feel right, then it might not be right. Your body, and your feelings are completely your choice, it's up to you to decide what sexuality is right. Don't let anyone tell you what your sexuality is, it's yours to play around with.
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