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How do I fit into all these different labels for various sexualities?

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Last Updated: 07/28/2020 at 11:14pm
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February 3rd, 2015 5:20am
Sexuality isn't so much labels as it's more of a spectrum, a gray area if you will. So you can fall anywhere in between the already defined sexualities and that's perfectly okay. You are who you are and your sexuality is allowed to be whatever it is even if it's undefined.
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September 2nd, 2019 12:21pm
Your orientation is nothing more than what you feel you are. I know there are many labels and it can be confusing, but you don't have to overanalyze things: if you find something that feels like you, some label that you're comfortable using and you think applies well to you, that is who you are. Your label is not something already attached to you that you need to find out, it is something you decide. If you think a word describes you, even if other fitting or partly overlapping / more specific terms have been created, it is how you choose to descrive yourself that truly matters. Choose whatever makes you feel comfortable!
February 17th, 2015 12:40am
Why do labels even matter? Especially for various sexualities. You are who you are no matter what so just embrace it.
March 21st, 2015 2:17am
You don't need to fit in! You are unique, everyone is different. If we were all the same, what a boring world it would be. Embrace how amazing YOU as an individual are.
June 15th, 2015 2:18pm
Finding a label for yourself in not about you fitting under a label, it's about finding a label that fits you. If there is no label that fits you, then there is not label that fits you, and that's ok. Figuring out your sexuality is much more important than labeling it, and labeling can come later when you are confident in yourself.
June 30th, 2015 12:25am
You find the one(s) that best fits you and that you are most comfortable with. Look into each of the sexualities and romantic variations and find what best fits your personal views.
July 20th, 2015 4:26pm
Well I'm a bisexual and one thing I've learned is that sexuality is a whole spectrum! Some like me find comfort in having a label whilst others don't. I try not to sweat it, because we live in such a diverse and colourful world, but thats just me yeno :) But if you wanna research about labels theres plenty of resources out there, thank the heavens and if you need a starting point, I'd recommend this one for terms: :) Hope that helps!
November 17th, 2015 2:04am
Sexuality doesn't need to fit into a category, but if you feel the need to label yourself, it often takes time. Your sexuality is a part of you and learning about yourself takes time. Research and self-reflection can help you determine how you fit into any certain label. It took me a few years to decide that I don't need labels to define me, but that doesn't mean that I don't want to be part of a group of people that can determine who they are by who they like. Find yourself, regardless of sexuality, and it will come in time.
November 28th, 2015 6:55pm
The best way to know in which label of the various sexualities you fix is: 1) Accept that you are not completly heterosexual. 2) If you say you are bisexual, then you can't say that you are heterosexual again because you actually liked someone of your same gender. 3) Define yourself as person that does not matter about the gender of your partner. 4) After some time you will notice what you are.
January 11th, 2016 9:20am
Labels are created by people and societies. What matters is what you think about yourself and if you choose to label yourself or not. It does not matter what your sexual orientation or sexual preference, what matters is that you are a human being born without labels. It's how you live with yourself and others that really count.
January 25th, 2016 4:28pm
1. Find one that works best for you! Labels are meant for people, not people for labels. If you don't feel like you fit with a certain label, then don't use it. 2. Forget labels! They aren't really necessary. Just use whatever words you want to describe how you feel.
February 22nd, 2016 10:57am
First, you should remember that you don't always have to fit in. It's okay to be "outside of the box". But labels can be helpful sometimes, so if you want to find a label for yourself, you can read about different sexualities online and see if anything fits you. I'd also suggest talking to members of LGBTQ+ community - they can be very helpful. Also, think about who are you really attracted to. There are so many labels, you will for sure find something that fits you!
May 31st, 2016 7:30pm
The very nature of the labels of sexualities means they clash- for example a person may identify as bisexual, because they are attracted to both women and men, however they may also identify as demi sexual- they need to develop an emotional bond before taking a step further into a relationship.
July 4th, 2016 1:36pm
Try not to worry so much about labels. If you find something that you think fits, then great! But remember that nothing is set in stone, and you can always decide on a new label if your feelings change. The important thing is that you're happy and comfortable in your own skin.
August 23rd, 2016 7:07pm
Remember that it's okay not to label yourself. Labels are literally just words, don't be too pressured to actually label yourself. Some people feel better with labels some do without them. anyhow take your time to discover yourself and your sexuality. there s no rush.
December 26th, 2017 7:57pm
You can look around and see what you identify with; but also, feel free to just be as you are and do what you want to do :) Labels are ultimately just vague identifiers that can help us understand ourselves if we want to use them, but if they're more troublesome than helpful for you, then ditch 'em.
July 28th, 2020 11:14pm
I used to identify as bisexual, but as I became aware of the different genders on the spectrum, I realized I'm pansexual because there aren't any genders I'm not attracted to. I also identify as demisexual, because I'm attracted to people more after I get to know them, and not very much before that. sapiosexual means that I'm attracted to people based on their intelligence, and that's true of me too. I feel like put people put a lot of pressure on themselves to fit into one category or another, but there's nothing wrong with needing a few extra words to explain what you personally feel.