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How do I know if I am transgender?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2020 at 8:15pm
How do I know if I am transgender?
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SpiritOasis
June 19th, 2015 2:59am
To know you are transgender is to know that your biological and your emotional as well as psychological state are not compatible. Like oil and water, your body is not in tune with your mind and feelings.
Spn2001
December 18th, 2016 3:29am
This can be different for different people but I would say you never truly know. Transgender is an umbrella term and literally means that you do not identify with your birth given sex, gender in a spectrum and therefore you can be trans gender and not necessarily feel 100% like the opposite gender. Transgender is not just mtf and ftm. If you're not sure if you are or are not transgender, then you probably are maybe not identifying as the opposite gender but somewhere on the scale. maybe try dressing as the opposite gender for a month, have people use different pronouns for you and see how it makes you feel, experiment with gender rolls.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
September 30th, 2019 3:16pm
If you think of yourself as a person of the opposite gender, if you don't feel like your biological sex represents your gender and you feel as the opposite, you are trans. There can also be other feelings, like uneasiness with your own body perceived as "wrong", or discomfort with the use of certain pronouns referred to yourself. But who you feel you are is the basis of your identification. It can also help to get in contact with other trans people or with a therapist to start learning the trans reality and yourself better.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 10:15pm
If you were born a male (sexually), but you feel like a women you are transgender. If you were born a female (sexually), but feel like a man you are transgender. Things like sex changes, hormone treatments, or anything really is just part of it. You can do nothing about it and you will still be transgender.
ElliesLight
June 19th, 2015 12:58am
Being transgender only means that you do not obey the social construct of your given gender. It notably has nothing to do with your body (That would be transsexual). You are transgender when you decide that you do not feel fully comfortable with your birth given gender. Many transgender folk will alter their appearance non-surgically (ex: with chest binders or different hair styles), ask for different pronouns than what they were given, or - shocking to many - do nothing at all.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 7:21pm
I knew when I found that I didn't like having a male body or wear men clothes. I soon discover that I identified as a woman rather than as a man. It was hard to accept at times, but over time I accepted that I identified as a woman.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:31pm
If you are a boy, but you feel like you want to be a girl and you don't feel comfortable being a boy, you might want to start thinking about being transgender.
MoodyBloom
August 9th, 2015 3:36pm
Honestly, it's not something I can answer, that's something you will have to find out for yourself. I think it might help to listen to how you feel. You're not pressured to make a decision, and you are who you want to be.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 4:16pm
Well.... First know that the world is changing so you will be full excepted by the greater majority ! Second ... What makes you free most comfortable and know you should not make this decision quickly, and just choose what makes you feel happy !
kittenguts
January 16th, 2016 11:11am
You are transgender if you feel like you really are born with the wrong gender, eg. if you're very uncomfortable when someone calls you by the pronouns assigned to you at birth. Please note that you are not transgender if you 'just kinda feel like being the opposite gender wouldn't be as bad', neither are you trans if you, as a girl for example, don't really like dressing and acting all feminine.
Crest
January 14th, 2016 3:25am
Do you feel at home inside of yourself? The answer should lead you somewhere. (I don't need 100 characters for this.)
33kirstiechu33
January 10th, 2016 7:49pm
You will feel like a (Insert different gender here) born in the wrong body. You can still like things designed for your sex.
RyanML
November 6th, 2020 8:15pm
The best advice I have got is to experiment. Don't experiment in your head or in private because even though it's safe, your mind is a very powerful tool. Try and find supportive friends or family and test out names and pronouns, and try living as your identified gender (even if you're still questioning). Even if you come out to friends or family and you realize this isn't right it's a lot easier to tell them "I don't feel like x, but I feel more like y". It's a lot easier to verbally communicate and experiment rather than to medically experiment, and it's easily reversible. You don't have to know as a child, or know within a few months. Take your time with things and experiment. No one can tell you what you are or what you are not. Start by socially transitioning, see how it feels, and go from there. I recommend everyone who's questioning to always start by socially transitioning because you don't want to do any sort of medical transitioning as it's a lot harder to reverse if you are not sure.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 12:40am
ransgender people feel that the gender to which they were born, or assigned at birth, does not fit them. Transgender people include people born female who identify as male (female-to-male) and people born male who identify as female (male-to-female).
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:20am
I am all sexes and no sexes. I do not require a body to love.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
CaseyC
January 9th, 2016 2:24pm
Being transgender is defined as having a sense of one's gender not coinciding with one's sex assigned at birth. Therefore, if you don't believe you are 100% your sex assigned at birth, you are, in one form or another, transgender.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2018 1:40pm
just listen to yourself and focus on what your heart wants. you may be experiencing some gender dysphoria so if you feel like you assigned gender parts (brest,genitals, hips muscles etc) dont fit what your brain is telling you what should be there
Plank0fWood
January 8th, 2016 12:03am
I have known for quite some time actually. Its hard at first because you'll try to convince yourself otherwise, but eventually, it hits you, you cant hide it. You'll try to make deals with yourself "If I could just cut my hair, or wear certain clothes." Its easy to realize that if you're constantly jealous of kids around you for being able to wear what they want to, maybe you should look into getting help about it.
GentleSoul13
January 7th, 2016 9:09pm
Having the feeling that you are a male living inside a woman's body, or a woman living inside a males body, is a very normal feeling, but could also mean that you are possibly transgender. Take your time to be open with it, but also be open with yourself about how you are feeling.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:36pm
A Transgender person is typically described as a man born in a woman's body, or a woman born in man's body. This means that if you feel that you're a woman, but you're biologically a man (and vice versa) you might identify as transgender. Just know that you don't have to label yourself at all if you don't want to. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone, just be happy in yourself.
tatertott
January 2nd, 2016 4:21pm
Generally people who are transgender (like myself) experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of being disassociated with your body and often you feel like you want to be more feminine or masculine but It really depends on you.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 9:43pm
I think you'll know if you're transgender when the time comes. If you always have a feeling that you feel out of place, or think you were meant to be the opposite gender, that's a pretty good starting point.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 5:19am
I knew 100% when puberty set in, but I had always felt a disconnect between my biological sex and my gender. It's different for everyone so it may take some time, but if you feel like you were "born in the wrong body" than you may be transgender. The term "transgender" is an umbrella term, meaning it's a group of people from biological males who identify as female, biological females who identify as male, biological males or females who identify and as neither, both, or even an entirely unique gender. It just depends on who you are and how good you are a recognizing red flags.
MusicalVision
August 16th, 2015 8:20pm
Well, that question can be answered only by you. Do you feel like being transgender? Are you comfortable being one? Are you questioning your gender identity? Try to explore yourself and you'd know the answer. Good luck sweetie
Jenniferroseh98
August 16th, 2015 1:36pm
Research what it means to be Transgender and then if you find you are seek medical advice for the transitioning stage.
Maxwallride
August 16th, 2015 11:35am
Discovering that you are transgender can be a very confusing and challenging time. Someone that is transgender will feel like their gender does not match the body that they were born into. For example, if a transgender person was assigned female at birth, they will feel like they are not a female and instead are male, or nonbinary. They may feel that what they see in the mirror does not match who they really are on the inside and might feel very distressed over this. They may be uncomfortable being called by their birth name and when people use she/her/hers pronouns when referring to them. They may want to transition towards being the gender they feel they really are. This means that they may take steps towards changing their appearance, name, pronouns, and other aspects of their life. A female who feels like they are male may feel a lot better by binding their chest, adopting a male or gender neutral name, and asking people to refer to them using he/him/his pronouns. If someone has a feeling they may be transgender, it may be helpful for them to talk to a healthcare professional who works with transgender people, and read about the experiences of others. It could also be beneficial to experiment identifying with the gender they believe they are.
Lior
August 15th, 2015 7:33pm
Well you can try to ask yourself: Do you feel your body isn't the right for you? Do you identify with the opposite gender than the one was given to you at birth? Although these are two big questions not easy to answer, the thinking about them is rather necessary to understand.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 2:44am
You are who you are. No oncan tell you otherwise. You just know seep inside. Like I knewI was transgender because I just did. Explore options ask professionals and you will know.
PeacefulSolutions
August 14th, 2015 2:30am
it's more of a personal journey. first, come to terms with who you want to be and take time to just think, away from all distractions
KaringKatniss
August 13th, 2015 9:11pm
There is no test or questionnaire for this type of thing. It is just like your sexuality it's something you just have to listen to your intuition. It is very different for everyone. Some people know at childhood others don't know until middle age.