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Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 1:21pm
It depends on how you feel. Are you sure you belong to your gender? Do you feel happy? Are you better off being another gender?
While there is no foolproof way to know if you are transgender, there are some pointers. if you feel like you were born in the wrong body, feel uncomfortable being addressed by your sex, or basically just feel like your gender and sex don't match up, you might be transgender. You can talk about this to other people who are going through/have gone through the same, they will be able to answer any questions you may have.
If you find a same sex person attractive and you do almost everything as an opposite gender then you might be a transgender. But to be sure do talk to someone that can help you to clearly identify whether you are or not a transgender.
you usually know just by heart. You feel inside you aren't who you are on the outside. Its not something u figure out really its something you know in your own heart.
I'll describe how I found out I am transgender:
When I first heard about transgender, I somehow started to identify with the concept of not being female. (My sex assigned at birth is female, by the way) I started to explore myself, observing my reactions when I was refered to as a girl or female creature in general and realized I hated it when people called me "girl" or "woman" or anything like that. After a long process of thinking, comparing my feelings with already existing gender identities, I finally decided to call my self 'agender', which means the lack of gender.
I hope this was more or less helpful. If you have any questions, I'd love to help you finding out your gender. Feel free to message me and I'll reply as soon as possible!
Well most transgender people feel that they dont belong in the body they have. Its like they got the wrong body.
Generally people who are transgender (like myself) experience gender dysphoria, the feeling of being disassociated with your body and often you feel like you want to be more feminine or masculine but It really depends on you.
Having the feeling that you are a male living inside a woman's body, or a woman living inside a males body, is a very normal feeling, but could also mean that you are possibly transgender. Take your time to be open with it, but also be open with yourself about how you are feeling.
I have known for quite some time actually. Its hard at first because you'll try to convince yourself otherwise, but eventually, it hits you, you cant hide it. You'll try to make deals with yourself "If I could just cut my hair, or wear certain clothes." Its easy to realize that if you're constantly jealous of kids around you for being able to wear what they want to, maybe you should look into getting help about it.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2018 1:40pm
just listen to yourself and focus on what your heart wants. you may be experiencing some gender dysphoria so if you feel like you assigned gender parts (brest,genitals, hips muscles etc) dont fit what your brain is telling you what should be there
Being transgender is defined as having a sense of one's gender not coinciding with one's sex assigned at birth. Therefore, if you don't believe you are 100% your sex assigned at birth, you are, in one form or another, transgender.
You will feel like a (Insert different gender here) born in the wrong body. You can still like things designed for your sex.
Do you feel at home inside of yourself? The answer should lead you somewhere. (I don't need 100 characters for this.)
You are transgender if you feel like you really are born with the wrong gender, eg. if you're very uncomfortable when someone calls you by the pronouns assigned to you at birth.
Please note that you are not transgender if you 'just kinda feel like being the opposite gender wouldn't be as bad', neither are you trans if you, as a girl for example, don't really like dressing and acting all feminine.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 4:16pm
Well.... First know that the world is changing so you will be full excepted by the greater majority ! Second ... What makes you free most comfortable and know you should not make this decision quickly, and just choose what makes you feel happy !
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:31pm
If you are a boy, but you feel like you want to be a girl and you don't feel comfortable being a boy, you might want to start thinking about being transgender.
You might feel as though your skin just isn't right. Or you were raised playing the wrong sports or wearing the wrong clothes. Maybe you wish you did/didn't have the sexual parts of the other sex. Maybe you picture yourself growing old as the opposite sex, or even finding a mate as the opposite sex. There are many thoughts that go into being transgender. At the end of the day you are the only one who knows how you feel. It could be helpful to meet with a specialist and get the conversation going so that they can help you decide what your next step it. Because when it comes down to it, gender is often fluid. Just because you sometimes feel more masculine/fem' does not always mean you are trans.
This is a hard question, even for me, a fellow transgender. I guess only you can know if you're transgender or not. Try listening to what your mind tells you about your body. If you need alternatives, try talking to a therapist if you see one or talk to a friend that is a part of the lgbt community.
Well, that's different from every trans. The best way to know is to feel it. If you feel like you are than you are trans.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 7:17pm
Hey,, I’m 14 yers old and I think I might be trans,, but I’m not sure and I have no one to talk to so I was kinda hoping you would help me :)
Being transgender is when you don't identify with the same gender that you were assigned with when you were born, for example: you are born female and you feel like you don't identify or you don't feel comfortable with being a female, and you want to be a boy or anything else, vice versa. If you feel that way, well I guess that you are trans. (And just a reminder, being transgender isn't a choice, it's who you are)!
Only you can know for sure, and I think that there will come a time when you know deep down in your heart and soul. Pursue what you are passionate about and interested in. Find local groups that meet and can support you. Be uniquely you and you will find your tribe. Whatever the case, do not be afraid to explore these feelings...and never forget that there is an army of people here to support you.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2017 12:19am
Being transgender is a very sensitive thing to think about and judge. The only person who can truly say you are transgender is yourself. Take time to think on it. Try asking friends to call you by certain things to get a feel for it and to help your decision for if that is what you want/if that is what feels right. Not everyone has the same story about know thing they're trans.
Figuring out your gender identity is a very personal experience, so there's no one surefire way to know if you're transgender. For me, realizing that I'm transgender was a process, but there were some things that helped. Going on YouTube and listening to other trans people's experiences to see how much I related to them definitely helped, as did being able to find a few people who would let me experiment with my name, pronouns, and gender presentation around them to find what felt right, But like I said before, it's a very personal journey and something everyone needs to figure out for themselves
There's a very simple way to tell. Imagine if there is a pill. If you take the pill, it can automatically change you body into that of your preferred gender with no repercussions. But no matter what you will never be able to change back to the sex you were beforehand. Would you take the pill?
For myself, the answer was an immediate yes. That's how I knew, there wasn't any doubt in my mind that I would take the pill.
Do you feel comfortable with you body? How about the pronouns people use to refer to you? Does it bother you?
If it's something you are questioning, the there's a good possibility you don't think of yourself as cisgender. It is good to know about other people's stories. Read about people who are transitioning and see if you can relate to any of them.
It is always good to know you are not alone and that questioning is a big part of evolving as a human being.
Have you ever felt wrong in your body? Or envied what the opposite gender had - mentally or physically? Childhood experiences, and curiosity could be simple triggers to accessing if you want to have the gender change. There are a lot of factors to consider when and if you truly are sure of feeling and being transgender. Social roles are also something you can base these feelings on partically. Do you fedl erong in your everyday societal roles or mental thoughts? Consider also how you feel with pronouns and switching to roles that are traditionally reserced for rhe opposite gender. Maybe experimenting with these conditions and factors, could lead you to the decision. The 7 cups community and I are available for this.
Being transgender is rare and special. If you have not yet gone through puberty or are experiencing puberty, it could be normal discomfort with your changing shape and appearance or emotional changes caused by hormone fluctuation. If you are post-puberty, and you feel discomfort with your gender, think about why and what causes that discomfort.
There are so many ways to express yourself or align your behavior with you desired gender expression. You may not feel you match a specific definition of gender, but it is important to explore what makes you feel most comfortable.
If you feel discomfort and need advice, seek expert help and consult a Gender Therapist to talk you through your experience, or find a community online that supports LGBTQA+ individuals.
You don't necessarily know but it's how you feel towards yourself. You decide that you're going to make a change in your life that will hopefully make a good impact. Through your journey called life you figure out your puzzle of a brain piece by piece and find your true identity.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 5:17am
You feel like you were meant to be the opposite gender. You lean towards more masculine things if you're a female and you lean towards more feminine things if you're a male.
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