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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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June 4th, 2015 4:47pm
Think of your sexuality as a rainbow. Girls are blue, boys are red. Some people only like red, some people only like blue, others are the shade of purple right in between. However, it's totally okay to be pink, or dark purple, or violet or indigo! Any shade of purple, no matter if it's closer to red or blue, lies within the bisexuality definition if you so choose to identify as such.
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March 15th, 2015 9:39pm
Yes! It doesn't have to be 50/50. If you are attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual. It is also okay to be attracted in different intensities to different sexes, or be attracted sexually to both, but only want to be with one romantically.
June 7th, 2015 2:14am
Yes! I am bisexual, and yet I have a preference to males. However, at the same time, I am very in love with my current girlfriend. Bisexuality is like clothing sizes. In Forever 21, a size extra large may be a size small at Sears. Bisexuality simply means you are attracted to both males and females, it does not say you have to be attracted to both equally.
July 31st, 2016 2:24pm
If you're attracted to both girls and boys in a romantic or sexual way you're bisexual. You're still a valid bisexual person if you have a preference for one of the two, but still like both :)
August 7th, 2016 7:15pm
You may not know for some time, but there's no need to rush into labeling yourself if you're not sure. If you experience attraction to both males and females, that probably means you're bisexual, but it's totally okay to be unsure for a while, or even forever.
April 5th, 2015 12:00am
Yes... Being bisexual is not about liking both genders in the same way. Its just about being attracted to both, doesnt matter how much! Dont worry.
May 11th, 2015 2:28pm
You are bisexual as long as that is how you identify yourself. You don't have to fill an amount of attraction to get to call yourself that. Sexuality and it's expressions is all about finding the one that makes you comfortable, even if its none at all :)
September 29th, 2016 3:38am
To put it simply, if you are attracted (sexually, romantically, or both) to both men and women, you are most likely bisexual. Many people seem to think the attraction to each sex must be equal, but in actuality you can be 99% attracted to females and 1% attracted to males and still identify as bisexual, as long as you are positive that the attraction really does exist to each sex.
June 11th, 2015 8:03pm
Yes! Speaking from experience, it is perfectly normal to be bisexual and to have a preference. In fact, sometimes it feels like my bisexuality will sort of 'shift' from time to time, as I grow, learn, and experience new things. The truth is, sexuality is rarely a clean-cut 50/50 split. It's a complex part of who we are, and just as we grow as people so does our sexuality. :)
January 17th, 2018 4:23pm
This is sort of a hard question. And never think that you need to have labels to define yourself! BUT, should you decide that you do and want to figure out your sexual orientation it can be tricky. It's perfectly normal to define yourself as straight, but still be able to find other genders attractive. It's okay to have crushes and decide later that you aren't as attracted as you thought. I realized that I was bisexual in high school! And it's never been a big deal to me... I just realized that I wanted my crushes on girls to be something more. Whether you like boys or girls or femininity or masculinity or people who showcase both, etc. etc. etc. its perfectly ok. Feel free to message me if anyone wants to talk about this particular subject!
July 20th, 2016 9:56am
That's something you have to figure out for yourself. I'm bisexual and I was really.confused for a long time. Just ask yourself: "Would I be okay spending.the rest of my life with a man/female?" or "Does the idea of having sex with either gender appeal to me or freak me out?" And it's okay to experiment! Don't think you're the only one who is going through this, message me!
January 14th, 2015 7:02am
Of course, if you like the both you are really bissexual and no matter your preferences or anything
October 8th, 2016 5:58am
If you find that you are romantically interested in both genders you are probably bisexual. Of course a common misconception is that bisexuals are equally attracted to either gender. The reality is that a bisexual person may be attracted to the opposite sex most of the time but may have an occasional interest in a particular person of the same sex or the opposite might also be true.
July 20th, 2018 2:54am
Sometimes it is hard to know your sexuality. I first thought I was bisexual because I felt things for girls that I also felt for men but I later realized that I am not bisexual. Exploring your sexuality is perfectly ok.
April 9th, 2015 2:27am
Of course! If you're attracted to people of two or more genders (and you're not pansexual) you're bisexual, no matter your preference. Look at it this way: straight girls can have preferences for guys that have slim features or long hair. Lesbians can have preferences for girls that look a bit masculine We don't consider them any less than straight or any less lesbian. Your sexuality if defined by you and you alone. Preferences are just things you like a little better.
June 14th, 2015 2:27pm
Of course! Bisexual only means that you're attracted to both sexes, but you can have preference.
December 28th, 2015 9:36pm
You could be. Bisexual doesn't equal "I prefer both sexes equally", it just means that your sexual preference is based on personality, feelings, and companionship rather than sexual orientation. There are many bisexual people that tend to prefer one sex over the other, but that's kind of what bisexuality is. It means you are attracted to PEOPLE not gender.
July 6th, 2016 2:33pm
Have you ever looked at someone of the same sex and thought what it would be like to curl up in their arms? You might be bisexual.
July 28th, 2016 5:00pm
You know when you think about a person of one and you feel like you would enjoy a romantic or sexual relationship with them. You know when you think about a person of another gender and you feel like you would enjoy a romantic or sexual relationship with them. If you prefer one gender over the other, you can still identify as bisexual. If you feel attracted to different genders in different ways, you can still identify as bisexual.
May 27th, 2015 8:58pm
Yes! Bisexual means attraction to both sexes (male and female) and all genders. Some bisexual people prefer women over men and others prefer men over women. Other bisexuals can have an equal attraction towards men and women. People's attraction can be 20/80, 10/90, 40/60, etc. What makes someone bisexual is their attraction towards both sexes (and all genders), not their amount of attraction.
May 27th, 2015 11:34pm
No, if you feel that you have a preference for females, it doesn't mean you're lesbian, and if you have a preference for males it doesn't mean you're straight and vice versa. Some people just have a certain preference, like me, I'm bisexual, but I prefer females. I think girls are really fun to be around, but I also think that males are fun as well.
June 2nd, 2018 11:28am
If you are attracted to both men and woman in a romantic way, a sexual way or both, you are most probably bisexual. You can be attracted to men and females in any percentage, for example, you could be attracted to a man by 60% and a woman by 40%, but you may still identify yourself as bisexual.
June 7th, 2015 3:51pm
Yes :) you can have a preference and be bisexual. The same goes for pan or poly. If you feel like you are bisexual then you are.
July 13th, 2015 2:40pm
Bisexual aren't binary. Contrary to popular belief a person might like one gender more than the other. Even though they do not mind the whatever gender is the said partner.
February 29th, 2016 8:12am
Yes, of course! As long as you are attracted to two gender, you are bisexual, even if you have a preference!
July 16th, 2016 10:49pm
I would say that it is a feeling. Do you notice that you are interested in boys, girls? Are you very comfortable with your sexuality? How do you behave in your day to day life with friends? It might be important to perhaps observe these things as a first step into understanding what you like and don't like. It might take some time for your to understand your definitive needs but its perfectly healthy and natural to consider your sexuality and perhaps with more research, experimenting and trying new things will help you to know for sure. The fact that you are questioning this might be an indication that you are feeling things that you are not sure of yet. Take your time, enjoy and explore what makes you happy...
July 13th, 2015 7:39am
Yes, i'm bisexual and i also have a preference but like both and date both although people like to tell me i'm not, don't listen to them you are what you are.
August 18th, 2015 12:35am
It's down to whether you consider yourself to be bisexual or not, It's not uncommon for bisexual people to have a preference.
April 12th, 2016 5:38am
Depending on your preference. Labels are just labels so that people can make a sense to things. Whatever choice u make is you sexual life is fine as long as u are happy with the choice u have made.
April 12th, 2016 6:49pm
It doesn't have to be completely half and half, so yes, you are really bisexual.