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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 10:42am
I've always had feeling towards both deep down I just never acted in it until a while back. If you have ever thought "I'd tap that" of both male and female then your BISEXUAL 💞
Anonymous
July 8th, 2016 6:09pm
Figuring out that you are bisexual is very much a personal journey that is different for everyone. Being open to the idea and testing it out in your head to see how it feels helps. Also, being aware of emotions and feeling towords different genders is a good idea.
Owen27
July 15th, 2016 10:30pm
Strong, intimate feelings towards both genders is one of the most obvious signs of being bisexual. During teenage years, hormones can be everywhere and people can get confused. If you're unsure on if you're bisexual or not remember that they're many sexualities and you have no obligation to label yourself as anything you're unsure of.
adoredIcicle46
July 29th, 2016 9:16pm
Simple. If you are attracted to men and a women both at the same time but not in the same relationship you are bisexual.
dreamWaterfall53
July 31st, 2016 11:24am
a friend of mine found out she was bisexual by actually kissing a girl and she has kissed a guy before and she liked kissing both
Supergirl94
August 10th, 2016 5:44am
If you find both women and men attractive and have desires to be with them sexually and emotionally.
listenercat5678
August 25th, 2016 7:36pm
Only you can know if you are bisexual. But most people know when they begin to have feelings for both sexes.
usefulDreamer13
August 28th, 2016 4:49am
I figured out I was bisexual because I was able to see myself ending up with a woman or a man. It may be different for everyone to find out how they know what their sexuality is.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:09pm
if you start liking some things related to LGBT and felt confused but happy on that stage, you know you are a happy bi :)
snowyylola
September 9th, 2016 3:13pm
I came out of the closet in January this year as a lesbian, before that I thought I was bisexual. The reason I thought I was bisexual was because I had been with guys before, and I honestly can't remember when my interest in girls started. I think I just finally allowed myself to be open to it all off a sudden, it is quite hard to explain. However, now that I have a lot of time to think, spoken to some people and just focus on myself I realised that even though I was with guys before, even had a crush on a guy in 9th grade that I just knew. It took a while to "just know" that I was gay but if you feel attracted to both genders then that is how you feel. It is also okay to say you are bisexual and if this changes in the future then it will. I have a friend that had never questioned her sexuality (as far as I know) until she saw this girl and was just blown away by how beautiful she was and developed a crush on her, and that is how she knew. I guess if you are questioning your sexuality it is good to experiment? It is easier said than done but just seeing how you feel about the idea of dating/being attracted to the other sex can help a lot when it comes to self-discovery. Talking to someone about these feelings can also be helpful just to speculate and understand better. I would advise speaking to someone that has experienced questioning their sexuality, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 4:52pm
In my experience, I had to allow myself to acknowledge that I wasn't attracted to just one gender before I really knew that I wasn't heterosexual or homosexual. I had to be honest with myself and realize that "bisexual" or "pansexual" are the right words for me.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2017 10:09pm
I'm bisexual. I'm 43 years of age and as far as I can remember I have been romantically and sexually attracted to both genders. I haven't straightened out and I haven't turned fully gay. I would argue that if you have experienced same and opposite sex attractions for a certain length of time and one or other hasn't revealed itself fully as the way you feel then you might be bisexual. I hope that helps.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 1st, 2017 8:54pm
It all depends on who you are attracted to. If you're not sure, focus on your reactions, on both emotional and physical perspective, when you look at someone you find really beautiful. If you feel like you desire both men and women - not just as "both are beautiful" but as "I feel desire for both men and women" - then you are bisexual. Remember you don't have to label yourself immediately, take you time, explore your desires and fantasies without any prejudice. And don't worry, there's no nothing wrong in any secual orientation, whatever it is
Anonymous
July 15th, 2017 8:41pm
I believe it is when we have feelings, both biologically and mentally, for both sexes. It doesn't mean that you have to find every girl or every guy attractive or act on these feelings for your feelings to be real.
niamh333
August 13th, 2017 7:26pm
Well a good sign that you might be bisexual is if you are feeling sexual attraction towards males and females. Please note that this is different from romantic attraction. Labels can be helpful to aid us in figuring our feelings out but they are not the most important thing so don't worry if you're not sure. Here is a comprehensive list of attractions and orientations if you're interested about learning more :) https://goo.gl/xX6JXD
Anonymous
September 2nd, 2017 8:57pm
Bisexual, by definition, is an attraction to two genders. This is usually make and female. If you find yourself sexually attracted to both then you could be bisexual. If you find yourself emotionally attracted to both but only sexually to one you may be biromantic. Research can help you better identify your feelings.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2017 8:03pm
Bisexual, like most queer terms is ultimately about what labels you feel empowered by. Look up definitions, listen to how bi people explain their sexuality, and determine if you feel the term is accurate and/or helpful for you. You can always change your mind about the terms you use to define your sexuality if you later figure out the one you're using doesn't quite fit as you'd like.
smallstrawberry12
October 12th, 2017 2:05pm
Well, I'm a female bisexual, and it took me awhile to realize it. I think I finally realized it when I went on a school trip and there was a pride parade that weekend (it was June). I wanted to do my ace friend's makeup as the flag, and I wanted mine as the bi flag. That was when they actually asked if I was bi, and I realized that I would be okay with dating either gender. I think it just takes time to realize that you would want to be with either gender, and it can come at a different point in your life for everyone. If it's something you're really considering though, it can be helpful to just sit and think about it for while until you figure it out.
beamingsunshine
November 3rd, 2017 6:12am
Ask yourself: have I been physically attracted, and or/ romantically interested in someone of the same gender? If you hadn’t, could you simply envision yourself dating someone of the same gender? And could you envision marrying this person, if you’re into that sort of thing? Those are two questions which can help you during your journey to discovery your sexuality.
Scorpio71
November 7th, 2017 12:14am
I’m trying to figure this one out myself
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 10:04pm
You begin to experience feelings towards both male and female. You don't need to love the way they look, but you can love them for who they are as a person.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2018 1:08pm
I felt my bisexuality first when I realised almost all my celeb crushes are women and hence started my exploration phase. I became more aware of how girls AND guys looked and how they made me feel. Me being a tomboy also keyed in as a factor. For now, I don't label myself as bisexual, though there have been a few girls AND guys I wanted to kiss. (P.S. a trick - to figure out if your infatuation is only admiration or you DO have feelings, answer this simple question - do you want to be like that person or do you want to have sex with that person? )
WildZeus
February 22nd, 2018 10:36am
Determining your sexuality can be highly confusing. Teenagers often feel a lot of pressure to choose to define themselves as being heterosexual or homosexual. You might feel that you do not fit either of these categories, and you may notice that you are 'turned on' and have sexual feelings about people of your own gender and another gender. These feelings may indicate you will identify as bisexual. Keep in mind, however, that you do not have to prove you are bisexual. There is no test for bisexuality. A bisexual person may have one committed relationship that lasts for decades. Many bisexual people have no sexual relationships or have these relationships with people of only one gender; yet, they still consider themselves bisexual. Some people have relationships with people of their own and of another gender, yet do not identify as bisexual. It all comes down to what makes you feel most comfortable and what you perceive yourself to be. Don't worry about not knowing for sure. Sexuality develops over time, and you should feel no pressure to identify in any particular way.
JustKeepSwimming28
April 21st, 2018 7:58pm
Honestly when it comes to things as personal as your sexuality, sometimes there is no right or wrong answer. Sexuality is a spectrum and however you feel is valid. If you think you might be bisexual, then maybe you are! If you feel comfortable with that label, then use it, however you also don’t have to label yourself as anything if you don’t want to.
sunnyForest44
April 27th, 2018 11:54pm
When you're bisexual you may tend to have some thoughts about people of the same gender. However, when you're bisexual you might have thoughts of the opposite gender too. So basically, being bisexual means you are attracted to people of both sexes.
softPoetry23
May 18th, 2018 11:11am
I'd personally describe it as a romantic/ sexual attraction towards both males and females (or to 2 different genders). So if you feel or have felt intense feelings that go beyond the ' friendship ' feeling towards both a male and a female, then I'd say that's a pretty good indicator. :)
Anonymous
June 1st, 2018 11:54pm
It's different for everyone. I didn't realize I was bisexual until one of my best friends was in a prom dress. I was nervous and I kept turning red. There were other signs before that but I never really noticed.
neverendingApple26
October 13th, 2018 5:51pm
You know because you are attracted to both girls and guys at the same time. You should pay attention to your sexual interests to understand if you are interested in both guys and girls. Remember to not deny if you are bisexual; it is important to accept yourself and love yourself no matter what! If you'd like to talk about it, just send me a message anytime! I'd be more than happy to help you understand how you are feeling about your sexual orientation. Also, you can know if you are bisexual by thinking about cuddling with a girl and then cuddling with a guy. Did you like thinking about both? Did it make you feel happy?
Talulah22
April 19th, 2015 12:14pm
Yes, you are. If you feel like you are bisexual, you are. Simple as that. A lot of people have a (slight) preference, there's nothing wrong with that.
SaelbenNoa
June 5th, 2015 10:52pm
I recommend reading a bit about the Kinsey scale, there are many different types of bisexual people... Some are more homo, others more heterosexual.