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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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September 14th, 2015 12:48am
you are bisexual even if you have a preference it means that you can be attracted to three or more genders.
December 28th, 2015 3:13am
Of course you're bisexual even if you have a preference. Bisexuality means that you are attracted to females and males. It does not have to be 50/50. It's perfectly okay to have a preference!
February 8th, 2016 12:55am
Your bisexual if you love both girls and women. So if u like both, even if u may have slight preference, you're bisexual, but if its a huge preference you may not be bisexual, your sexuality would be where your preference is.
March 14th, 2016 3:43am
Yes. Every person have preferences in their sexualities
June 14th, 2016 7:09pm
Of course. Bisexuality is not defined by equally liking both genders. If you feel that you are bisexual because you have had feelings for both genders but have a preference, you are totally valid. Seriously.
June 18th, 2016 4:15am
Of course. All bisexuality really means, at least to me, is that you some kind of attraction to both sexes. It doesn't have to be an equal attraction.
June 19th, 2016 3:40am
It doesn't matter if you have a preference, if you are attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual.
June 29th, 2016 11:19am
Questions about sexuality are always hard. I have had my own experience of bisexuality but my situation and yours may be very different. I do know that what kind of sex we prefer (gay, bi, str8, ect.), who we want to be in a romantic relationship with and what our internal fantasy life is can be very different things. So whether you are bisexual depends on where you fall on all three of those categories. So a person can be attracted only to males, want to be in a romantic relationship with only women and have fantasies of both sexes. And all of those things can put them in different categories. It's okay to be who you are right here and right now. It's okay to say, "right now I am attracted to _______" or "I identify as _________ right now." Take some time to examine what you feel about each possible partner. Get some support like reaching out here or with a professional counselor. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time. I wish you peace. ~J
June 29th, 2016 6:15pm
It's when you are romantically attracted to both men and women. It's a normal way of being.
June 30th, 2016 12:58am
Contrary to popular belief, being curious about having a sexual experience with someone of your own gender or even trying it once or twice out of curiosity does NOT make you bisexual. Enjoying the experience enough to want to make a lifestyle of it may mean you are bisexual. If so, embrace yourself for being who you are and surround yourself with people who will be accepting and supportive!
June 30th, 2016 4:30pm
You know if you are bisexual, if you have sexual thoughts about both men and women. Nothing wrong with thoughts, but if you want to pursue your thoughts with both sexes then you are bixsexual.
July 6th, 2016 5:33am
Feeling attraction to more than one gender means that you could identify as bisexual. (Or pansexual!)
July 8th, 2016 2:25am
You know when no matter what gender, you have an attraction to them. You think a man and a woman are equal, and one day you can date either gender. You do not favor one over the other, if you do you may just be lonely.
July 8th, 2016 1:24pm
If you think you can have a love relationship and have physical intimacy with the other sex and the same sex as you, maybe you are bisexual. Don't forget that homosexuality or bisexuality is not simply a matter of physical sexual preferences. A relationship is needed to be bisexual, it's not just physical. If it is, it's more a kink or a sexual preference than being bisexual.
July 9th, 2016 7:34pm
People think there is only three sexual orientation. Heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual. But in truth it's much more complicate than that. I think that every single person has a different sexual orientation. So how do you know if you're bi? Did you fall in love with both gender? Then, yes you probably are. If not... time will tell! But most heterosexual I know never asked themselves this question, so it may be a clue.
July 12th, 2016 5:27am
If you have any level of attraction to 2 or more genders. Even if you like boys 90% of the time and girls 10%, you can say you're bisexual and be right.
July 13th, 2016 5:02am
First off, let me say it is completely okay to be bisexual. You can change your sexuality any day. Just take your time. You don't have to rush your sexuality. Anyways, if you think you like a girl, do you feel the same with them when you like a boy? Are you attracted to them? If this is a yes, you could be bisexual. You could try dating a girl if that helps.
July 14th, 2016 10:41pm
You are bisexual if you experience physical and emotion attraction to people who are the same, and the opposite gender as yourself. Degrees of bisexuality can vary, so you may have feelings for either gender more than the other at given times. If you don't have feelings exclusively for one gender of the other, then you may be bisexual.
July 15th, 2016 10:30pm
You are bisexual and if you like girls and boys both sexually and romantically :) hope this helps!
July 29th, 2016 11:14pm
If you're sexually/romantically attracted to both men and women, then you qualify for the parameters of bisexual.
July 30th, 2016 4:55am
You don't have to put labels on your sexuality, but if you are attracted to both male and female then you are more than likely bisexual. Also, you don't have to have any experience with any of the genders to know that. Either way it's ok. You are who you are, you like what you like and we are only human at the end of the day.
August 3rd, 2016 10:09am
you know this if you find yourself attracted to a girl and a boy, maybe not at the same time but maybe eventually
August 6th, 2016 9:51pm
You'd feel a natural attraction towards males and females and would consider being with either gender or, you wouldn't care whether you got a girlfriend or boyfriend
August 7th, 2016 1:27am
Human sexuality is an odd journey and a bit of roller coaster. Bisexuality is defined as being attracted to two genders, so a bisexual person could be attracted to males and females, females and enbies (someone who identifies as nonbinary), or males and enbies. Defining who you are attracted to as a bisexual is all up to you, defining what your sexuality is is also all up to you and no one else can truly say what your sexuality is or isn't.
August 10th, 2016 1:27pm
From my experience and me being bisexual myself, it's about feeling an automatic attraction to both genders; male or female.
August 10th, 2016 7:38pm
If you find both genders physically attractive then you might be bisexual. So if your a female and you find not only men physically attractive but women as well...Then you are bisexual. Bisexual means that you are physically or sexually attracted to both sexes.
August 11th, 2016 3:28am
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation wherein an individual is attracted to members of more than one gender. Although the term is outdated (bi implying there are only two genders whereas that simply is not the case), many bisexuals are sexually attracted to both men and women. It does not necessarily mean that that attraction is equal for men and women, one could be more attracted to men than women, or vice versa, and still be considered bisexual. The best way to know if you, yourself, are bisexual is to ask yourself who you visualize sexually. Is it men? Is it women? Or is it some combination of both?
August 12th, 2016 7:07pm
If you seem both genders attractive, probably you are bisexual. In some ways, I believe that everyone has a little bit bisexuality inside them :)
August 12th, 2016 9:49pm
You will have feelings for both males and females. You may notice yourself take an interest in both sexes.
August 14th, 2016 6:52am
Putting a label on yourself is not what's most important. It is to have strong connections with both sexes and not just limiting yourself to one. To see beyond body parts but for who they are. Man or woman, both an attraction to you.