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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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November 19th, 2016 7:20am
It might be a long process in order to discover you are attracted to both genders, you know when you notice you are attracted to both males and females and most important when you can see yourself building a life with any of them
November 24th, 2016 10:19am
If you're curious don't be scared to experiment. If you don't like it that's okay and if you do that's okay too. How else are you suppose to find out? Don't worry about what people think. You only have one life, don't be scared to live it.
November 27th, 2016 2:27am
If you feel like or know that gender does not have any or high influence over your sexual and romantic attraction, that's how you know you're bisexual. Now, by this I mean you are not attracted to just on gender, but two or more genders. For some people, when they feel attracted to more than two genders, they may label as Pansexual and not Bisexual. Some may label as Pansexual because they feel like Bisexuality ignores or erases transgender, non-binary, agender, and intersex people based on the textbook definition of bisexuality. However, depending on how you choose to define bisexuality; either two genders or multiple genders, this does not have to be true. So in short, if you feel like you are attracted to two or more genders, that is how you can know you are Bisexual, or if you want to label as such, Pansexual.
November 27th, 2016 2:58pm
If you feel it in your heart that you like two genders (whatever those genders are), then you're bisexual. There's really no test you can put yourself through or any way anyone else can tell you. You only can tell yourself what you're feeling.
December 16th, 2016 5:39pm
I am bisexual myself. It feels so right whenever I make hearts with my eyes with a fellow woman the same way my flutter with a guy.
December 31st, 2016 5:35am
If you've felt sexual attraction towards both females and males, you're bisexual. If you've felt your heart flutter when talking to both genders.
January 7th, 2017 5:41pm
Do you like girls romantically and sexually? Do you like boys romantically and sexually? If you answered yes to all of those questions, you are a bisexual. If you like other genders besides boy and girl, then you are pansexual. If you don't like any gender sexually, you are an asexual. If you only like any people in a more friendly way and prefer platonic relationships then you are aromantic.
January 22nd, 2017 9:32pm
Sexuality is hard and confusing. I wish that I could give you a clear cut answer, but only you can really decide and decipher what your own feelings are. You don't have to know right away, take your time and try to sort out your own feelings of attraction, like what it feels like to you, and who you have been attracted to. Talk to and read stuff written by people who are bisexual, see what you do or do not relate to. Do research. I wish you luck on your journey, and I want you to know that even though it might seem scary, you will find people who are supportive, and it is really good and okay to be bi.
January 26th, 2017 3:41pm
Bisexual is committing to being emotionally or sexually involved with the same gender just as you would the opposite, not to be confused with simply being sexually attracted to the opposite gender, with no chance of a relationship. Compare yourself to either of these to get a direct definition.
January 28th, 2017 5:42pm
Bisexuality is, as a general definition, being attracted to men and women. If you feel romantic or sexual feelings to certain people of both genders, you probably are bisexual. Bisexuality, like all sexualities, varies for everyone. You can be bisexual and mostly like girls or boys. In the end, you decide who you love, and Bisexual is just a general label. Sexuality changes and varies, and a word can only do so much to describe such a big part of what makes you who you are.
February 1st, 2017 6:22am
You know if you are bisexual if you feel a sense of attraction towards both men and women. Attraction doesn't necessarily have to be sexual attraction either, it can be romantic attraction. Some people get those mixed up.
February 3rd, 2017 4:07am
I personally found out when I realized that while I could see myself with a man romantically, I could see myself doing the same with a woman, and felt similarly about them. I have, of course, learned that I do prefer women since then, but the basic idea for me was that even if one was a more preferable option, I could see myself being comfortable and happy with either.
February 5th, 2017 4:13pm
Being bisexual means we have the potential to be attracted to people of their own gender or another gender. Some bisexuals, like me, may be attracted to different genders in a different way; but basically, we are capable of loving more than just people of one specific gender. You might find that you like one gender more, or you might not. It depends on you.
February 5th, 2017 11:25pm
You feel an attraction to members of both the opposite and same sex. It also doesn't have to be a 50/50 split between men and women, you can have a stronger attraction to one than the other. It doesn't have to be a sexual attraction either. Either way, you, and only you, can define your sexuality, just be happy and don't let anyone get in the way of that.
February 8th, 2017 10:59am
Being bisexual is simply to me being psychially/sexually attracted to both men and women. its more then just experimenting.
February 15th, 2017 5:04am
if you find yourself attracted to the same sex but also feel attracted to the opposite sex, thats a big sign that you are bisexual
March 10th, 2017 3:20am
I am gay, specifically speaking. But as you're exploring your sexual identity ask yourself, yes or no questions such as: "Do I find X gender sexually or romantically appealing?" Validate your answers, Knowing there is no right or wrong answer or response! Sometimes (usually) the "Why" behind gender preference is left unanswered for many people. Be honest and open to yourself and you'll be on your way to resolution. :)
March 11th, 2017 11:29pm
That's a brilliant question. I first found out when I started crushing on one of my best male friends. I had only had crushes and liked girls before, but I had had those moments where I looked a little extra at a guy before. So I think you "know" you are Bisexual if you have/ have had crushes or feel attracted romantically and/or sexually to people that are both male and female.
March 17th, 2017 10:50am
usually the easy answer most people give is that you've experiences attraction towards "both" genders, but in my opinion it's a feeling you get, and you can either say you trust your gutfeeling and call it bisexual or not, and even if you label it, you can still change it. sexuality doesn't have to be static, it can be more fluid.
March 22nd, 2017 7:41am
Speaking from what it was like for me, I'd say it was just something I discovered over time. I noticed that other people didn't feel the same way about people of their own gender as I did and when someone told me what bisexuality is, my mind went "oh THAT's what it is." :)
April 5th, 2017 8:59am
Bisexuality is usually being sexually attracted to people who identify as male and female, but it is often more complex than that, you may have different romantic feelings for different people, or be more attracted to certain traits than others. Your sexuality belongs to you, and is for yourself to explore, I would advise you to just do some research and explore your feelings.
April 7th, 2017 11:42pm
A bisexual person has the capacity for romantic and/or sexual attraction to more than one gender. If you honestly feel you meet that criteria, it is likely you are bisexual. As a bi person, you do not have to feel the same kind or intensity of attraction to all genders. There is nothing for you to prove, nothing to consummate, no requirement to “maintain” your bisexuality. Understanding and acknowledging your own sexuality is a personal process and is about living with integrity and being true to yourself.
April 14th, 2017 8:31pm
I, personally, am bisexual. It wasn't exactly a massive conclusion, but one day I realized that I had romantic feelings or emotions toward not only boys, but girls as well. I've heard it's different for different people, but this is just how it was for me.
April 15th, 2017 6:32am
Sexuality is a wide spectrum. One of the best ways to have a clue about where you stand without physically experimenting is taking a Kinsey Test. At the very least it would make you think of the right questions. There are also plenty of resources online to understand what is bi-sexuality and how it works. It might help to approach a bi-sexual friend with your conceptions and ask them how they knew. It is, in my opinion, better to do some basic research before experimenting with other people so that the experience would be more informed and has lesser potential to be harmful.
April 20th, 2017 7:53am
it's different for everyone. There's no 100% accurate test you can take that says "you are bisexual" or "you are not bisexual". Sexuality is ridiculously complex and confusing. If you feel sexually attracted to multiple sexes, you might be bisexual. Then again, you are the expert on you, and no one can tell you how you feel. Maybe you're sexually attracted to multiple genders but only romantically attracted to females. Maybe you're sexually attracted to multiple genders, and don't feel any romantic attraction. Maybe you like mostly guys but some girls, or mostly girls, but some guys. Maybe you're just experimenting. It's all okay. (Side note: don't let anyone bash you for experimenting, who are they to say your identity and emotions are not/were not valid.) Keep your chin up, do some research, and don't expect to fit in a perfect little box right away. It's okay if it takes you a long time to figure out which label makes you comfortable, it's okay if you don't want to label yourself at all. It's okay if you think you're something, then realize you're something else. Whatever you end up doing -- as a bi person who took 5 years of questioning to figure it out, just don't push yourself too hard to figure everything out right away.
April 30th, 2017 9:28am
You start feeling an attraction to females/males in the same way you do with the other gender. It can be confusing, and many people don't know what they're feeling for a while. Bisexualality is being attracted to females and males, or being attracted to two genders. Bi means two and sexual is what you're attracted to. That makes the definition of bisexual being attracted to two genders.
May 21st, 2017 3:48am
It doesn't just come down to who you've had sex with. If you feel a sexual attraction to both men and women, you're probably bisexual. People know they're straight before they've had intimacy with anyone of the opposite sex. You're never expected to *prove* you're straight before you can call yourself that. Only you can decide.
May 24th, 2017 12:53am
The short answer: Do you feel attraction to women, men, and/or another gender or lack thereof? Then you're bisexual! The long answer: Sexuality is a complicated, fluid thing. The only thing I can recommend is time. Don't box yourself into a sexuality right away, give yourself time to explore. Phases are okay!
May 25th, 2017 10:40pm
It is important to note that you do not have to put a label on your sexuality right away or ever, so if you do not feel the need to label yourself, you are not required to do so. However, if you want to be able to use a certain label, you might think about what you find attractive in a person and then question whether those things are specifically related to this person's gender or maybe they're more vague.
May 26th, 2017 3:39pm
Do you imagine yourself with a male or a female in the future? Are you comfortable with the thought of being in a relationship with a female or a male? Or both? Are you straight and trying to identify your sexuality? Or are you gay/lesbian? If you're the latter, it differs than the formal. Did something happen and you realised you might be bisexual? Or are you trying to know about your sexuality?