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How do you know if your bisexual?

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How do you know if your bisexual?
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Anonymous
June 1st, 2017 12:16am
Sometimes bisexuality isn't something you notice at first, and is different for everyone. Being bisexual doesn't mean you have to be attracted to everyone, but it's more of a spectrum where you might have a preferance for one gender over the other and that's okay.
novastardust
July 15th, 2017 5:01am
bisexuality is defined as "attraction to two or more genders." if you feel that your attraction fits that definition, you're probably bisexual, and that's really something that only you can decide. have you wanted to date people of two or more different genders?? be emotionally intimate with them?? physically intimate with them?? asking yourself these kinds of questions and answering them as honestly as possible can help you discover your sexuality. best of luck!!
Anonymous
August 17th, 2017 8:31pm
It might take a lot of time to actually find yourself and know who you are, but simple examples to knowing and finding out if you´re bisexual is to figure out if you have romantic/sexual attractions or feelings with, both females and males. You could sometimes only feel attracted to men and sometimes only to women, but really if you identify yourself as bisexual and want and have the need to call yourself bisexual then you are!
Turbokiddo
August 18th, 2017 9:00pm
Sexuality can be a pretty complex topic and some people just discover themselves as times goes by, it's okay to be confused and it's okay to question yourself, as a bisexual person myself i can say that it was rather confusing for me too when i first started questioning myself, sexuality and gender identity is a spectrum and normally based in my personal experience i'd say that a bisexual person feels romantically and sexually attracted to both genders, if you're bisexual you're most likely open to engage in a relationship regardless of gender, but there's also bisexual people with a preference for males or females, well, in the end of the day it all comes down to how you feel and what makes you happy, there's no rush, you don't need a label to be who you are and love who you love, so in my opinion the only way for you to find out if you're bisexual or not is to let yourself live and experience, explore and discover more about others and yourself, i'm sure that you'll eventually get the answer you're looking for.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 10:34am
With my personal experience, I think to try and identify what you feel when if you were to be attracted to a particular sex. I like to think of hypothetical ideas and note how you feel. Or trying to notice your thoughts when it comes to a gender, sexually and romantically.
Whizzer
August 23rd, 2017 7:45am
Only you can be sure. If you want to know for sure, experiment! See whats up! Nobody can give you a specific rule book on how to know if you're bisexual, but one thing I'd say is that you don't have to have it set in stone. I've tried looking for what my sexuality is for years now, and I've never been able to pinpoint it and within the last few months I decided that maybe I didn't need to. You can just say that you're into whoever you're into and that's okay! In the end it's all about exploring yourself. Nobody can tell you what you are or who you are but you !!
Anonymous
August 25th, 2017 12:42am
It can be hard to figure out, but for me personally as someone who is bisexual, it came from constantly wondering if I was gay or straight and really feeling like I was both. Also I have always been open to dating people of any gender, and I think that really just confirmed my sexuality for me.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2017 9:52pm
Being bisexual just means that you are on the Spectrum and you've acknowledged it I knew I was bisexual when my attraction to men started outweigh women but then I realized it wasn't just about being more attracted to men or women but more along the lines of being attracted to people I found attractive
elephantkailee
September 10th, 2017 9:56am
It took me a while to come to terms with my bisexuality. At first I struggled through the idea that I might very well be gay, and sometimes I still do. To be completely honest it took a great deal of time and self discovery to realize that I was attracted to both sexes. I wish I could be more specific; however, discovering your sexuality is more of a personal discovery.
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2017 11:13pm
When your feelings towards both genders are the same you like them both the same. You may think its a strange feeling to have feelings for both sides of the genders but believe me its a lot more common than you think. You are your own person and no one should judge you on how you feel towards anyone. I had this struggle for a very long time to work out who I was and if I was normal but now im very happy with my partner and I hope for happiness for you no matter who you fall in love with.
californiahockeygirl44
September 30th, 2017 3:46am
There isn't really a simple answer to that. Some people just know. For others, like myself, it is more of a journey. What I did that really helped me figure things out was trying on the different clothes and seeing what fit. But really that is just how I found out and what may work for you or what worked for others is just as valid!
Grackl3
October 21st, 2017 7:46pm
Are you sexually attracted to people who identify as women? Are you sexually attracted to people who identify as men? if you answered yes to both then you are likely bisexual. If you are only //romantically// attracted to both you could be biromantic. If you dont know the difference: Sexual attraction is about the desire to have sex with that person. Its more about passion and physical attraction. (but is different from aesthetic attraction alone in which you think someone is pretty. if you think of "look but dont touch", aesthetic attraction is just looking, sexual attraction is the desire to touch) Romantic attraction is about wanting to commit to them and form an emotional bond. Its more about warm fuzzy feelings. Most people experience all of these towards the gender(s) they are attracted to. Some only one or the other. Youre valid with whatever combination you personally experience.
JayGrayson101
November 10th, 2017 10:23am
Bisexuality is when a person wouldn't mind dating a male or a female.. so if you don't mind falling in love with a male or a female, then I guess you are bisexual :)
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 8:19am
Honestly, I think you should start by assessing your responses to different people. Just think about how you feel with certain people. Even just the fact that you are asking this question says that there is a possibility. Also, I, personally think there are a lot more bisexual people than we could possibly know.
readingDream88
November 17th, 2017 3:13am
If you're honest with yourself about who you're attracted to, then it's pretty easy to tell if you are or not! The best thing, in my experience, is to acknowledge how you feel instead of trying to deny it.
caligulamAquarius
November 17th, 2017 3:10pm
You begin to expirience attraction towards the same sex, but you also feel a sexual attraction towards people of the opposite sex.
Potatofry
November 17th, 2017 9:05pm
Ok so. I'm bisexual and I have thought of myself as bicurious and even straight for the longest time. I feel an attraction for guys and girls, which is a pretty standard definition for being bisexual. You need to evaluate whether you are bisexual or biromantic because there is a line being tied between those two identities. To put it crudely, to you want to perform sexual acts with people of both genders or are you simply forming romantic binds with both genders. Also please remember, you may prefer guys or girls more as a bisexual person. This does not make you 'straight' or 'gay' ( depending on what you identify as to begin with). Your identity IS valid.
CrimsonMoon46
November 19th, 2017 5:44am
If you find yourself attracted to people of multiple different genders, then you're probably bisexual.
Gwenyth
November 22nd, 2017 6:22pm
It may help to look at a few pictures of both genders and ask yourself if you would date them, kiss them, things like that. If you're answer is that you would, then you are bisexual. Doing that helped me figure out that I'm bisexual.
ppeachess
November 23rd, 2017 3:21am
It took me a while to pin down what my sexuality is. Don't be afraid to take your time! If you are sexually attracted to both men and women, and/or all other genders, you may be bisexual. But don't feel obligated to limit yourself to one label if it doesn't feel right!
Anonymous
November 29th, 2017 8:05pm
Most people spend the first few years of their life attracted to one gender, and as you get older if you feel yourself also feeling the same for the same gender then there could be a chance. get with someone of the same sex and if it feels right then its meant to be
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2017 4:01am
Everyone learns about their sexuality differently. If you think you are bisexual, experiment. Go out with boys and girls. No one is truly fifty-fifty when it comes to being bisexual but just because you like one gender over the other doesn't mean you aren't bi. If the label of being bisexual confuses you or makes you feel like you have to be a certain person or act a certain way, don't identify with anything and just be you. Do whatever makes you happiest without worrying if that makes you straight, gay, or bisexual.
elsalovelove
December 2nd, 2017 9:03am
Hi! I identify as bisexual. The meaning of bisexuality can vary from person to person, but the dictionary definition is feeling sexual or romantic attraction to both genders(male and female). However, bisexuality is not about liking both genders equally; some people just happens to prefer(for the lack of better wording) male over female, and vice versa. I personally prefer(again, WORDING)male and have only ever fallen for males, but I do feel attraction to females also.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2017 1:25pm
I think that there isn't one way to tell. Honestly, one day you will just know - which sounds a bit annoying, but it's true. I think that the most that you can do for yourself if you're feeling confused is to imagine yourself in certain situations with both genders and try to tune into how you feel about those situations. You might not get an immediate "yes this feels right" or "no this feels wrong", but you most likely will have some kind of gut feeling which can help you gage certain aspects of your sexuality. Remember that sexuality is a spectrum, though, and although finding an identity that you can fit into may seem important, try to think of it as an ongoing process rather than something that you must know at this very moment.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 2:38am
ask yourself questions. Are you sexually interested in both girls and boys? What do you feel when you find somebody attractive? Is that just admiration or more? and keep in mind, being bisexual does not mean you have to be interested in girls and boys equally, you can like one gender better than another (sexually or romantically) but again, liking them both. So you are the only one who can see it.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 7:45pm
You may not know what to call your sexual feelings or whether you feel sufficiently attracted to multiple genders to consider yourself bisexual. You don't have to rush and decide how to label yourself right now. Our sexual identities develop over time. How you see yourself is the key to a sexual identity.
tranquilSnowflake22
December 20th, 2017 2:56pm
Figuring out your sexuality can be a hard thing. It took me four months and then after three months I realised I didn't fit that label. You know you're bisexual if you are attracted to two genders, these can be any not just male or female. It doesn't matter if you(for example) are only 10% attracted to males and 90% females you are still bisexual. In the end no one can make a decision for you it is up to you what you label yourself as but don't worry if you can't fine one that fits you.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2017 4:46am
Our society is really into labeling our sexuality. Sometimes this is helpful, and sometimes it can be really harmful and confusing. If it helps you to label yourself as straight, bi, lesbian, gay, etc., great! If it is makes it more confusing for you, then don't worry about it, don't think about it. The only person the label really matters for is you. If you are feeling attracted towards someone, that is okay and that is completely normal. Just because you have one slight attraction towards someone of the same sex doesn't mean you are bisexual, but it might. But in the end, it doesn't really matter again because the labels are irrelevant. If you are feeling drawn towards someone and want to try it, try it. It's okay! I know this is a confusing place to be. I've been there. I am there. Keep hanging on and find people who will support you. You got this!
Anonymous
December 31st, 2017 8:04am
Look at it with an open mind. Do you feel the same way about one gender as you do the other one? You can still have a preference one way or the other, but if overall you do feel attraction to either one, then you could definitely be bisexual!
Anonymous
January 6th, 2018 2:27pm
You know you're bisexual when you've felt sexually attracted to both men and women in the same way. However, it does not necessarily have to be the same number for each-it's entirely reasonable for you to be interested in women 90% of the time and men the other 10% (or the other way around). The only criteria is that you must have felt attraction to both.