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How do you know if your bisexual?

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Last Updated: 08/02/2020 at 3:48am
How do you know if your bisexual?
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Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 3:31am
If you feel the same sorts of romantic (or sexual) feelings for males and females, then that most likely means that you're bisexual. Only you can know for sure!
Anonymous
January 12th, 2018 4:04pm
Bisexuality is experiencing sexual attraction to both binary genders (male and female). So if you feel attracted to both boys and girls, you may be bisexual. However, if you feel attracted to non-binary and intersex people as well, you may be closer to pansexual (pan - all, bi - two)
Anonymous
January 12th, 2018 4:42pm
if you are sexually attracted to both the genders and feel the need to be in a sexual relationship with them, you are bisexual
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 11:42pm
To realise what is your sexuality is something that takes time so, first of all, be patient. Something that really helped me realising that I was bisexual was reading about it and watching YouTube videos about people who were struggling with their sexuality. If you know some LGBT people, talk to them! They can help you understand yourself. I hope you find out who you are soon :)
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 9:02am
if i am a bisexual than i will feel sexual desires for both men and women . Both of them will give me equal vibes . It will be really difficult to choose any one as final and to swear that i will not think about other. It will not make difference for me to be with girl or boy.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2018 2:29pm
If you find yourself sexually attracted to both men and women, then you are bisexual. If you are having doubts about your sexuality, ask yourself why you're having doubts, and don't be afraid to experiment a little bit if need be.
frendo79
February 4th, 2018 3:23pm
If you experience any sort of attraction to people of two or more genders. Bisexuality is a valid identity and you are not confused or greedy for feeling this way
JustKeepHoping
February 7th, 2018 3:42am
How you know if you're bisexual... you know that butterfly feeling you get? When you get a huge crush? You get that about boys and girls. For me mostly girls.
Kanga
February 10th, 2018 8:07pm
Bisexual is a term used for people who are sexually attracted to both the male and female genders. If you experience sexual feeling towards both sexes, than you could be bisexual. Bisexual does not mean you have to like both genders equally, you could like one more than the other, but you would still be bisexual. Also, some people experience sexual attraction to one gender, and romantic attraction towards both, and vice versa. A biromantic person is someone who is romantically attracted to both sexes. Just know that you don't have to put a label on yourself, and sexuality is a very fluid thing that may change over time, so just be you!
Anonymous
February 11th, 2018 7:58am
If you are attracted to both male and female people, or two types of gender (like female and nonbinary people), then you're bisexual. You can also have a preference towards one specific gender, yet at the same time still be attracted to another.
Jerseymoo92
February 15th, 2018 2:27pm
many different ways. its very much the same as knowing you are straight, if you feel a romantic/other attraction toward both genders along with feeling the potential to be more than friends then thats usually an indicator.
izzymarii
February 18th, 2018 10:14pm
If you are attracted to both males and females and find them sexually attractive too. If you think you might be bisexual but are not sure, then maybe ask yourself whether you would like to be that person or be with them. Sometimes heterosexual females can think they are into girls when maybe they want to be like them. You could even be biromantic, which is liking to be romantic with both female and males, and not being interested in the sex part.
Meggy123
February 21st, 2018 7:35pm
Well, you'll know if you feel attracted to the same sex, try thinking about the same sex in a different way. If you already do then yes, you could be bisexual! And that's great 😁 but you could also be pansexual or gay, just give yourself time to figure it out. Experiment!
sweetNarwhal82
February 28th, 2018 7:37pm
Personally, I struggled with figuring this out as well. For me, I knew I was bisexual when I actually started dating a girl for the first time. I had always questioned it before then.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 8:57pm
If you're bisexual then you feel attracted to both men and women, you'll also feel a sexual attraction to them.
penelopecelia
March 6th, 2018 1:09am
Hi, I may be able to help with this question as I am bisexual myself :) Bisexual is a sexual orientation where you feel sexually attracted to both the same and opposite gender. There’s no set way to ‘know’ if you’re bisexual and people can find out in different ways. Just know that it’s okay to experiment with your sexuality and that you don’t ever have to even label yourself. Love is love!
creativeNight22
March 28th, 2018 1:33pm
There's no real test to show sexuality, it's how you feel. It is okay if you are, or if you are not.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 6:41am
It can take a while, but the main thing is if you feel like you're attracted to two genders, then it's likely you're bisexual. Remember there's no shame in labelling yourself as something and then realising that that label doesn't fit your identity perfectly after all!
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 5:05am
Well, i feel that just depends on the person asking. Do you often feel like you’re attracted to both sexes? It doesn’t have to be both romantic and (excuse me if i am over stepping some boundaries) sexually. You can be attracted to one gender romantically, but the other sexually? And it doesn’t have to strictly be a 50-50 attraction to both male and females, it could be 70-30, or even 40-60. Either way, you are completely valid with what you feel. No matter who tells you what.
blissfulMelody50
April 8th, 2018 4:17pm
Bisexuality is the attraction to members of both sexes. You don't need to be split 50/50 between the two. So if you feel attraction to two genders then chances are you're bisexual
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 8:56pm
I don't think there is ALWAYS a way to know for certain. If you feel an attraction to both the male and female gender this is usually a sign that you are bisexual.
OscarWilde99
April 13th, 2018 1:08pm
I don't think you can truly 'know' if you are any sexuality, not just bisexual. I think that, if you feel like you are bisexual, then that's what you should go with and, if one day you don't feel like you are sexually or romantically attracted to both sexes, that's fine too. Sexuality is not a list of concrete categories. It's a spectrum, and we are all somewhere on that spectrum.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2018 1:26pm
didnt really know i was till i learned what bisexual meant, just knew i was attrcted to both genders
dgcato
April 26th, 2018 2:24am
If you are bisexual you are physically and romantically attracted to both the female and male gender. You could call this a "crush." You can have a crush on a girl or a boy to be bisexual.
WaterWing
April 29th, 2018 4:15am
Well, sexuality is a spectrum. Some people are both sexually and romantically attracted to just their own sex or just the opposite or of all sexes and genders. Bisexuality is also a spectrum. You might have had just the occasional crush on the same gender or sex, or you are just sexually attracted to them and not interested in a relationship, but you are interested in a relationship with the opposite sex or genders. Many people find that they are bisexual after reflecting on previous crushes and reflecting even on friendships and seeing if there was ever another feeling you had for them. No bisexual is the same. Remember, you could still be bisexual if you have only ever been attracted to someone of the same sex once and the opposite sex many times. At the end of the day, it comes down to however you personally want to identify.
GlowingDreamer15
May 6th, 2018 3:43pm
Bisexuality is, for a definition, an attraction to two genders or more, but not all genders. If you feel any kind of attraction (romantic, sexual, or others) for more than one gender, it is possible that you are bisexual or biromantic. The only way to be 100% sure about it is to take your time. No rush ! You'll know who you are in time :)
Ellianna1517
May 10th, 2018 6:12pm
Bisexual is when you experience attraction to both males and females. It doesn't have to be equal. You don't have to be 50-50 on male and female attraction. You can be 90% attracted to males and 10% females. Or vice versa. You can be 70% attracted females and 30% males. Or vice versa. You can be 99% attracted to males and 1% females. Or vice versa. As long as you experience attraction to both males and females you would count as bisexual. (There are many other sexualities that also include male and female attraction. Bisexual means ONLY male and female attraction. Polysexuals, for a single example, includes male, female, non-binary, genderfluid, genderqueer, agender, transgender, etc. And it varies from polysexual to polysexual.)
frothyPond59
May 18th, 2018 12:03pm
Everyone's different, so you may not realize it right away. You might see some guy in the hall and think "wow, he's so cute," and then five minutes later see a girl and think the same thing. Or it could take several months or years to figure it out. Bisexual means that you like two genders, which don't have to be strictly female and male. It might take some time to figure it out.
YellowButterScotch
May 20th, 2018 12:46am
Sexuality can be a tough thing to figure out. I recommend to take your time figuring yourself out. There is no rush to define yourself.
LoveToHelp001
May 23rd, 2018 12:36am
If you are attracted to both sexes. If you aren't quite sure how you know, try to find someone of the opposite sex who you think is attractive. Then ask yourself if you would kiss them. If you would, would you date them? Would you have sex with them? then do the same with an attractive person of the same gender. If your answer is basically the same for both genders, you're most likely bisexual.