Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

How do you know what attraction is? What makes you sure you like boys/and or girls?

3 Answers
Last Updated: 04/06/2021 at 6:51pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
United Kingdom
Moderated by

Temi Coker, MSC, MA, Dip.Cons

Licensed Professional Counselor

With over ten years experience, I offer a safe and confidential environment  for you to collect your thoughts, worries & life problems with no judgement or assumptions.    

Top Rated Answers
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
August 12th, 2019 10:49am
You can try to analyze your feelings and sensations. You can try to imagine yourself with different people in sexual and romantic contexts and be honest with yourself about how these fantasies really make you feel. This will give you a clue!
April 6th, 2021 6:51pm
Sometimes it's difficult for me to exactly pinpoint the type of person that I feel attracted to. For example, I've only dated guys, but I can still find myself looking at girls or enby folk in a way that I'd probably label as "attraction." Maybe I'm not looking at them in a specific way that is a norm for "what attraction feels like," but I think a general rule is that your feelings around those types of people can often tend to drift to be more romantic or sexual in nature. A general rule I like to use, though, is that if you spend tons of mental energy wondering if you're not straight, chances are, you probably aren't!
October 26th, 2020 11:13pm
Attraction can have different meanings to different people. Some may think attraction is based of looks, money, personality, etc. I find attraction through personality. I like being around people who have a fun, thoughtful, and humorous personality. They way they act and behave will show through their personality, which is what I look for in individuals. Knowing whether or not you like boys are girls is up to you. I you think you like boys, girls, or both, then you should be open to being attracted to both. Determining if you like boys and/or girls should be based on how you define attraction, as well as your experience with them.