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how to know if I'm really attracted to someone in the same gender,specifically a boy in my class???

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Last Updated: 10/07/2019 at 7:44pm
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October 7th, 2019 7:44pm
Try to imagine yourself in a romantic context with him, like performing physical signs of affection like kissing, but also psychological intimacy, like sharing your deepest thoughts with one another. Does it make you feel good? Would you wish to be with him like that? According to your answers, you can determine if you're attracted to him physically, romantically, both, or neither.
November 9th, 2017 8:48pm
Well, how do you know you're attracted to anyone? If you've never been felt same-sex attraction before, I understand that this could be very confusing and/or disorienting, but I would recommend you treat it as any other crush you may have had in your past.
November 21st, 2017 10:28am
It's a magical feeling; you seem to flutter and its a gorgeous warm temperature and it's addictive. There's nothing wrong with being gay. You're doing fine. Be who you wanna be, haha.
November 13th, 2018 12:24am
The same way you would know if you’re attracted to someone of the same gender! It may be hard to push past the idea of it being someone of the same gender, but the feeling will be the same. I understand the hesitation you may feel, though. When I was first discovering my sexuality, I always just thought that I found people of the same gender pretty or cute, and refused to believe I was actually attracted. Once I learned more and understood more, I accepted that what I was feeling was attraction. You will know it when you feel it, so don’t be afraid to embrace it!
March 5th, 2019 12:16pm
"Knowing" is a very loose term. You just feel right when you are with them. When I first realised I liked someone of the same sex I was very confused, frustrated and disgusted with myself. But you learn in your own time to accept these feelings. There's nothing wrong to feel attracted to them. And there is still nothing wrong if you later find out it was just curiosity. It took me 4 years to discover what I liked. You don't need to label yourself. With that in mind, it doesn't change who you. You will slowly discover yourself over time.