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I am emotionally attracted to men and women but only women sexually am I gay or bi?

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Last Updated: 10/05/2020 at 6:50am
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July 2nd, 2019 1:05am
Have you heard that sexual and romantic orientations can be different? Some people find it helpful to differentiate them with different types of attraction. Sexual orientation is whether you'd like to have any kinds of sex with them (oral, hand stuff, etc.). Romantic orientation is whether you'd like to date them, and some people describe this as wanting to snuggle and being able to fall in love with them, even if they don't want to be sexual with them. It sounds like you might be biromantic and homosexual. Some people might just describe this as being bi. Up to you how you wanna identify!
November 18th, 2019 9:24pm
You would be biromantic, and depending on if you are a woman or man heterosexual, or homosexual. You don't have to fit into one category, most people don't. This is why there is ...sexual and ...romantic. If you feel romantic attraction towards two genders you would be Biromantic. Everyone has two, but some people have the same, therefore they don't really think about it. But others have two different romantic attraction vs. sexual attraction. Which leads to the need for both of the vocabulary. So, that would make you biromantic and homosexual, so you are both of the prefixes homo (gay) and bi. Hope this helped.
March 17th, 2020 3:28pm
I would say bi, because the definition of bi is “attracted to both males and females”, but I think it also has to do with what you consider yourself. I would meditate on it for a while, get into your feelings and consider both options and figure out which one really does speak physically, and emotionally, to you, and you alone. No one else should have a say in who you are, because they aren’t you. If you want their opinions, that can be good, but ultimately, it is your choice, and it’s an important one. I hope this answer helped!
October 5th, 2020 6:50am
Emotional and sexual attraction are different. They both are spectrums. You can be anything you feel like, and it might change from one day to another one. It can be unsettling at first. Also, especially if you're still young, don't forget the strength of society on your current views. We unfortunately evolve in a kind of society that teaches you the norm is to be hetero, put in clear, designed boxes. Sometimes it can be hard to go past those ideas. In the end, the label that fits you, is the label you feel you belong to, if you feel like you want tell you're bisexual because it goes better with how you feel, then there it is. you are legit either way !