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I can imagine myself marrying another woman, cuddling her, kissing her, falling asleep with her, all that jazz. But I don't find myself incredibly sexually attracted to women. What is this?

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Last Updated: 08/31/2020 at 4:29pm
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August 6th, 2019 8:31am
Sexual and romantic orientation do not always coincide. It is possible to hetero/homo/bi...sexual and hetero/homo/bi...romantic. Any combination of the two is possible, so you can discover your identity by analyzing the way you feel about men and women sexually and romantically.
August 31st, 2020 4:29pm
Based of what you described, with my personal knowledge you've described having a romantic interest with women but lacking a sexual interest in them. In sexuality there are two main aspects : sexual and romantic. If you are homosexual (gay) you are sexually attracted to those of the same gender as you, but who you date is different than who you are sexually attracted to, this is the romantic part of sexuality. If you are attracted to dating a woman but not having sex with one it could mean you are homoromantic. Yet it could just mean you arent interested in sex, i hope this helps and you can figure it out 😊remember labels arent too important but sometimes its good to know just to be able to define yourself
July 27th, 2018 5:23pm
You could just be romantically attracted to women, but may not sexually. Personally, as a female, I am heteroromantic bisexual. That means that I am only romantically attracted to the opposite gender, but sexually both.
July 28th, 2018 2:59pm
What Jess said, you could be a demisexual, which means that you are attracted to the opposite gender romantically but without the urge or want to engage inside any sexual activity, which of course could change over the course of time with your life experiences if you do find the right one and feel more comfortable with them.
May 7th, 2019 6:16pm
it is fully possible you are an acesexual homo-romantic, this is because romantic attraction and sexual attraction are not the same and are not always aligned. you lacking sexual attraction but having romantic attraction. sometimes it's back wards having no romantic attraction but having sexual attraction. which is just fine, you can still have a fully functioning relationship with out sex. there are also demi sexuals where they do not experience sexual attraction until or unless an already string emotional conection is formed- demi romanitic