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I cant tell if Im bisexual or lesbian?

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Last Updated: 10/07/2019 at 12:28am
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August 5th, 2019 2:15am
It all depends on how you feel when fantasizing about men and women! You can explore your emotional and physical responses to fantasies with people of different genders, and see how that makes you feel. You can also experiment if you want, but it's not necessary, your feelings are enough to determine it! And remember, your orientation ultimately is nothing more than what you feel you are, what you believe suits best the way you see yourself.
February 18th, 2019 3:30am
That's alright it takes time to figure out who you are! Think about your past relationships and experiences. I went through this same issue. I didn't know if I was bi or les. It took me a lot of time reflecting and talking to others. For me personally, I have never been interested in men. Which helped lead me to the conclusion that I am a lesbian. However, there is nothing wrong with liking both men and women. You may not be either Bisexual or lesbian, there are many other possibilities. I am happy to chat with you more if you would like. Go ahead and leave me a message or request and I am happy to explore this more with you!
October 7th, 2019 12:28am
Sexuality is a spectrum. Being something-sexual and something-romantic can be two different things. Personally, I'm homosexual but panromantic. This means I can have romantic feelings for any gender (cuddling, wanting to do nice things for them, tell them I love you), but when it comes to sex I prefer female bodied, female presenting people. And honestly, it's okay if right now you're one and it changes to the other later on. You don't have to jump in bed with both sexes to make that decision. In fact, you don't have to have sex at all until you're absolutely ready. If you just want to be bi-romantic or homo-romantic until you decide it's time, that's fine! It's not something that you have to "decide" now, and then it's set in stone for the rest of your life.