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I don't want to be gay I feel that I won't be happy, I want to be with woman but mind is telling me these things which I don't like am I gay?

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Last Updated: 02/11/2020 at 9:15pm
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July 8th, 2019 10:20am
Sometimes, gay people internalize the mentality of other people around them and end up feeling like being gay is wrong. In these cases, it could help to react to any negative thought you have about homosexuality by asking yourself what is the rational, logical reason behind them. With time, you'll see that there's no actual reason to feel bad about it! And of course, gays can be as happy as anyone else, and find true love! In order to realize that, it may be helpful to get in contact with the LGBT community, it may help you see that everyone can live a happy and normal life. Listening to their experiences might be enlightening for you!
February 11th, 2020 9:15pm
There is no shame in questioning. Questioning can be a step towards realizing who you are. You are not alone in the possibility of being gay and not wanting to be, just remember sexuality is fluid, you love who you love, whether for their gender or their personality. It can be hard to accept your own sexuality and to admit what that may be. Just take your time to recognize what you truly are feeling, reach out for support, and trust that with time you'll be able to accept and even enjoy your sexuality, no matter what it may be.