I dreamt about kissing someone of the same-sex, what does it mean ?
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Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 2:30am
It could mean something or it could also mean nothing. It means whatever you want it to mean. It could lead to you questioning your sexuality, which is completely valid, but also it could just be a one time dream and you may dismiss it as that. Whatever you decide is the right choice.
It could mean you arent straight, or it could mean nothing at all! Plenty of straight people have had romantic feelings towards the same sex and still been straight.
I found this, maybe it will help.
"If you are not homosexual in your waking life, but dream of having sex with someone of the same sex, it’s about your self-esteem. Depending on how the dream plays out, this same sex dream is about loving parts of yourself that you’ve been less than accepting of. Homosexual sex with a friend may be a commentary about some rift between you, insecurities about the friendship, or some quality or talent they have that you emulate. Don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you secretly want to sleep with your best friend."
Maybe you are attracted to the same sex or maybe it was just your sub conscious randomly dreaming about it for no reason or to convey a different meaning (a lot of dreams are cryptic) It's nothing to get too hung up about, hope you have a great day :)
Nothing in general. There could be a possibility of you having sexual feelings, but it doesn't mean anything in general.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2016 9:44am
It can be just a dream. It does not have to mean something. But, when the day comes and you have some feelings for someone of the same-sex, then it means that you probably are gay or bisexual.
For me it was nothing special because I already knew that I like girls, but for others it can mean nothing, because it is just a dream. What really matters is will you act on it?
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 6:55pm
Well it might not mean anything but it might hint at the fact that you're curious about kissing someone of the same-sex or you really want to. Sexuality is weird and confusing and I know that sometimes we tend to deny ourselves of who we are when we want to try and "be normal" but there is no true "normal". So maybe you should really think about what it means to you - have you thought about it while you're awake? have you ever wanted to do it outside your dreams? No matter what you realize about yourself, who you are is good enough and you will always be loved by someone no matter your sexuality. It's up to you to determine what it means to you but just know you have a whole family of support on here at 7cups!
It could be just a dream. A dream doesn't determine if you are gay or not. But it could mean it is on your mind. When I was questioning I thought about the significance to my dreams, thoughts, preferences. But really the only one who can determine how you identify or the significance of anything is you. If you choose a label that you feel you identify with that is 100% cool! If you don't want a label or you still feel like you identify as straight that is cool too and 100% valid!
I personally have never put much stock into dreams, I subscribe to the ideal that they are just the brains way of filing away information while you sleep. Dreams sometimes don't make sense and sometimes you do things in a dream you'd never do in real life. Or maybe you just want to kiss some cute same sex people. Who knows!
It could mean something, but it doesn't have to! A lot of people have dreams that don't have a reason behind them. A simple dream does not mean much of anything.
Regardless of your age, dreams about kissing relate to the feelings you had during your first kiss. It is the youthful passion, the fluttering heart, the memory of the emotions and hormones that accompanied that first kiss which the dream is about.
The kiss dream is more about the emotions you seek than the physical act. If you are young, or yet to experience your first kiss, however, the dream could well relate to your desire for that first act of passion.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2017 1:31am
You may just be curious or attracted to the same sex. But that does not mean that you must be gay. You could be attracted to the same sex but not sexual with them
There is nothing wrong with that, dreams can mean many different things and sometimes no one knows why the dreamt something they did, but it's nothing to worry about, and I wouldn't worry to much about it either!
Anonymous
November 30th, 2016 10:44pm
It means whatever you want it to mean. You could be attracted to the same sex, or it could just be you subconscious mind being a weirdo. If you are attracted to the same-sex, then good for you! But I wouldn't place too much importance on dreams; often they're not as important as people think they are, and they rarely mean what you think they mean.
In my experience this doesn't have to mean anything. Even when you /consciously/ imagine kissing someone of the same gender, it doesn't automatically mean you're gay. It's perfectly normal for your mind to explore different types of situations and interactions, even if it's just for curiosity's sake.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:20am
A dream can mean anything, but if you're questioning your sexuality, keep an open mind so you can discover your true self without anyone's opinion stopping you.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2016 5:53am
That might mean that you could be either gay or lesbian depending on your gender. You always have time to figure out how you are.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 5:42am
Dreaming about it doesn't necessarily mean anything, regarding your real feelings about it.
If you've been attracted to any same-sex individual in your wake time, you may want to look into that.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2016 7:52pm
You are either fantasizing about it or you are confused about your sexuality. But in some cases, it doesn't mean a thing. This is nothing to worry about, we explore our sexuality and identity as we grow, we all are a work in progress :)
don't look deep into it. it could mean you're homosexual, pansexual, bisexual or even asexual, but it doesn't matter because dreams are not reality and at the end of the day, even in dreams, love is love
It means just what you want this to mean. It doesn't means that you are having attraction to same sex (and if you do, there is nothing bad with this, actually it's kind of awesome!). It could also mean that you are just curious to try it :)
Personally, it was something abstract like dreams that first led me to begin questioning my sexuality. Soon after, I discovered I was bisexual. But, I've had straight friends who have definitely considered kissing someone of the same-sex, dreamt about it, and even did it, and they are still straight. It depends on you, personally, and if any other feelings develop out of the dream.
Your brain is trying to tell you to listen to your emotions because you have probably pushing them to the side. Don't freak out though, just figure yourself out at your own pace :)
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 11:16pm
Dreams are projections, they don't always mean anything. It's what in your head when you are conscious that matters. Do you think about kissing someone of the same sex? And how do you feel about it? I sometimes dream of having sex with the opposite sex but I identify as gay. Dreams are just dreams. Follow your mind and heart :)
It doesn't mean anything really.. You just had a dream and it happened to be with someone of the same sex no biggy.
it doesn't have to mean anything, it could be your curious and want to know what it is like to kiss someone of the same sex or it could just be a random dream. Connect with a listener who has experience in LGBTQ+ listening skills such as myself to discuss this further.
It could mean absolutely anything. Straight people and LGTBQA+ people have dreams of kissing the same sex and it doesn't really effect you sexuality, but it could be your subconscious trying to tell you something
To be perfectly honest, not much. Dreams are dreams and curiosity is a powerful thing. If you're a teenager,hormones have alot to do with it. (Even if you aren't one) You could try asking yourself if you'd date or be intimate with a person of the same sex, if it ''Feels right'' if you're worried you might be bi, gay or lesbian.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 3:37pm
It might mean that you are attracted to the same-sex, which is perfectly normal or this might have just been a one time thing
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