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I like the idea of being gay, it just gives me a rush, but I'm a girl and i like guys but don't really like girls, i don't know what this is or how to deal with it. Can anyone help?

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Last Updated: 04/28/2020 at 9:55pm
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June 18th, 2019 10:04am
Your orientation is based on the attraction you feel, and if you like guys but not girls, that is who you are. Liking the idea of being gay, but not being attracted by people of the same sex, only makes you curious and supportive about the gay reality, but not gay yourself. That's ok, just follow your heart, do what makes you feel good. You can be part of the LGBT reality as an ally, you can be sure people will appreciate your support a lot!
April 28th, 2020 9:55pm
I am sensing that you're feeling a lot of emotions right now and that's okay! Sexuality is confusing and sometimes it's frustrating because we just want to know what exactly our sexuality is. That is completely common and normal. However, I think it's best accepting the idea that sexuality is fluid; it can change over time, just like gender identity. It's completely okay not to put a label on it right now because you're confused. In order to "deal with it" I'd suggest just opening your mind to the possibility that maybe you don't know your sexuality's label right now but you may one day. Perhaps you like the idea of being gay because it is unfamiliar; maybe you would like to experience dating people of both sexes and see for yourself. Again I am rooting for you.