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I want to be in a sexual relationship with a man but I also like girls in a non-sexual way. Can anybody help me understand what I'm feeling?

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Last Updated: 06/21/2021 at 6:53pm
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August 11th, 2019 3:00am
Some people feel romantically attracted to a certain gender but not sexually and vice versus! You could be biromantic by chance:) and also there could be the possibility that you are bisexual because I used to think I only liked women sexually but I gradually realized I like them romantically too. There’s also such things as polyamory relationships where you could be with multiple people at the same time if everyone is okay with it and have a man and woman in your relationship if desired. Sometimes it’s all just a process of growth and finding yourself, take your time and don’t worry❤️
April 21st, 2020 7:17pm
Only you know what you are feeling, and your personal feelings are valid. Your sexual orientation (heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc) does not have to match your romantic orientation (hetero-romantic, homo-romantic, bi-romantic, pan-romantic, a-romantic, etc). You also don't have to define your orientation if you do not want to. Sexual and romantic orientations are not a choice, but they can change slightly over time and as you explore your feelings more and have more experiences. How you self-identify is up to you. Don't stress over this.
June 2nd, 2020 12:22am
i think you might be bi-curious. i used to feel the same way a few years ago, and i discovered that i'm bisexual. you might not be bi, but i think you'll be more certain about your sexuality depending on whether or not you develop deeper feelings for girls. keep in mind though, that romantic feelings and sexual feelings are different, but may be related, depending on how you perceive love and sex. so you may have sexual feelings for males, romantic feelings for females, vice versa, or maybe something different altogether. the only way to confirm your sexuality, i think, is with experience.
June 23rd, 2020 4:44am
Sexual orientation is the identity of a person in relation to who they're sexually attracted to. On the other hand, romantic orientation is the identity of a person in relation to who they're romantically attracted to. Sexual orientation of a person can be different from their romantic orientation. It's completely normal to like both, men and women, but be sexually attracted only to one of them. Some people may be bisexual (attracted to both men and women) but at the same time be homo-romantic (attracted to the same sex). Some people may even be homosexual and bi-romantic. It's all totally normal.
June 21st, 2021 6:53pm
Hello! First of all, it's perfectly normal though it may feel confusing. My friend and I both experienced this for a while and just decided to not label our sexualities, but if you really want to know, you can look into being bi-romantic! It's possible that you are only sexually attracted to one gender but romantically attracted to more than one. Individuals who identify as biromantic aren't necessarily sexually attracted to the same people they're romantically attracted to. I suggest you look into that and figure out if that label fits you, but other than that, best of luck!