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If you could choose, would you have preferred to have a different sexuality then you have?

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February 9th, 2016 11:58pm
Yes. I'm bisexual, and it would be easier, I think, to be either gay or straight. it's hard being any, I know, but being bi, one of the in the middle sexualites, you're subject to a lot of questions, and sometimes it's really difficult to be proud of it, and not ashamed.
February 27th, 2015 2:52am
Simple answer, no. (Longer answer)Throughout my life, there were moments when I felt so alone, broken and different...I wished and yearned to be accepted and for a long time that made me wished I was what everyone would consider normal...even got me to pretend and tried to force myself to be something I'm not. But as life taught me lessons, I learned that I didn't preferred to be a different sexuality, that "being straight" wouldn't solve the problem because I wasn't the only one struggling and everyone deserved the same love and acceptance. So I learned not to wish or dream to be something I'm not and instead to do my very best to be comfortable with who I am and give others a space to feel happy being who they are.
April 6th, 2015 12:20pm
No. But I already asked myself how it could be. My spirituality teaches that every aspect of our lives is planned to be a challenge to self knowledge and spiritual growing. So, I'm fine with that. :D
March 2nd, 2015 5:46pm
We all want to be accepted. Some time ago I would, but I came to a conclusion that it's the way I am, and to be truly happy I need to be proud of who I am. It may not be a easy thing to do, but it's worth it. Being happy with yourself.
February 26th, 2018 8:48am
That’s a very interesting question.Actually,no because I’m very happy with who I am right now and don’t feel the need to change that.
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August 19th, 2019 2:07am
Luckily, we can't choose! And I say luckily, because diversity is precious and beautiful. I wouldn't choose a different orientation but rather a different society, a more inclusive and open-minded one. But our orientations are part of who we are, they are our way to love and be happy, and they're all beautiful.
October 15th, 2019 10:14pm
No, that isn't for me! I'm bi, and to be honest I'm pretty glad and comfortable in it. i honestly don't see why I would want to change it personally, and it is the best of both worlds! If you are a person who is questioning his or her sexuality, i think that the best thing that you can do is to for one, not force labels onto yourself. Those will come with time. And two, just try to accept it. Accept your wants, needs, and preferences. They are nothing for you to ever, ever be ashamed of. Best wishes!
April 12th, 2015 10:52am
Most definitely not. In terms of sexuality, I consider myself to be pansexual, which is commonly refered to as being gender-blind, meaning that I experience attraction to all genders, basically regardless of what their gender idendity is. I would never choose to change my sexuality because it's what makes me who I am, and I personally consider it something great to not be affected by what's on the outside.
April 23rd, 2015 6:26pm
Short answer: No. Being bi has taught me openness and has allowed me to touch others like me. I also can always tell who the [insert negative word describing a person] is in the room because they give me an odd look when I announce that I'm bi (or say something about having a girlfriend) and that helps me filter out the dirt from my life. I am who I am because I'm bi and bi is what I am. If I were straight, I wouldn't be me.
May 16th, 2015 10:04pm
No. Embrace your sexuality, as you embrace yourself. Your sexuality is only a part of who you are, but without your sexuality, you would not be who you are.
June 12th, 2015 1:07pm
No, I'm happy the way I am! Life may be a little easier if I was straight, but I feel good being me!
June 23rd, 2015 10:25am
well many a time this decision is influenced by our society, the people we live around. we will choose whats good for us, we will also choose what's best for the society. the people who are very confident, brave and "ready to stand against the world" types can only make an independent decision on this topic....
July 27th, 2015 6:58pm
I know you mean orientation but I'm going to talk about a thing that's more important to me. I would choose to be able to enjoy sex even when I don't absolutely perfectly trust the person in every way. I know this has kept me out of a lot of bad situations but it's also making me miserable. I want to be able to have some fun with someone even when the conditions aren't absolutely perfect. I would also like to be attracted only to people who are attracted to me and will admit it.
August 31st, 2015 6:19pm
No not at all. I'm content with my sexuality. At first when I discovered I was bi I wished I could be straight to fit in. But I've learn a lot through the past couple of years. I know that being bisexual isn't a choice and I've learned to accept who I am. Being bi is just a small part of all that I have to offer as an individual so I wouldn't change it. I encourage all of you to love yourself for who you truly are! Don't change for anyone
February 10th, 2016 9:34pm
im pan so im really up for anything . so i think im good with my tastes. though it would be easier if i were straight i guess.
February 12th, 2016 4:04am
Sometimes I wish I were asexual, (Straight Cis Hetero-normative Male) It would make my life a lot less frustrating and despairing. Like A-Romantic Asexual...
February 22nd, 2016 2:21am
No because I feel fine with who I am and I think that as long as I feel okay and enjoy living the life I do with who I want then it's okay. I'm fine with my sexuality whether or not other people accept it.
May 23rd, 2016 9:28pm
No I won't. It was hard enough finding myself finally and I don't want to give that up even though my life would be a lot easier if I was of a different sexuality.
May 30th, 2016 4:08pm
In my opinion, no not really. I am fine with being asexual, it's just who I am. Some people don't understand, and I've been told being asexual wasn't a real thing. I don't care. My feelings are valid.
May 31st, 2016 9:45am
That's hard because it means I could be like everyone else but I'd answer no my sexuality is part of me and if that means I'm not like everyone then I'll do that
June 2nd, 2016 8:49pm
After everything that I have been through just because of being "straight", if I could choose? I would definitely have preferred to have a different sexuality than the one I have now because I think I would rather be attracted to the same sex as I. As long as I don't get hurt? I'd have no problem choosing a different sexuality (if I could) but i can't :) but I am content with the sexuality I have now.
June 27th, 2016 6:31am
There are people who are very happy of where there are in their sexuality and there are others who are confused or not sure. The idea is for you to find the sexuality that makes you feel comfortable and yourself the most. Most importantly that you are happy being in that sexuality.
December 19th, 2016 9:28pm
No. I know it can be hard to be the part of LGBT as there are plenty of people who are judging us and who are hating us but I would never change the way I love and who I love. Because it's who I am and nobody has right to criticize it :/ #LGBTQ
February 7th, 2017 7:50pm
I would not choose to have a different sexuality because my sexuality represents my true self and my true emotions.
March 7th, 2017 3:56am
I'm honestly proud of the sexuality that I have. Everyone else should also be proud of who they are :) I wouldn't change myself from anything other than what I already am.
March 8th, 2017 9:37pm
I think that a long time a go I would have answered yes but not today because I think being gay or straight would have been so much easier because I kind of would have had an easier way of figuring it out. Though now I would say no because if I hadn't gone through what I did I wouldn't be who I am today. I am proud of being pansexual because I don't care about what gender a person is or what genitals they have, I care about who they truly are on the inside❤️❤️
April 11th, 2017 8:06pm
No, I am happy the way I am, and not being sure what you are, is just as awesome, because caring about people is amazing
September 19th, 2017 6:36am
Yes, I am bisexual and I'd have even preferred to be lesbian rather than bi, but obviously I'd much rather be straight as it would be so much easier not having to come out then suffer from homophobic people
October 10th, 2017 2:14am
No, definitely not. I think my sexuality is a part of who I am, and has made me more generous and accepting of other kinds of differences. I would not have had the same kind of relationships with other people in the LGBT+ community, and have met so many people like me who are supportive and loving for who I am. I'm very grateful for my sexuality, and has not made things more complicated for me, but better.
November 7th, 2017 12:23am
This I have definitely struggled with; most of my life sometimes I really think I should have been born the opposite but something went wrong in utero I guess