I'm a girl and I'm bisexual but everyone starts to tease me and say I'm a lesbian what am I supposed to respond to them?
Last Updated: 12/07/2020 at 8:00pm
Chanel Bowen, LCMHC, LCAS, CCS, NCC
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First of all, don’t give into their hate. You are who you are and you know who you are. The hate they give you is NOT acceptable by any means. Don’t let them push you around. You are valid, and being bisexual does NOT change that.
Try to not let them get to you too much, people who feel like teasing you for only half your sexuality don't really deserve your time. Be confident in who you are and you can always say something witty in return to the teasing comments, or saying nothing at all. Just don't let them get the better of you because you are amazing, no matter what.
If they do that because they honestly don't understand what being bisexual actually means, that could be because bisexuality, unfortunately, is still not a widely known reality, and people often misjudge what they don't know. But you can explain to them, patently and with an open heart, what it really means to be bi. If they're doing that just to tease you, you can always tease them back! Not in order to deliberately mock them: you can do that with a smile on your face, so they'll think all this teasing doesn't affect you and with time it should discourage them.
It is your life and your sexuality. If individuals feel they have the right to comment on that, hey are incorrect. However, if you would like to explain to them that you are bisexual then you can say just that. Explain to them your feelings towards your sexuality, and educate them because perhaps they are teasing because they are not sure how to respond. It is not appropriate for them to tease you, but by you explaining then perhaps you will feel better by providing them some knowledge on the subject. Do what you feel comfortable doing, that is the most important thing.
I was in the same situation a few times and I know how it feels when people invalidate your sexuality. Most of the people who say things like that aren't aware that lesbians and bisexuals aren't the same thing and it's kinda hurting us if they still call us lesbians. So you can try to educate them a little bit and tell them that bisexuality isn't the same as homosexuality and that it's even kind of biphobic to call you a lesbian. Just remind them that it's not nice to ignore what you've said about your sexuality and tell them teasing people with their sexuality isn't funny
Sadly it's quite common that bisexuality or pansexuality get dismissed and that people don't take it very seriously. This can really hurt - especially if it's your own friends and family. Our sexuality can be a big part of our identity and we want to be acknowledged, respected, and accepted the way we truly are. If people make you feel invalid because you are bisexual, be open and communicate with them. Tell them that it bothers you, tell them that it hurts you. tell them that this is not funny. Bisexuality is valid, also if you are in a relationship - whether that's with someone of the same or the opposite sex. People have to respect that and educate themselves if they do not know enough about bisexuality. because dismissing or invalidating someone's sexuality is never okay.
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