I'm demisexual - where do I fit into the LGBTQ+ community?
Last Updated: 09/22/2020 at 6:48am
Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.
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Demisexual is on the asexuality spectrum. You are an important part of the community, and even a part of one of the official acronyms! (LGBTQIA+). That’s what the A stands for! Demisexuals can be attracted to any gender, and identify as straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, and more. All are welcomed, totally valid, and a vital part to our community. If you’re looking to find people like you to connect with, there are many subreddits, instagram and tiktok pages, discords, and other online communities that will welcome you with open arms. Some are for the LGBTQIA+ community as a whole, while others are specific to asexuality and demisexuality. I hope this helps!
Demisexuality can be seen as belonging in the asexual spectrum. But personaly (being demisexual), I don't consider it as a source of oppression. People don't get discriminated by being demi. They surely can feel different and have struggles about it... but there isn't any systemic oppression about it. As a pansexual trans man in a gay relationship, I can assure you it isn't like, at all.. So in itself, I would then say that being demisexual doesn't make you fit in the LGBTQI+, because clearly, what gather LGBTQIAP+ (or MOGAI / MOGII) people is the fact that we all get systemic oppression on us due to our "transness", sexual characteristics (for intersex people) and sexual/romantic orientations... I hope it helps. I'm not saying demi can't live violence, insults or be laughed at because of the fact they're demi. But it's not in any way a systemic oppression. So it's important to keep that in mind, as a mark of respect for LGBTQIAP+ people :)
Demisexual are generally associated with asexuals - so they would be part of the A in LGBTQIAP. It may still not be a widely known reality, but awareness is spreading and we can all contribute to it. Demisexual people are definitely part of the community!
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