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I'm most definitely in women and I think I'm a lesbian, however, sex doesn't interest me in the slightest. What's wrong with me?

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Last Updated: 06/03/2019 at 4:47am
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February 22nd, 2016 12:46am
You are asexual. Meaning that while you find women attractive, you don't want to have sex. There is nothing wrong with you. You have a unique sexuality and that sexuality does not mean you have to go out and have sex in order to be "normal" Is a great site to check out for some more support to find others you can identify with
June 3rd, 2016 6:38pm
you could be asexual
January 3rd, 2017 12:47am
Hi there! If I hear you correctly, you are attracted to women and you think you might identify as a lesbian. Being attracted to someone and being intimate with someone are different desires. You can be attracted but the idea of sex can turn you off. I'm not into labeling, but it sounds as if you are defining characteristics of being asexual. Asexuals are physically attracted to others, rely on emotional support of another but is turned off by the idea. It's not anything wrong with the person, it is just how we feel, which is okay!
March 28th, 2017 6:25pm
There are lots of people who are not interested in sex, which is totally ok. Some of these people identify as asexual or aromantic and there are growing communities around this identity. Just because you don't want to have sex doesn't mean you can't have intimacy (physically or emotionally) and healthy relationships. Also, sexuality is fluid so this may change or stay the same over time. Either way, you have the right to pursue relationships in any ways you want!
February 7th, 2018 1:37am
You could be Asexual!! Which means not experiencing sexual attraction. Though, if you do feel sexual attraction, but just aren't interested in it, then you may just be a sex-repulsed/sex neutral lesbian.
May 1st, 2018 6:47pm
Nothing is wrong with you. Some people don't experience sexual attraction at all, it's called asexual. It this case, you would be homoromantic (romantically attracted to the same gender) and asexual. Some people only feel sexual attraction in a trustful relationship or to certain people, which is called demisexual.
July 23rd, 2018 1:02am
Nothing is wrong with you! You could be asexual, which means you are not interested in any sexual activity; though you still have romantic feelings!
November 6th, 2018 6:31pm
There is nothing wrong with you or you don’t feel sexual attraction. If you identify as asexual that’s just a part of who you are and there’s nothing wrong with it. Many people identify as ace. How you identify sexually doesn’t have an impact on how you identity romantically or on future relationships. Don’t force yourself into doing something you don’t feel comfortable doing. Remember to be true to yourself. Focus on how you feel and what makes you happy. If you don’t experience sexual attraction that’s okay but if you’re still struggling with it, it may help you to talk to ace people, whether online or in person.
January 1st, 2019 3:41pm
Oh honey! There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You said that you're a lesbian, but you have not interest in sex, well, then, you're just asexual! And that's awesome :) I guess you can call yourself an asexual lesbian, or if you don't want to, that's fine. Sex isn't for everyone, and there's nothing wrong with not wanting it. Some people just don't see the appeal of it, and hence, they don't want anything to do with it. And that's pretty normal. You shouldn't bash yourself over something you don't have control over, especially if there is nothing wrong with you! :)
June 3rd, 2019 4:47am
It's good you know you like women, and that is a starter. Now, you could also be asexual, meaning you have no sexual attraction to anyone (you can still be a lesbian and be ace!) The whole LGBTQ+ community is full of different sexualities and sometimes we can get lost in it, so i hope that bringing this term to you helped. I want you to know you have a lot of time ahead of you and at some point you will understand what your sexuality is. Allow yourself to explore your sexuality and learn new things about yourself! I wish you luck, and hope some of this helped!