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Im pretty sure im bisexual, but i love this girl not in a sexual manner. Is it possible to be secually attracted to males but romantically attracted to females?

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Last Updated: 06/28/2021 at 5:40pm
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August 6th, 2019 5:03pm
Yes. Sexual and romantic orientation do not always coincide, and you could be homo/hetero/bi...sexual and homo/hetero/bi...romantic. Any combination is possible. I know it may feel a bit confusing at first, but it's all about getting more familiar with this side of you and finding a balance that helps you concile your desires and needs. You can be as happy as anyone else!
September 2nd, 2019 5:50am
Ohh it is totally possible, for example in my case is the other way around, I'm actually sexually attracted to females but romantically attracted to males. It's completely fine, having in mind also that you identify yourself as a bisexual person. It is normal, don't worry. Remember always that love, sexual and romantic attraction can come in many different ways that could include a variety of genders. It's not always like "oh, I only like men" or "oh, I only like women". These days we can see how amazingly people are starting to show it's true colors and express their real feelings to the world soo yeahh it's okay to feel this kind of way about this topic. Hope it helped!
June 21st, 2021 11:18pm
It is definitely possible! I know many people who identify the same way, many people who are only romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to both men and women... there are many flavors of bisexuality and your identity is something that is personal to you. Not all bisexual people will experience their sexuality in the exact same way, but that is totally fine! You may even find that your attraction to the genders changes over time, and that is perfectly fine as well. I'm proud of you for taking time to think critically about your own identity and hope you can find a label that makes you feel at peace.
June 28th, 2021 5:40pm
Absolutely! Sexuality does not have black-and-white rules that you feel like you have to conform to. If you can imagine a relationship (beyond a friendship) with someone, than it counts, no matter what that looks like for you personally. You also don't need a label if that feels restricting for you. At the end of the day, you don't owe anyone an explanation for your sexuality or how you feel, so exploring it in safe ways is completely okay and 100% valid. There are many people in the community who have had similar questions and experiences. You're not alone :)