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I'm straight but I might be demiromantic. Is that a thing? cause from what I've seen people are 50/50 about it

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Last Updated: 02/10/2020 at 3:35pm
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February 10th, 2020 3:35pm
If you feel like you are demiromantic, then you are demiromantic. When it comes to romantic/sexual orientations outside of the well-known few (exclusively gay, exclusively straight, exclusively bi, ace, etc.), feelings towards such labels tend to be 50/50. In the end, people will tell you THEIR truth, and what THEY believe to be correct. If they don't believe in the demiromantic orientation, they will tell you "no, that isn't a thing." Alternatively, if they do believe in it, they will tell you "yes, that is a thing." It's all subjective and, most of the time, they are answering from their own beliefs and not exactly with any true basis. This is your identity, your orientation, not anyone else's. Don't rely on someone else's truth to be your truth. IF you feel like you are demiromantic, and that is a label that you feel most comfortable with, then you are demiromantic -- don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Additionally, if you don't feel comfortable with labels in general, don't feel like you have to label yourself. You do what makes you most comfortable, and identify as what makes you feel most comfortable. So, to answer your question, let me ask you some questions. Do YOU think it is a thing? Do YOU find comfort in the label? Do YOU identify with the label? Only you can answer this question.
August 6th, 2018 2:39pm
Yeah, that's a thing! You can be demiromantic even though you're straight, because being demi doesn't have anything to do with the gender of the person you fall in love with. There's demiromantic heterosexuals, demiromantic bisexuals, etc!
August 12th, 2018 4:42pm
Yes. Sexuality is complicated and different for everyone, so there is no set sexuality, or list of sexualities, you can have. If you think you are a straight demiromantic, then you probably are.
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August 6th, 2019 8:28am
Being demisexual means only experiencing sexual attraction to people you have a deep emotional/intellectual connection and romantic feelings for. But experiencing romantic attraction already involves having deep romantic feelings for someone, I personally had never heard of demiromantic before.