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Anonymous
March 1st, 2015 9:49pm
That is totally okay and totally normal! There is no time as too when is the right time to come out. so do it when you are ready and when you feel comfortable.
Of course! You should only come out whenever you feel is the right time! It's your life, your decision! When and who you choose to tell is up to you.
Part of claiming the power of your coming out process is respecting your own timetable for telling people. It's YOUR life and YOUR sexuality so you deserve to make those choices when you want to.
Of course that's okay! You come out when you want to and when you are ready, don't come out when you think you should, come out when you know you should and it will be so much easier and better, trust me. It's completely normal to want to wait and I don't blame you, it's a scary thought telling people you love that you're different to the way they think you are, so wait. Wait as long as you want. :)
It is totally okay to not want to come out as soon as you figure something out about yourself. You don’t ever have to come out until you feel comfortable with it. Your sexuality and or gender are not something you have to tell to everyone. Tell who you feel comfortable about telling. Never do you have to tell anyone that kind of stuff unless you feel comfortable about it. Just like it is okay not to tell about it if you don’t know 100% for sure if you are what it is. As we all grow, we can change and learn different things about ourself.
Of course it is. Coming out is one of the most personal things you can do. Do it when you're ready. That being said - it's very unhealthy to keep things bottled up. Take this opportunity to evaluate your coming out
Anonymous
June 1st, 2015 2:21pm
yes it's fine. Take your time. You don't have to do anything unless you want to. When you feel it's the right time, then come out.
Of course, you don't have to do it if you don't feel it or if you think it's not a good idead you don't have to do anything for anyone other than you.
Yes! You can come out whenever you feel it's right. Even if you decide to never officially come out because you don't want a label on yourself, that's okay too. If you like someone, you like them. It is your choice if you want to come out with a label.
OF COURSE I have not came out yet and I worry about it somtimes but when the time is right you will be able to tell anyone who you love or care about
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 10:46pm
That is completely fine, lovely! You should come out only when you feel comfortable, and ready, and that is different for everybody. You don't ever have to come out if you don't want to, and should never feel like you have to be forced out. You are your own person, do what is right for you! Best of luck
Of course it is. You should only come out when you feel comfortable doing so. If you want to wait then that is completely acceptable. Don't feel pressured in to doing so, do it when you and only you wants to
It's perfectly alright not to want to come out now,nor even ever. It's completely your choice, and affects you more than anyone else. If it's not safe, or just something you don't want to bother doing, there's no need to do it, and absolutely nothing wrong with not doing it
Of course! You will know when you want to come out and you are under no obligation to come out until you feel comfortable
Anonymous
May 16th, 2017 9:29pm
It certainly is - coming out should happen on your own terms, when you feel comfortable, and you should never feel pressured into it. It can be a very big step for people and you want to make sure it's the right time and place.
It is perfectly okay if you don't want to come out right now. Coming out is a personal choice. Moreover, your safety comes first. You don't have to do it unless you're sure about it.
Coming out is a personal experience for you as a person. There are a lot of factors that can make us feel like we can't come out and tell people things, especially when things like sexuality sometimes come with a big stigma.
Having a fear of coming out is incredibly natural, and there are many reasons. You should come out when you feel ready to.
What you can always do is speak to people in LGBTQIA+ Forums online to be met with likeminded people who may be struggling with the same thing, but can also relate to you in other walks of life. You don't have to come out all at once, it can be a slow process and you can take your time with it.
Anonymous
August 23rd, 2017 3:00am
It is absolutely okay. You are not under obligation to anyone to come out to them, and you can stay in the closet as long as you feel you need to. No matter what, you are still valid.
Of course it's okay to come out later! You should come out when you are comfortable with saying it out loud.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2017 11:58pm
Of course! You should only come out when you feel that it is safe to do so and when you are comfortable doing so!
Yes, that is okay. For a long time, I felt like I just didn't need to, and when I felt like I did, I was too scared. It's okay to take your time.
Absolutely. As long as you feel safest in the closet, it's fine. You really don't need to come out until you're ready, unlike what some people might have you believe.
Of course! Coming out is a personal decision, and it's perfectly normal to not want to do it right now. Not everyone is dying to get out of the closet. Going at your own pace is completely normal. So yes, it is okay to not want to come out right now.
Anonymous
May 1st, 2018 3:29pm
yes- you don't to come out until your ready and even then you still don't have to. its just easier to come out for support from your friends and family
Yes! Coming out is a very personal experience and you should absolutely do it how you want to, and when you want to - and if right now you don't want to do it, that's fine! Everyone has different experiences with this, and if you don't want to tell people right at the moment, you don't have to. You do not owe coming out to anyone else, so do it when and if you are ready to. Whatever you chose to do, and whenever you chose to do it, I wish you the best of luck.
Deciding when and how and to whom to come it is a big step and is never easy. How do you feel about coming out?
Anonymous
June 18th, 2018 7:56pm
Yes, it is completely okay. There is no need to hurry and rush anything. If you feel comfortable it's okay to keep things the way they are.
It is absolutley fine. It should only happen you you feel safe and comfortable too. Coming out can leave you feeling vulnerable, and will happen when you feel it is suppose too!
yes! In fact, it is beyond okay to not feel as if you want to come out. It took me four years to finally come out as a transgender man, and two years prior to that, it took me even more years to come out as a lesbian. You don't have to come out to be validated in Pride.
Yes, absolutely! Nothing is more personal and incontestable than the choices about when and how to come out, and to whom. There may be many different reasons why someone wouldn't want to come out in a certain moment of their life. There's not a right or wrong time to come out, you should do that only when you think it's the best choice for you, when you feel ready and you're totally convinced that no matter what happens, being free to express yourself will make you feel better than the comfort of not exposing yourself. This moment comes at a different time for everyone, so you're totally free to take all the time you need and make this big step when you're ready!
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