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I've always thought of myself as a heterosexual until a few months ago, I'm 15, female and have a boyfriend but don't feel any sexual desire for him. I've started feeling attracted to girls?

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Last Updated: 10/06/2020 at 8:41am
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February 12th, 2018 9:43pm
I know it can be confusing, but it's perfectly normal to have your feelings of sexual attraction change through your life! This sounds like something that is worth thinking more over, and understanding what you're feeling a bit better. And, if you think it would be beneficial, it might be nice to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings, and what it means for both of you. You both deserve to be in a happy and fulfilled relationship. Most importantly, I think it's good to remember that you're still young and it's completely normal to spend some time to figure things out :) It's not a race, and you can take your time, and do what's right for you.
February 22nd, 2018 2:59am
It is possible that you are lesbian or could be bisexual. Either way is ok. Love, Getrude
June 12th, 2018 6:56pm
This is tough. When I was realizing I was bi I was dating a man. I personally had an honest conversation with my partner so we were both on the same page. If you have a honest conversation everything is in the open and you can go forward from there, and I know I felt absolutely miserable until that was done. Good luck.
June 2nd, 2020 5:19pm
That's ok. I've been there and it's pretty tricky. I would say for you not to worry a lot about it and just feel it. However, I understand that sometimes it's hard to forget about it. If you feel confortable you could talk about it with your boyfriend. If not with a friend that you like and trust. Foguring out who you are is always complicated and showing it to the world even more but don't feel pressured to find an answer quickly or to have a label. Do what makes you feel good and comfortable at the moment.
October 6th, 2020 8:41am
I can totally understand the feeling of confusion. It's okay not to have all the answers right now. Sexuality is a spectrum, and wherever you lie on that spectrum is okay. Be sure to love and support yourself and be around loving and supporting people. On 7 Cups, there's an LGBTQIA+ community that is extremely supportive. Not only that, but there are also listeners like me with specific experience of questioning my sexuality. Being able to talk about your feelings and being open with yourself really helps. I'm always available for many things to speak about, but this is near and dear to my heart. I will always accept chats like this without any judgment and from a place of love.