Sexual attraction: What's the difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction?
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Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 7:01pm
sexual is when you want to have sex with someone and romantic is when you want to be with someone but not for sex
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 6:15pm
this is a cliche answer but when you feel comfortable with a person to the point where you can share your life moments with them and feel safe when they are around and want to make them smile ..that is romantic attraction . Sexual attraction is more visual . You see a cute person and think oh maybe i should go talk to them....its not based on the personality of the person , more on their looks .
Romantic Attraction is who you love. Sexual attraction is who you go to bed with. For example you can love both men and women but only want to sleep with women.
The difference between romantic and sexual attraction, most notably, is that sexual attraction strictly has to do with just sexual activities, while romantic attraction may include sex for some people, it deals with developing a relationship with a significant other.
Romantic attraction is the way you feel romantically for a person and sexual attraction is how you feel sexually for a person. For example, you can have a romantic relationship without any sexual attraction.
When you have a romantic attraction for someone, you tend to be flirty and tempted to strike a conversation with the person. You want to be affectionate and crave the cuddles! On the other hand, sexual attraction tends to be a deeper yearn or perhaps a crave. You want more intimacy and to be a little more hands on. There's less of the butterflies and more of a need than a want
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:39pm
Romantic attraction is most commonly known as 'love', whilst sexual attraction is often deemed 'lust'. When one is romantically attracted to another, he, she, or it has emotional attachment to that person, but when he, she, or it is sexually attracted to another, there is no emotional attachment, but rather a desire for the other person based upon looks or what pleasure can be derived sexually from that person.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 1:46am
With a sexual attraction, you don't see yourself with them in the future. You don't see yourself marrying the person. All you want to do is be with them for a night then leave. Romantic is the opposite, you want to be with them as their girl/boyfriend and could see yourself having a future with them.
Romantic attraction is something that might last a life time, while sexual attraction might not. It just depends on your views!
I feel that romantic attraction is when you feel with your heart and you start thinking about the future with this person. While sexual attraction is when you only care about that persons body or your main goal is to get them into bed.
Love VS Lust. Whereas love is an intense feeling of deep affection, lust varies (being your sexual attraction) as being a very strong sexual desire. In one hand, love can have lust characteristics, but it deals with commitment and dedication to the person you feel this way towards. Sex can be involved, but you're equally happy with the person and with love you may never even need sex (depending, of course, on the person). Lust is different as you love the person for their body, and you'd only want to "get with them" per say. Hope this helps. :)
If you only imagen things like sleeping with that person and etc. then its sexual attraction. But if you imagen building a life and living with that person and not just having sex, then it’s romantic..
Romantic Attraction is when you are romantically attracted to that person in ways like how they are as a person and what they do for you and the people you love and stuff like that. Sexual Attraction is when you like someone on how they look physically.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 12:41pm
Long story short, sexual attraction is when you feel attracted to someones outdside, their body but not their soul, like when you think someone is "hot" by only looking but never really meet that person. Romantic attraction is when you are actually in love someone, not just for the persons body but for who she is.
Sexual attraction is fueled by physical desires. It can have romantic attraction involved, but not necessarily. Romantic attraction is more personal, not physically or chemically driven.
Romantic attraction is attraction to the sum total of a person, while Sexual attraction is the attraction to the physical qualities of a being.
Both are just the worse. getting attracted proposing, proceeding and then all ends up in beak up. A real relationship is supposed to happen automatically. Of course there are exceptions. I see there is no difference between them both but on the other end i think an unconditional attraction would be the ideal one.
The most simplistic way to explain it is that sexual attraction is just that: a natural desire to have sex with a specific person, it can be an immediate desire upon seeing them or a more gradual one that develops over time, but in the end the base desire is for sex with that person. Romantic attraction is a desire for whatever you perceive is a romantic relationship with a specific person, can also be immediate or more gradual.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 12:49am
Romantic attraction is being attracted to the way someone acts, the way they talk to you or how safe you feel with them. Sexual attraction encompasses that but is to the persons body instead of their actions
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 11:23pm
Romantic: wants to date them, kiss them, cuddle with them, hang out with them, etc,
Sexual: wants to have sex with them and that's all
Sexual attraction is only wanting anything physical and sexual. Romantic attraction, in my personal opinion, is something more than just the physical and sexual aspects. Of course, it includes the sexual attractions, but also involves the little things, like just being able to spend time together, without saying anything, and just being in each other's presence. Romantic attraction is a very special thing, and it's important to hold onto something like that if you can find it :)
Romantic attraction is when you are purely attracted to someone on an emotional level. Sexual attraction involves the physical side of a relationship.
Romantic attraction is the desire to just be with someone. It is the love of the other person's personality and feeling content with that person. Sexual attraction is the desire to have sexual relations with someone else. Often times sexual attraction goes hand in hand with romantic attraction. However, some people don't feel sexual attraction at all. That is called asexual, but it doesn't mean they don't want a romantic relationship.
Sexual attraction is "attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest." Romantic attraction is 'an emotional response that most people often feel that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the person that the attraction is felt towards." Sexual attraction is the sexual desire for someone, whereas romantic attraction is the desire to be in a relationship with someone.
sexual attraction is more the feeling of finding someone physically attractive and wanting to complete acts of a sexual nature with someone. Romantic attraction is more the feeling of wanting to be with someone and make them happy.
Of course the lines between the two can be blurred and you can feel both or just one of these types of attraction towards one or many people. There's no clear or right way for you to be attracted to someone.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 1:11am
Good question! Romantic attraction is extremely hard to distinguish between sexual attraction–mostly because it's easy to feel both of these for the same person. Generally, you can find little differences in the types of attractions–like how a romantic attraction may make you feel warm and gooey in one place, and a sexual attraction makes you feel warm and gooey in, well, another place. It honestly depends on the person though! It may be even harder to distinguish between which is which for the person sitting next to you!
Romantic attraction is an emotional response. It often results in the desire to form a relationship with the person of interest, but not always. Often times, we see it described in fiction as "being drawn to" or "feeling a pull toward" someone.
Sexual attraction is an involuntary impulse to have physical contact with another person. For some people it develops over time while for others it can be an instant response. The one factor that never changes is the desire to have physical contact with the person of interest.
It's important to note that sexual and romantic attraction can exist separately or simultaneously.
Romantic attraction is more emotional whereas sexual attraction is about the physical side of maybe wanting to kiss the person or have sex with them. The emotional romantic attraction could be you want to be there for them, go out and spent time with them or even just talk to them and just like being with them or talking to them.
Romantic attraction may or may not include sexual attraction. The main difference between them is that romantic attraction focuses more on the emotional side of the relationship, while sexual attraction focuses entirely on the carnal desire that a person feels.
Sexual attraction is just based on your human instinct.
Romantic attraction takes on 3 things, mind, heart,and instict.
So the difference is that sexual attraction is pretty simple, its a brain reaction that needs to be fed, tamed, or stopped sometimes.
Romantic attraction is a thing you cant stop nor tame nor start that easily.
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