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So im a boy and im gay. Ive recently been having dreams about my best friends that are girls sexually. I dont know if im gay straight or bi. Any ideas what this means?

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Last Updated: 08/12/2019 at 10:14am
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February 12th, 2018 5:44pm
Usually, I would say don't pay dreams much attention. They can be weird and are usually just your brain working out things in a random way. But, I think the only reason you should take it into consideration, is if you also have feelings about these things while you're awake. If you think about your female friends in this way when you're awake, or feel some sort of attraction to them, then it could mean you're bisexual :) It all depends on what you're feeling, I think. If it's really just dreams, then it might not really mean anything.
February 13th, 2018 6:00am
What has already been said on the topic has been expertly said. I would add as well and stress the point that dreams are co fusing and we do not really know for sure why we do it. So normally dreams while they may show some people things, for others it could be random and abritary. In the end though its how you feel outside of the dream, if you still feel that you reciprocate and would enjoy an encounter of that nature with female friends, then yes possibly you could be bi. But in the end the brain works in weird ways and sometimes we just got to tell our brain, to stop working up and focus, I hope this helped! With the highest regardes, FunkNome
April 9th, 2018 11:21pm
Sexuality can definitely be confusing. Your dreams could mean nothing, or they could mean something. Either way, gay or bi..., it's really just a case of figuring out who you are. Would you be willing to marry a guy? What about a girl? Think these things out, no need to stress over it. You'll know eventually.
June 4th, 2018 6:50pm
If you wake up and still have these feelings, you might be bi- or even straight. It all depends. These things will sort themselves out eventually. Keep an eye on your emotions and sooner or later you'll know for sure.
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August 12th, 2019 10:14am
It depends: how did that dream make you feel? You can try to explore your feelings, imaging yourself with different people and be as honest with yourself as you can about how that makes you feel. Your emotional and physical response to fantasies about yourself with men or women, in sexual and romantic scenarios, will tell you what your orientation. You could be gay or bi, but if you've always been attracted to men and still are, those dreams don't mean you're straight.