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What does it mean to be Queer?

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December 30th, 2018 12:40am
For me, the definition of queer is to not be just straight. Instead liking people that aren't the opposite gender. such as somebody who is non-binary or gender-fluid. Yet the main point of all the labels in LGBT, is to find comfort. If one does not find it comfortable to be called queer, they don't need to call themselves that. This is all about finding comfort within yourself. If labeling yourself is something that provides comfort, as it does for me and may others, go for it! But typically, as time progresses, it is less about who you like, and more about who you are.
April 10th, 2020 3:31am
Queer can mean many different things. It can mean that you are questioning your gender identity or sexual orientation, or it can simply be used as a broad term for someone who is LGBTQ that may not particularly identify as anything specific. Many people who are unsure of their sexuality or gender identity use the term queer, as well as people who may not want to identify with a more specific term, like someone who does not want to be labeled. It can also be used for people who have a rare or misunderstood orientation or identity, and simply use that term because it is more understood than say, genderfluid biromantic demisexual.
April 29th, 2020 8:10pm
The short answer is that "queer" is an umbrella term used to describe anyone who isn't exclusively straight/ heterosexual. For example, if I were talking about a group of women, two of which identified as lesbians, and one who identified as bisexual, I might say they're queer women. Just calling them lesbians leaves out the bisexual, so the term "queer" encompasses all their identities. Queer can also be used to encompass the entire LGBTQ+ community (ex. "queer people"). That said, however, some LGBTQ+ people aren't comfortable with the word, as it has historically been a slur used against not-straight/ gender nonconforming people. Others are completely okay with it and are trying to reclaim the word. Others still use it to identify themselves because they're unsure of their specific identity or don't like specific labels.
July 3rd, 2016 4:04pm
A term which refers to individuals or groups who “queer” or problematize the hegemonic notions of sex, gender and desire in a given society. Genderqueer people possess identities which fall outside of the widely accepted sexual binary (i.e. "men" and "women"). Genderqueer may also refer to people who identify as both transgendered AND queer, i.e. individuals who challenge both gender and sexuality regimes and see gender identity and sexual orientation as overlapping and interconnected.
July 13th, 2016 12:18am
Queer is not identifying yourself as neither male nor female. Generally people use they/them pronouns instead of the "normal" him/her.
July 13th, 2016 5:04am
If you look up the definition of queer, it says, (and I quote) "a homosexual man." So it is a man, or somebody who identifies as a man, that is gay, or likes the same sex.
July 31st, 2016 10:11pm
Queer is a term used to explain anyone who isn't heterosexual or cisgender. People questioning their sexuality or gender may call themselves queer because they do not know what to "call" themselves yet.
August 10th, 2016 7:41pm
The word "Queer" is usually a very derogatory term that people use to describe somebody who likes the same sex. It's usually used in a disrespectful or hateful tone when spoken. It's an insult used towards mostly gay men but it can be used towards women as well.
August 12th, 2016 5:52am
It means you are not in line to what some conservative folks see as normal but seeing as how progressives are starting to get courage in promoting anti-sexism campaigns, this will soon be one of the norms
August 14th, 2016 4:18am
In today's society the word Queer means to be in the LGBT+ community. It is mostly used against gay men or lesbian women.
August 21st, 2016 9:53pm
The term 'Queer' is another word for gay or homosexual. This is when a male is attracted to males and a female is attracted to females. Homosexuals are a part of the LGBT+ community, where the 'L' stands for lesbians (female attracted to females) and the 'G' stands for gays (male attracted to males). Queer could also be used for the 'B' in LGBT+ which stands for bisexual which is an individual who is attracted to both the same and opposite sex.
August 24th, 2016 8:07pm
Queer can have many different definitions, depending on the person. Some people do not like the term Queer because for many years it was used as an insult for someone in the LGBT community but in recent years it has been reclaimed. It can mean being weird, different, or special. But in the end it is up to interpretation. What does it mean to you?
August 27th, 2016 8:12pm
Queer is an offensive way of calling someone homosexual and is generally used to upset people who may or may not be gay.
August 31st, 2016 6:45pm
As a pansexual transboy, I'd say being Queer is something we all as the LGBTQ+ community identify with differently. To me it means non conforming to the gender binary, or heteronormativity. Queer is often used as an umbrella term for everyone in the LGBTQ+ community.
September 2nd, 2016 5:56pm
What it means to be Queer differs from person to person. Generally being Queer means to not identify as being heterosexual, heteromantic and. Remember, not everyone likes the term queer, so don't use it to refer to someone if you don't have their consent or if they aren't comfortable with it.
September 3rd, 2016 1:53pm
To be queer is to identify as something other than heterosexual, cisgender. Being intersex and being confused about your sexuality and gender also counts.
September 4th, 2016 10:22pm
Being queer is understanding that my sexuality is fluid. I am not straight but I don't want to label my sexuality.
September 7th, 2016 2:34pm
If you're queer, you're not straight. Anybody who is questioning, bi, pan, aro, ace, poly, gay, demi, or has a fluctuating sexuality is considered queer. Something to note is that queer is a slur, and though it's been reclaimed by those who are in the LGBTQA+ community, it's still a personal choice as to whether or not you use the term. If you identify as genderqueer, you do not identify as cisgender.
September 9th, 2016 10:51am
It's a term used for those who aren't heterosexual or cisgender. It's originally meaning "Strange" or "Peculiar"
September 9th, 2016 10:57pm
To be queer is to be part of the lbgt community. It's basically like if you don't want to label yourself, a lesbian or bisexual or something. You can just call yourself queer. Basically- it means that you're not straight.
September 25th, 2016 10:44pm
Being Queer just means that somebody does not identify as either straight (heterosexual or exclusively being attracted to people of a gender other than their own) or cisgendered (meaning that they identify as the same gender they were assigned at birth, usually by a doctor) or both. Queer is an umbrella term and many identities fall under it but some use it to describe their gender or sexuality not in an umbrella term way but just as the label they feel most comfortable with!
October 2nd, 2016 4:50pm
The literal definition of the word Queer is odd, however the slang definition can be used to describe someone who is homosexual.
October 6th, 2016 2:05am
Inclined to be attracted to people of the same sex. This doesn't always mean gay. Bi, pan, demi sexual etc...
October 7th, 2016 2:57am
Being queer is just another word for bisexual. And bisexual means that you're attracted to all genders.
October 8th, 2016 10:40pm
Being queer is usually defined as any identity that is either non heterosexual (bi, pan, homosexual, asexual etc) or not as cis ( trans, non binary etc)
October 16th, 2016 10:58pm
Queer is generally defined as having any sexuality/gender difference from being straight or cisgender. This can include even questioning your sexuality
October 19th, 2016 2:30pm
There are different types of queer. It can be a term used for someone who is gay, or it can be used to describe gender. In the case it is used to describe gender, it is most commonly used as an umbrella term. This means that they're probably unsure where they lie on the gender spectrum (only that they're not male or female) or that they don't feel a need to place a precise label on themselves.
October 20th, 2016 2:02am
To be queer it just means you identify as either not cisgender, not heterosexual, and/or not heteroromantic
October 21st, 2016 9:29pm
It means that you are free to express yourself as out of the ordinary. But as the saying goes 'there's nowt as queer as folk' it also means that you are unique, just like everyone else. :)
October 29th, 2016 1:56am
To me, it means having a special capability to love someone despite their gender. Or depending on where you fall on the spectrum, not loving anyone at all or specific people or this or that. The beauty of it all is that theres such a wide spectrum.