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What does it mean to be Queer?

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Last Updated: 11/26/2021 at 5:41am
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February 21st, 2018 1:21pm
queer can mean anything, being part of the lgbt community is one way to describe it. your sexual orientation or gender does not mean weather you are or not, its your choice
April 5th, 2018 10:36pm
“queer" is an adjective used by some people whose sexual orientation is not exclusively heterosexual.
April 7th, 2018 10:57am
Being queer is an umbrella term for not conforming to being heterosexual and cisgender. It used to be used as a slur but is being reclaimed by the LGBTQ+ community.
April 14th, 2018 5:31am
Originally, the word "queer" meant to be weird or unusual. In the LGBTQ+ community, it means to not be the "default" person you were originally born as (i.e. being cis and/or straight.
April 15th, 2018 10:36pm
Most people would use it as a term for weird or odd, but queer truly just means being homosexual or gay
April 20th, 2018 5:37am
To be anything different than the strict set heteronormative standards used buy most of society, whether that be sexuality other that heterosexual hetero-romantic, a gender identity non-conforming with that if your birth, or something else that sets you apart
May 13th, 2018 10:27am
Queer is a basic umbrella term that is used for either sexuality or gender. Sometimes it is used to help someone figure out what they're feeling (same-sex feelings for example) and they're not sure how to describe themselves. Sometimes it is used for people who prefer not to use labels, and all of this is perfectly okay.
May 23rd, 2018 2:09am
To be queer is to be a sexuality that differs from heterosexual in any way or having a gender identity different than cisgender (although this is usually referred to as genderqueer)
May 23rd, 2018 7:10am
to be queer is another word for gay/lesbian, being queer is nothing to be ashamed of and should not be seen as a bad thing. if you have any further questions about this, message me and i’ll try my best to support and answer all your questions you may have.
May 23rd, 2018 10:11pm
To be queer means to be a part of the lgbt+ community. Most people who identify as queer don’t have a label that fits them specificily.
May 30th, 2018 12:17am
one definition is "strange"- the other means "gay/homosexual"...
June 13th, 2018 1:35am
Being queer can mean lots of things for lots of people! A lot of time people identify as queer because they don’t find a specific label that fits or they just don’t want to define themselves. Both are good and valid reasons.
June 14th, 2018 5:48pm
Queer is an umbrella term for a person who belongs in the LGBT+ community, or isn't heterosexual and/or cisgender. Originally meaning "strange" or "peculiar", queer came to be used pejoratively against those with same-sex desires or relationships in the late 19th century.
June 15th, 2018 5:55am
To me, being queer means to be different. A person doesn’t have to be in the LGBTQ+ community to identify as queer.
June 22nd, 2018 7:01am
to me being queer is being LGBTQ+. well, more specifically like more than one gender sexually/romantically. it doesn’t always mean the same to everyone.
June 22nd, 2018 1:05pm
For me, being a non-binary ace/aro, being able to identify my differences and just being able to proudly accept who I am on a daily basis is what it means to be queer.
June 22nd, 2018 7:11pm
I find that the best explanation for this comes from the colors of the Pride flag. Red - Red symbolizes life. The queer community is bursting at the seams with life and joy. Orange - Orange represents healing. In a homophobic society, there is plenty of room for healing and becoming an ally. Yellow - Yellow represents sunlight. It sends a message of being yourself, rather than hiding in the shadows. Green - Green represents nature, and that what we are is perfectly natural. Blue - Blue repr sents serenity, and that we wish to live peacefully alongside our straight counterparts. Purple - Purple represents spirit. That even if you put us down, we will overcome.
June 22nd, 2018 7:47pm
To be queer keans you identify as anything ither than Straight, but you don't have a definitive label! This makes you part of the LGBT+ community!
June 28th, 2018 12:35pm
To not define yourself as the normal gender or sexuality standards. Initially queer meant weird therefore it was transferred to the lgbtq society
June 29th, 2018 1:35pm
A queer person is someone who identifies outside of "heterosexual" or "cisgender", often people who are members of the LGBT community, but generally are people who are in some way attracted to the opposite sex or identify as something outside of their birth gender.
July 1st, 2018 2:49am
It means to be part of the LGBTQ+ community or be weird. Gay, in case you were wondering, means to be happy or be a man who is attracted to only other males.
July 1st, 2018 7:44am
elating to a sexual or gender identity that does not correspond to established ideas of sexuality and gender, especially heterosexual norms
July 1st, 2018 11:14am
To be in the LGBT+ community, therefore you either feel attracted to the same gender, feel like you belong in a different gender, feel no sexual desires and etc
July 5th, 2018 9:24am
Queer is an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities who are not heterosexual or cisgender. The word was usually used with the meaning "strange" or "peculiar".
July 7th, 2018 6:39pm
It means your identity and/or sexuality doesn't match the mainstream, nor the typical labels like gay, lesbian etc. People who are non-binary might use the term Queer because gay = 2 guys and lesbian = 2 girls, to which they are not a guy or girl. Queer is a vague way of telling others that you're a part of the LGBTQ+ community without disclosing your gender or sexual preferrence
July 19th, 2018 8:03am
Someone who identifies as LGBTQ+ but isn't quite sure what genders are their romantic or sexual preference.
July 21st, 2018 7:27pm
Queer means to be something a little different to the normal society standards sexuality and gender stand point and to just be who ya are on the inside
July 26th, 2018 12:21am
To be queer means to be powerful. I am pansexual, and I have heard “queer” as an insult many times. The LGBTQ+ community reclaimed that word, and now “queer” means a powerful and beautiful person.
July 26th, 2018 12:33am
It's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't the heterosexual norm. It does not determine your gender like lesbian or gay.
July 26th, 2018 5:59pm
It means that you’re part of the LGBT+. You could be gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, pansexual, asexual, etc