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What does it mean to live authentically as an LGBTQ person?

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bunnyofdarkness
May 6th, 2015 10:53am
It can mean anything you want :) Being LGBTQ doesn't define you as a person, it is just one aspect of who you are. Being open with people and not hiding your sexuality could be considered living "authentically" as a LGBTQ person, but in the end there is no one way to fit in to this category. We are all just normal people, and a hugely diverse subsection of society. You and another person of your orientation may have nothing more in common than that. Don't feel that if you don't conform to a stereotype, you aren't part of the community, because that isn't the case. Just be you. Hope that helped.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
May 13th, 2019 3:23pm
It just means being true to yourself, and following your heart! There is no "good" or "bad" way to be LGBT. There is only what makes you feel happy and free, and that is your path to a fullfilling, authenic life. Everyone walks their own path and lives sexuality/gender identity in the way that most fits their inclinations and desires. What makes us a community is the mutual respect for every individual way to live one's own nature, and the genuine support for one another. So even if someones doesn't adhere to the stereotypical "models" of LGBT people, they're just as authentic, as lloved and supported, because being true to ourselves is what is all about.
plumnectarine
May 17th, 2015 11:53pm
It means to just be you. There's no requirement to date someone of the same sex or anything, just be you
WarmingTea1323
September 8th, 2015 7:25am
It means to just be yourself. Don't try to "fix" yourself or change who you are. Learn to love yourself the way you are.
Emily619
October 27th, 2015 11:39pm
In order to live authentically as an LGBTQ person, all would be necessary is to have.. *(Feeling) sexual/romantic attraction to the same sex *(Feeling) sexual/romantic attraction to both sexes *Not fitting in comfortably with your birth sex
Anonymous
June 14th, 2022 2:23pm
To live authentically is to live as you- the true you. To not hide behind the closet (Literally and figuratively). I think in today's society it can be quite hard to feel as though you are being true to yourself but one the first ways to overcome that is through acceptance of yourself which, as an LGBTQ person, I can tell you first-hand, can be difficult. You should be able to openly expressive yourself and though that may come with the judgment from close minded individuals, you must always remember that you are being you and for that very reason alone, there's nothing wrong with it.
RhoenH
March 23rd, 2020 4:41am
For me that means being honest about who I am, and what I represent. It means dealing with any internalized homophobia, transphobia, biphobia, etc that you may have. It means having the firm conviction that there is nothing wrong with how you identify or who you love. It doesn't necessarily mean being out to everyone, or having everyone know how you identify, rather it just means living your truth as you are. I don't have to let everyone know that I am trans, but I let people know my pronouns and that i expect them to respect them, and I will respect them. It means being firm in what I stand for and acting with integrity. It means not allowing myself to internalize any negative messages about my identity, but rather to affirm myself in the truth of who I am.
Xannn3
April 24th, 2018 11:27am
To live authentically as an LGBTQIA+ person, it means that you are honest with yourself and who you are. Accepting others is important, but accepting yourself can be one of the most valuable skills.
EndlesslyDreaming
November 21st, 2017 3:45pm
don't hide who you are. if you don't like guys : don't date them! if you don't like girls : Don't date them! if you like everyone date who you want. don't let others tell you who to be.
tranzferdinand
June 20th, 2017 8:57am
To live. To be authentically you. To succumbed to the pressure to be as respectable and appealing to cisgender or heterosexual people, though many of us have to for safety. To respect and love other LGBT people and our own selves.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2017 10:40am
Being LGBTQ in a way that feels right to you like other questions you will have to answer for yourself. It is your life and at the end of the day. Maybe it means outing yourself to your entire family at your school and workplace. Or actively supporting you local community and so on. But it is not a must.
HelpfulHumorousApple
January 24th, 2017 11:06am
To be an LGBT person means accepting yourself and not being ashamed. It means to be part of a community, in which we help each other and fight for our rights and freedom. It does not mean it's the only think important to you, as you have a life which is not directed by your sexuality, but it does mean it's something you should care about and fight for, until we reach a time when there will be no need to be coming out, as it will be as common as dying your hair or just listening to music.
pxstelparadise
July 5th, 2016 8:53pm
Someone who is lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or anything else that falls under the wide spectrum of gender and sexual identity/orientation
gracefulTree58
June 21st, 2016 6:36pm
To live authentically as an LGBTQ person is to be true to yourself and to do things that keep yourself safe and happy!
Rogue1234
June 14th, 2016 3:09pm
It means to be who you are and don't hide anypart of who you are due to the fact of hate or other peoples opinions
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 1:17am
Everyone's authentic self is different from person to person. Many LGBTQ people live authentically as in being who they truly are 100% of the time without hiding or pretending they're cisgender and/or heterosexual.
blissfulPicture49
March 1st, 2016 6:01pm
It means being who you are! who you was born to be! Living your life to the max and not letting the fact you're part of the LGBTQ community stop you from doing what you want... YOU ROCK!
Elysian
January 20th, 2015 10:58pm
Live as you are. If you identify as any sexuality or gender other than straight or cisgender, you are living authentically. You do not have to do anything special, just exist and behave in a way that feels right. Be true to yourself.
Robbymirage
September 14th, 2015 10:51pm
If you are living authentically as an LGBTQ+ person, you are embracing how you were born and how you were brought up. When you're living authentically as an LGBTQ+ person, you are proud of who you are, despite the ridicule that you receive, and despite some cruel judgements you might experience. You love who you please, and you express yourself how you please.
KindnessCounts
July 21st, 2015 5:51am
Generally this means being open about one's sexuality but not obsessively. Being honest with those who need to know about one's sexuality and comfortable discussing it or openly dating. Living authentically as an LGBTQ person is really more like simply being one's self.
Oreo
July 20th, 2015 2:40pm
There is no wrong way to live as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. If anything, the fight for equality demonstrates the diversity of human beings that deviate from the stereotypical or conventional. With this movement, new facets of the community are revealed, and sometimes the only thing they share in common is that one label, with every single other thing unique to them and them alone. It all depends on how you choose to express yourself.
HappyPlaces
May 28th, 2015 6:12pm
I would guess as a Bisexual person, that as long that you're some how in the LGBTQ category, you live the life. No need to change your life style in anyway, just keep on living
Anonymous
April 24th, 2015 10:19pm
There is no legitimate authenticity of being in the lgbtqia+ community. All you really have to do is be someone who is in the lgbtqia+ community, that's it.
BlueYozhik
April 8th, 2015 5:06am
I believe that one lives authentically as an LGBTQ person by seeking out the method of living that is most attuned to one's personal understanding of happiness, given the limits of one's available environment. It is not possible to be safely open about all aspects one's identity in all contexts. An unfortunate truth of the contemporary world is that for an LGBTQ person, many situations demand caution, and there are times when openness can not only be perceived as an invitation for all manner of abuse, but even endanger one's life. To exercise caution in revealing these aspects of one's identity in potentially dangerous situations is no less authentic than openly expressing them, and need not be perceived as a source of shame, or a sign of disingenuous behaviour.
heavenlygrob98
March 22nd, 2015 1:16am
To live authentically as a LGBTQ person means whatever it means to you! If you feel like your life would best be spent as a social advocate for our community, then do so! If you want to live quietly as an LGBTQ person, go for it! There are no "right" or "wrong" ways to be an LGBTQ person. Live however you want to, and live authentically for you.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2015 12:51am
Being in the realm of LGBTQ does not change the fact that you are human like everyone else on Earth. Just embrace yourself and live your life the way you want to without worrying about labels. Now that is living authentically.
joyfulSunrise
January 26th, 2015 4:47pm
Today's society places a lot of emphasis on your status as an LGBTQ person (perhaps rightly so, since we're still fighting for equality). But I would say living authentically simply means being true to yourself: not hiding traits that you're ashamed of, or that you think don't fit with how others see you. Don't hide something about yourself regardless of whether it's an LGBTQ stereotype or not - just be yourself!