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What is asexuality?

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What is asexuality?
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December 14th, 2014 4:51am
It's not being sexually attracted to anyone. Someone who is asexual may bet attracted romantically to someone or they may be both aromantic and asexual, which would mean they are not sexually or romantically attracted to anyone. Someone who is asexual may still have sex, but it is a different experience from someone who does have sexual attraction for others. Some who are asexual may cuddle or kiss or hold hands, others wont enjoy those. It's a bit of a spectrum, but in general it is simply a lack of sexual attraction to others.
December 10th, 2014 9:46am
Asexuality is no sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in sexual activity. Some asexual's do obtain a small desire for sexual interaction if they'd like to have children. There is significant variation among people who identify as asexual.
December 10th, 2014 10:51am
It is a sexuality where the person doesn't feel sexual attraction towards either gender. It is estimated that 1% of people in the UK identify themselves as asexual. Asexuality is described as an orientation, unlike celibacy which is a choice. It is possible for asexual to be in a hetero-romantic relationship where you want to be with someone, know about them and share their emotions. It is not a disorder and there is no correlation between childhood trauma and asexuality. So as a member of the LGBTQ or MOGII, it is essential to understand that we are all just human who should support each other, no matter what gender, identity and orientation.
December 24th, 2014 2:35pm
Asexuality is when you feel no sexual attraction towards anyone. This doesn't mean that you cannot love or be romantically involved with someone, you are just not sexually involved
December 29th, 2014 10:53pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation is which a person experiences little or no sexual attraction to others, no matter their gender identity. People in this spectrum might also refer to themselves as ace. If you want to understand a little more about this topic and what asexuality means I highly encourage you to check out AdventuRin's post in this topic here:
September 15th, 2016 1:52pm
Asexuality, in general, is the lack of sexual attraction. A person who is asexual doesn't feel sexual attraction to others, but could still choose to have sex or engage in sexual activities. Some do not experience any sort of physical reaction, and some do. Asexuality can also be thought of as a spectrum, where some people have zero attraction, attraction only sometimes (grey-asexual), and others may only experience sexual attraction after a strong bond is formed, known as demisexual. This sexuality can be combined with any sort of romantic orientation, because sex and romance are not inherently linked together.
January 29th, 2018 5:50am
Asexuality is,by definition, the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity. It may be considered akin to preferences like heterosexuality, homosexuality and bisexuality. Asexual people, though lacking sexual attraction to any gender, might engage in purely romantic relationships, while some others might not.
December 17th, 2014 4:14am
when you don't have a sexual attraction or desire for someone. but rather a romantic attraction or a different kind of attraction.
December 21st, 2014 7:14pm
Asexuality is sexual orientation of "none (or nearly none)". Some graysexuals (those who experience very rare sexual attraction) lump themselves in with asexuals sometimes. Asexuality is not a romantic orientation though. Someone who is asexual may still fall in love with anyone of their romantic orientation. To be devoid of romantic feelings and sexual feelings would make one an aromantic asexual.
January 3rd, 2015 4:49am
asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction towards another being. asexuality doesn't always mean a lack of sex drive and asexuality can derive from many things for each person, also being a sexual orientation or rather a lack of one, it cannot be chosen and a person can be born with this. there are many areas of asexuality, there is also gray asexuality, where a person can experience sexual attraction or desires but that has many limited circumstances. asexuality is not black and white, it as well is a spectrum.
May 10th, 2015 2:51pm
Asexuality (or nonsexuality) is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone in general. They are someone who does not experience sexual attraction.
June 17th, 2015 5:09pm
A= no attraction Sexuality= sexual attration Asexuals don't experience sexual attraction, although they may engage in sexual activity for personal reasons, such as for their partner.
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June 22nd, 2015 3:42pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation defined by a lack of sexual attraction, where sexual attraction is a pull or allure toward a specific person in which you feel you want to partake in sexual activities with them specifically. It can also refer to a spectrum of sexual orientations for not experiencing sexual attraction; experiencing it in rare, fleeting, or confusing ways; or experiencing attraction only under specific circumstances. Though behavior does not determine orientation (as in, partaking in sexual activities does not invalidate someone's asexuality), there are some who experience sexual attraction regularly but have such a strong aversion to sex, they feel more comfortable identifying somewhere along the asexual spectrum.
January 25th, 2016 3:56pm
Asexuality is a sexual orientation that is characterized by the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, regardless of gender or appearance or whatever. There are different "flavors", so to speak, of asexuality, including demisexuality (only experiencing sexual attraction sometimes), graysexuality (someone who has less-than-average levels of sexual attraction), and others. Asexuals can enjoy sex, can be neutral about it, or can think that it's gross. It all depends on the person. Asexuals also can enjoy watching porn/masturbating but they tend to think of it in a different way than most sexual people do.
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July 8th, 2019 10:41am
It's an orientation that involves the lack of sexual attraction. If you don't experience sexual attraction at all and you aren't interested in having sex, it's probably your case. Asexual people of course can have a normal and happy life just like anyone else, and they can still have a fulfilling romantic relationship. It's important to be very honest about it with potential partner, so one day you can find one whose needs match yours.
December 17th, 2019 4:55pm
The dictionary definition of asexuality is “the quality or characteristic of having no sexual feelings or desires.” However, there are different identities on the spectrum of asexuality besides identifying as asexual (often abbreviated to “ace”). Being aromantic (often abbreviated to “aro”) means you won’t be attracted romantically to everyone. Being gray-asexual or grayromantic just means that you are somewhere in the ace/aro zone. Demisexual means you require a strong emotional connection with someone to be attracted to them. It’s also important to keep in mind that your romantic orientation might be different than aromantic even if you are asexual.
December 11th, 2014 12:26pm
asexuality is an individual's lack of interest to anyone or low to absent interest in sexual activity.
April 25th, 2015 6:53pm
Someone who has no sexual interest towards anyone, or even a lack of interest or desire in performing sexual activity.
May 27th, 2015 10:44pm
Asexuality is described as having no sexual attraction to anyone of any gender. It's much different from celibacy, as asexuals don't abstain from sex for whatever reason, they just have no interest in it. There's different sub-groups of asexuality. Some asexuals experience sexual arousment but have no desire to act on those feelings. Asexuals can still have relationships just without sexual interaction.
June 4th, 2015 7:11am
Asexuality is a term used to describe people who feel absolutely no sexual attractions, desires, or feelings. As some of them could be romantic, some of them are also aromantic (where you are not attracted to someone romantically). You can be both! These are sexualities, and as most of us know, sexuality isn't a choice.
June 4th, 2015 8:10pm
it means that the person does not have any sexual feelings towards any gender and basically they aren't sexually attracted to anyone.
June 5th, 2015 2:33pm
Asexuality is the part of the orientation spectrum where an individual may not experience sexual desire, sexual attraction or romantic urges. Some may still be sexually active or be in romantic relationships, some may not be. Anything fitting in between is okay too
August 3rd, 2015 7:13pm
Asexuality us when you can like someone romantically and be in a relationship, but you don't feel sexually attracted to them.
September 7th, 2015 2:12pm
Asexuality is when a person has no attraction towards anyone. They don't like boys or girls. Instead the prefer to be in a solo relationship.
September 15th, 2015 11:17am
Asexuality means that you don't have sexual attraction or sexual feeling towards others. You can still fall in love with people or find them attractive, you just don't have any sexual feelings towards them. :) Some enjoy physical touch (ex: kissing, cuddling, holding hands, ect.) but others may not be as touchy-feely. It all depends on the asexual:)
September 17th, 2015 9:08pm
Asexuality means not being attracted, sexually, to any man or woman. People who are asexual can still fall in love, be romantically attracted to others, and participate actively in a romantic relationship, but they lack a sexual attraction to the person that they love.
September 19th, 2015 11:06pm
First of all, asexuality means that you don't experience sexual attraction to anyone. You don't look at someone and go, "oh, I would really love to sleep with this person". It doesn't mean that you don't fall in love with people; it doesn't mean that you don't want to be intimate with them. Asexuality doesn't mean that you don't enjoy sex, it's just that you lack the initial attraction part. But, asexuality is also an umbrella term which encloses such things as demisexuality (not experiencing sexual attraction until an emotional bond is formed) and many others. It's a broad spectrum that many people will find themselves on. It's a legitimate orientation that is often met with negativity, as our society is majorly influenced by the "necessity" to have sex.
October 12th, 2015 4:47pm
A sexuality is never experiencing sexual attraction. You never want to do anything sexual with anyone and have only romantic/platonic relationships, not sexual ones.
October 14th, 2015 6:47pm
There are different aspects of asexuality, but the standard definition is not experiencing any sexual attraction towards anyone. Someone who is asexual might not be aromantic, so they can still have romantic attractions and be in relationships with people, but don't particularly like the idea of sexual intimacy.
October 29th, 2015 7:12pm
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction, someone who is asexual does not experience sexual attraction, they can still experience romantic attraction. Asexuality is different then aromantic, aromantic means the lack of romantic attraction. Our romantic and sexual attraction are not always matching.