Why am I gay if it’s a sin?
Last Updated: 08/17/2021 at 3:55am
Jennifer Fritz, LMSW, PhD
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Day to day life can be stressful and overwhelming and my strength is assisting my clients in a supportive, empowering and practical manner.
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Maybe because it's not a sin ? Religion is free to interpretation. In every religion, you'll find people telling you that gay is and is not a sin, depending of the person that talks to you. Being gay doesn't hurt anybody, it's not doing harm. A sin, is, as I understand it, an act that one chooses and that do harm. Being gay (or heterosexual, for that matter) is not a choice, nor something you can change by will. It's a part of who you are, like some people use their left hand and not their right (a fact that was also considered evil, a long time ago...) It can seem hard for you, because being gay is considered by some people as something shameful, bad, perverse etc. It's just a way for some people to hurt others because well, some people fear what they don't know and understand.. But it's just you being possibly in love with someone that happens to be of the same gender as you. And, well, what's gender in someone's identity ? It's just a small part of that being. Why would it be a sin to be able to feel love for anyone ? As far as consent is respected, love doesn't hurt anybody. Discrimination, hate, oppression, reject, violence, that's what I understand as harmful things. That's what's not ok. Being gay doesn't belong to that list :)
Homosexuality is something natural and innate, as science has proven. That is why you are gay - you were born that way. What is a sin? Is it something that you do that hurts other people? Homosexuality hurts no one. How can something that allows you to experience the beauty and grace of love be a sin? Love is holy, in all its forms. Your love hurts no one. Your love is how bring the light of this beautiful feeling in the world. Love is never a sin. Judging people for who they love, that sounds much more like a sin, since it's a mean of hurting other fellow human beings.
Just because being gay is a sin, it doesn't mean you are banned in any religion you are in, cause you choose your own religion, they can't throw you out. Thanks for reading
Woow, first congratulations that you are identifying yourself as gay and you are willing to talk about it. In many cultures and families its a taboo topic. No matter what is your sexuality you are perfect the way you are. Being who you are is not a sin, but a privilege. Being gay is more difficult, but also liberating, since you don't have to live by the social norms, married to a girl/a assume you are a boy/ and have kids. Why difficult then? Because you have to create the life you want. Will you have a bf or not, will you be in an open relationship or not. Will you be part of the "gay scene" or not. And many many more decisions, including where to live, to whom to come out and so on. Things that straight people have no clue about. So take your time and create your fabulous life one small step at a time.
Because morals and beliefs are subjective and dependent on the ideologies of a people or culture. A "sin" is a moral wrongdoing in religion, the idea of sexuality as a sin was developed thousands of years ago out of confusion and fear, people not understanding and having no desire to understand homosexuality coupled with power and intolerance led to a general belief in many cultures that gayness or any affiliated orientation besides heterosexuality isn't morally "right". You can choose to believe this way, or you can decide to take a different path, the option is yours, don't let the prejudice of those around you decide your morals and ideologies.
I know it can be really confusing when it comes to religion and sexuality. I have been through that, and I know its pretty rough. First and foremost, 7cups is always here to support you should you have any questions or need support. I cannot tell you what your religion says or how you should choose to live your life. What I can tell you is that many scientific studies show that being gay is something that is natural and valid. You cannot control your sexuality, and its ok to experience emotions around it. Your sexuality is not a choice, and being gay is something you cannot control. If you feel that not acting on these emotions is the right thing to do, that is your choice, but its important to remember that your emotions are valid and no one is entitled to tell you how you should feel or what you should do.
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