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Why is it that people are so stuck on there being just 'female' and 'male'?

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Stephz
April 1st, 2015 2:37am
I find that some people can be quite judgmental and see things in black and white. There can only be female or male. They don't see what we see and how there can be transgender, genderfluid etc. There is nothing wrong with the gender you have and I would suggest trying to ignore people that try and push this belief on you and educate people with this belief.
RachxTheLight
June 22nd, 2015 1:33am
Some people are just raised to think that what we are born as, is what we are. There is no in between. It all depends on how people learned about sexual orientation.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 11:05pm
We as a human species love categories. We use categories to quickly understand what we are seeing and experiencing so that we can make snap decisions based on them. Most of traditional western society has dictated that there is a "boy" category and a "girl" category. This is what we were taught, and this is how we understand the world. We live in an "either-or" society, and fluidity (in gender, sexuality, ideals, etc.) does not fit into it. When a new idea is pushed into our engrained values, it is difficult to understand or accept. This does not make those who don't understand inherently "bad" people, it just means they were taught to view the world differently.
Aayla
- Expert in LGBTQ+ Issues
July 8th, 2019 4:44pm
It's a matter of cultural stereotypes. Society has created male and female as two fixed category in which everyone must identify, and many people internalize this mentality. But you're free to live your identity openly, being non-binary and non-conforming is a totally valid identity, and you should be free to live it openly. Never lose hope, accepting and open-minded people are there, and there are some who are willing to listen and learn about realities they didn't know!
ConallBranagin
December 18th, 2018 5:04am
I don't know I gave up that ship long ago when I transitioned from one to the other physically. Ther eis a story in Native American cultures that we are all two spirited but the ones that are transgender are dubbed twop spirits as they experience both and accept that both are of equal value to who they are now. Getting hung up about something like gender is all sterotypes., but even those change with time. Gender is ambivalous word that often makes people feel comfortable that don't understand people of no gender, non binary or other varuiants from the 2 they knew being male and female.
CarpetLovesU
July 27th, 2016 1:59am
Sometimes, predictability is just a bit easier to face. And, when they see someone's literal face is just a tad unordinary, they don't know what to categorize this person, as.
TrannyNamedLuke
February 20th, 2017 7:24am
Some people have a hard time understanding things if its not them feeling that way. People are afraid of change, therefore they do not like thinking about the possibility of different or there being more than two genders.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2017 7:04pm
People can often hold a grudge about there being more than two genders, maybe because they just aren't used to it. But the truth is that there are many genders and only you can decide your gender, no matter what it is. Everyone identifies differently and whatever you choose to identify as is completely fine and nobody can change your identity but you.
Anonymous
September 26th, 2017 11:10pm
Gender roles are often seen as bery crucial in society (I personally think they don't have to be...). For many people, the way it has always been is the way it always has to be, hence they get confused and don't like the idea of there being more than just two 'boxes' for people to be out into, but rather a wonderful spectrum that people can move along. ... is one explanation. Gender roles are certainly a large factor, I would say, but there are many reasons.
FromDrewWithLove
February 26th, 2018 5:15am
It's a mixture of refusal to change as well as the idea that having more than two genders exist is illogical. If you connect gender with genitals, then you probably don't want to believe there are more genders than sexes (though, if we count intersex, there are technically 3 sexes, so go figure). Some people are resistant to letting go of this idea because it makes sense to them and seems logical; they don't find logic in any other ideas but their own. They don't want to accept that there are more genders because it doesn't fit their logic. People don't always change their minds and beliefs very easily; we're a very skeptical and stubborn species.
Gracey
April 24th, 2018 4:20pm
Many people are stuck in the rut of just seeing female and male as genders because that's what was the 'norm' in society in the past, it has only recently become more acceptable to be gender neutral etc. People often feel ill informed about LGBT type issues and therefore just shy away from them
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 6:57am
for most of history, until recent years, it's only been acceptable to identify as either "male" or "female" so people coming up with words to describe how they feel (like agender, genderfluid, etc.) can make some people uncomfortable. Its not that these identities never existed before, we just didnt have a word for them because people who felt that way were discriminated against and oppressed
Greatlistener87
April 26th, 2016 2:40am
Cause that is the norm and it is already embedded into our heads. People prefer to leave in the norm then to accept something new, this is because new things scares them because they do not know what the outcome would be.
cindyldm
January 28th, 2020 12:33am
People in general have a tendency to put labels in almost everything, and are normally weirded out when you go against or refuse to choose one of those labels. Gender identity is interpreted differently by everyone and it's supposed to be a personal experience for each individual finding out what their identity is. Just because people say you have to be one or the other it doesn't mean you have to fit yourself in a box to be accepted by others. The key is surrounding yourself with people who understand gender identity is a personal thing and that it's not limited to a 'female' or 'male' label
Anonymous
April 13th, 2020 8:32am
A lot of people were raised to believe that. It's hard to let go of something you've been taught your whole life. Others have a religious outlook. I find that a lot of people like to twist the Bible into "God hates you for this blah blah blah..". Times are different now and a lot of people have a hard time accepting that and adjusting their views. Either way, as long as you know who you are and you're happy with yourself, it doesn't matter what other people think. Some people are just uneducated. These kinds of things are new for a lot of people and new can be scary, so people would rather disregard the idea of something new than actually learn about it.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2020 9:15am
Great question. I think the answer can be found by understanding that humans naturally like to build "boxes" or "labels" in order to better understand the world. This can be both helpful and harmful. A great example of this being harmful is the strict categorization of genders. Gender norms are rooted in many cultures, often giving strict roles to "males" and "females." However, the reality is that gender is a social construct, meaning that they are simply labels created by humans to categorize people. It's hard to change social constructs because they are often rooted in society for a very long time. Gender constructs have been a part of human society for so long that it is ingrained in many people's minds. This is why it has been so hard to introduce the idea of gender-fluidity or the idea of being non-binary.
CandyCure
August 11th, 2020 3:42pm
Because this is the way they've been brought up. When something is brought up in someone's mind and it stays there for a while, it's harder to get rid of. Some people, and I think we're all guilty of this to an extent, like to confirm the reality we're in instead of trying to see someone else's point of view or reality. Some people are stuck on there only being female and male because that's all they ever know. Having another gender would invalidate that and science/biology is used to reinforce this. It's more of how logical, feelings and reality compare when stating things like female and male because they may see genitalia and not how someone identifies, which is on a spectrum. Lastly, not differing between sex and gender.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2021 8:38am
Times are changing fast and it is becoming more acceptable to discuss gender identity. I think some haven't grasped the idea of there being more than simply "men" and "women" because the topic has not been talked about much in the past and persecution was more common than it is today. As a result, people who did identify differently were forced to keep that to themselves. Levels of open-mindedness can be related to generational differences as well as culture and the person's environment. For example, it is hard for an elderly person I know to comprehend the idea of gender fluidity because the country they grew up in had strict gender roles that everyone knew they had to abide by.
reycsky2
July 26th, 2016 11:57pm
People find it easier to understand if they can sort things into black and white categories. When something changes, or the categories start to expand, they panic because everything is not sorted into neat little boxes.
SurrealDent
July 25th, 2016 5:19pm
People find it much easier to relate to terms with clear borders - black and white, right and wrong, ying and yang. Once you introduce neuances of gray between the black and white, many people will protest the opening up of borders, the breaking down of easy into complicated. If you look around you will find this desire for easy categorizing in many aspects of our social lifes. And when it comes to gender and sexual questions, areas that is tainted with taboos and social stigmata, you will find the urge to hold on to known borders and limitations to be strong. Even those who break out of boxes defined by others, soon start to define their own boxes - how it is right or wrong to be transgender, for instance, how you should act or feel or appear as this or that. Some will use their religion to support their point of view, but likely it is broader than that; it seems to be a fear of people who challenge your perception of a world we all share, but at the same time feel some kind of personal and private ownership to.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2016 12:49am
Society has pushed since the beginning of time that there are two 'genders': "male" and "female". People are stuck on there being just 'female' and 'male' because it's the norm in society and a way to categorize people into gender specific boxes.
Tylerr
January 11th, 2016 7:18pm
Humans like to categorize things, it's what we do. The world is becoming more accepting of everything in between though. It's a generational thing too I think. Such things that we are comfortable talking about now were never spoken of years ago. The world is definitely becoming more open-minded and we will get there. It will take some time, but it will all be okay.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2015 1:43pm
Because it's the 'norm' societies around the world think its normal . Lgbt people were literally alien few decades back but now people are more open minded
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2015 12:13pm
Some people are very religious and go by the bible. I do not, and I am very use to saying they/them pronouns. But I think that since the reproduction system needs a male and female in order to work, I think that is why I think people are sick on male and female.
trisjlistens
October 22nd, 2015 8:27pm
That's because that's just how they are. That's their belief and we need to respect that. I don't think it's called being 'stuck'. I don't think we should call them uneducated because they're not. We can't judge them for that.
OliB
October 11th, 2015 12:01am
Some people just don't understand, and it doesn't nessicarily make them bad people. For example my parents are great and accepting with most things, but when it comes to gender identity they just don't understand and I don't know if they ever will fully. They think it's because of the media and influence with others that people are coming out as different genders. It's just hard for some people to understand and believe that gender and sex are two different things when they were brought up using the two words for the same definition. But when they start putting you down, telling you that you're wrong and you just "need to choose" they are honestly just not worth your time.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2015 1:53am
Unfortunately, it's because of lack of education. People see black and white, it's one or the other. The thing people don't understand is that it's actually a spectrum, and that you can't change how you feel even if you tried
Anonymous
October 8th, 2015 8:02pm
I don't think it's that they are "stuck", I think maybe they haven't been exposed to the education of all possible genders. What if instead we didn't ask pregnant mom's what they were having, a boy or a girl? What if we waited to see how that baby identified? People like boxes, they like neat. Unfortunately sexuality isn't as neat as this or that. There's lots of stuff in the middle and way past the ends of boy/girl.
Maisie4y
October 6th, 2015 1:27am
Probably, because for most of history that was all there was. Gender identity issues are quite recent when cast against the long, long, long history of two unchangeable genders.
Cupcakisaurus
August 11th, 2015 1:14am
People tend to like to categorize. One of the easiest things to categorize about a person in most peoples' minds is gender. As time moves on and the more people let it be known there is a spectrum of gender, this may change. Until then, people find comfort in being able to categorize things like gender and race, and find discomfort in ideas they don't understand.