Why is it that people are so stuck on there being just 'female' and 'male'?
Last Updated: 02/01/2021 at 8:38am
Susana Diaz, lpc
Licensed Professional Counselor
I believed that to be a successful therapist is to be able to empathize and connect with all clients. My work with clients is to help them identify resources to cope.
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Great question. I think the answer can be found by understanding that humans naturally like to build "boxes" or "labels" in order to better understand the world. This can be both helpful and harmful. A great example of this being harmful is the strict categorization of genders. Gender norms are rooted in many cultures, often giving strict roles to "males" and "females." However, the reality is that gender is a social construct, meaning that they are simply labels created by humans to categorize people. It's hard to change social constructs because they are often rooted in society for a very long time. Gender constructs have been a part of human society for so long that it is ingrained in many people's minds. This is why it has been so hard to introduce the idea of gender-fluidity or the idea of being non-binary.
Because this is the way they've been brought up. When something is brought up in someone's mind and it stays there for a while, it's harder to get rid of. Some people, and I think we're all guilty of this to an extent, like to confirm the reality we're in instead of trying to see someone else's point of view or reality. Some people are stuck on there only being female and male because that's all they ever know. Having another gender would invalidate that and science/biology is used to reinforce this. It's more of how logical, feelings and reality compare when stating things like female and male because they may see genitalia and not how someone identifies, which is on a spectrum. Lastly, not differing between sex and gender.
Times are changing fast and it is becoming more acceptable to discuss gender identity. I think some haven't grasped the idea of there being more than simply "men" and "women" because the topic has not been talked about much in the past and persecution was more common than it is today. As a result, people who did identify differently were forced to keep that to themselves. Levels of open-mindedness can be related to generational differences as well as culture and the person's environment. For example, it is hard for an elderly person I know to comprehend the idea of gender fluidity because the country they grew up in had strict gender roles that everyone knew they had to abide by.
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