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Will my family accept me ? If not, what do I do ?

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Last Updated: 12/24/2019 at 2:01pm
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December 8th, 2015 1:22am
They can if they are willing. If they don't, make sure you know you aren't to blame for their unacceptance of you. Some people just are stuck in their own ways.
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October 1st, 2019 11:39pm
It all depends on your family's views and your relationship with them. In general, people who truly love and care for us won't abandon us, and even close-minded families may give you a chance to be listened and understood if their love is real. However, it's safer to come out first to people you already know or suppose to be supportive of LGBT realities - inside or outside your family. This way, their support will make you feel stronger, and you'll know there will be someone by your side if things don't go that well.
March 24th, 2015 10:53am
Your family should love you no matter who you are or who you choose to be. Although things might be difficult and challenging at times we always have to remember it will get better.
April 21st, 2015 1:21am
I've constantly struggled with that question. I still do. My grandparents don't accept me as I am because I am a free spirit and I choose my own path rather than the one they tried to set out for me. I have accepted that I will never be seen as one of the family. It wasn't easy, but I did it. You don't need their approval. You are wonderful the way you are! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It won't be an easy thing to overcome, but it IS possible. A good support system will help. We are always available here at 7 Cups! You can personally request a listener as well. Even if they aren't online, you can send them a message and they will help schedule a time to chat!
May 5th, 2015 5:29am
It really depends. Try bringing up the topic of LGBT first to test the waters. If they aren't currently abusive in any way and seem fine with the subject, you might be totally safe coming out! If that's not the case, however, don't worry. Try finding some friends that accept you for positive reinforcement. Seek LGBT folk out online- we're here, I promise! There are always people who will accept you. Don't worry, and stay fabulous.
August 15th, 2015 4:03am
Your family may or may not accept you. I know, I hate saying that. I absolutely hate saying that. Hate it. If they don't, get a close friend to help you. Believe me, they will support you out the wazoo.
December 3rd, 2015 2:21am
They are your family they should accept you and if they don't explain to them why you are how you are then maybe they will understand you better. Communication and understanding in family members goes a long way.
December 28th, 2015 2:06pm
They probably will accept you, they're your family! They love you! And if they don't accept you (which they probably won't) then they aren't worth it. SImple as that
January 11th, 2016 3:20pm
Try to gain acceptance by politely asking, don't blame yourself. You deserve better, and they will always love you
February 22nd, 2016 12:57am
I personally had to keep my sexuality secret to a family who would not accept it. I don't worry about what they think anymore because even though I love them, I need to be who I truly am.
March 22nd, 2016 1:12am
Before you come out, ask yourself the following questions: Is it safe to come out to my family? How has my family talked about or reacted to the LGBTQ+ community in the past? Am I prepared for the changes that may come from me coming out? If you're feeling unsure about how your family will react, be sure to have a Plan B. This could be a friend who can support you or who you could stay with, another family member who you trust, etc.
April 19th, 2016 7:19pm
Everyone is different and it depends on how a person accepts another. As long as you're happy with yourself, you do not entirely need to worry about those who do not accept you. Look for the ones who do
May 2nd, 2016 1:54am
These is hard, because what is the last thing we would do to aour parents? disepoint or do something they don't like right? But you know what? these is who you are, you can't do anything with it.. and you deserve to be happy! And just remember if they don't agree, or think it's okey, they still love you:)
June 6th, 2016 4:38pm
If your family doesn't accept you, just make sure you are safe. Some family react in a negative way. If you are living at home and they kick you out or hurt you, make sure you have somewhere safe to go. If not, make sure you are fully ready to come out. Question yourself, "should I wait a little longer?" If you are not living at home, give them time. They may not accept you now, but you never know what lies ahead in the future. If they do accept you that's great!
May 9th, 2017 12:24am
It's important to note that if your family doesn't accept you, you still have options to turn to. Know that you are still loved by many and you still have a strong support system in a community of people that are just like you.
May 9th, 2017 8:39pm
Technically, they should no matter what. Sadly, sometimes people don't accept others like they should. That's when it comes to your own matters and you have to tell yourself that this is who you are. You need to love and accept yourself and then when you do, you can freely tell others, and if they don't accept you, then it's nothing you can do and you know that this is who you are and you are still an amazing person regardless. Not to mention, there are tons of people out there who WILL accept and love you for who you are.
May 22nd, 2017 3:24am
Stand strong and understand that not everyone will accept you in this world but knowing that your family only wants the best for you
December 5th, 2017 7:07pm
They're your family. Whatever you will confess to them, If they don't accept you now, they will do eventually because they're your family. They love you and they're always there for you :)
February 12th, 2018 3:53am
Let the family have time, over time they will and know they love you deep down. If not: look to find support from friends and other members of our family outside the home.
December 24th, 2019 2:01pm
At the end of the day, all you can do is try to explain your situation to your family. It's your life. You can only explain it to them, you can't make them understand. It's hard to let people go, but sometimes it's not only the better but the only option. For all people involved. So ask yourself how you want to live your life - and just go for it! If people support you: great! If they don't, take a minute and reflect on your lifestyle. If you still think it's the right thing to do, go on! Don't let anyone's opinion of you ruin your experience. You only got one shot!