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Would it be normal to choose a gender neutral name that i feel more comfortable with if i identify as agender?

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Last Updated: 10/26/2020 at 7:17pm
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October 26th, 2020 7:17pm
Absolutely! Choosing a new name can be really important and affirming for trans and gender diverse people. It's important to remember that a name is really about you and if a name feels right to represent you than it's probably a great choice! You should also remember that you don't need to stick with the first name that you try. I've found that trying out a name on the internet can be really helpful. For example, I've tried out three different names in the last year or so with my online friends. If a name doesn't feel right, there is no need to stick with it.
January 12th, 2018 10:35pm
Absolutely that's normal! I think people on any part of the trans* spectrum often want to choose a new name for themselves, both because it feels more comfortable, and because it can mark a change and the start of something new (such as, coming out and living as who you really are). And having a gender neutral name would match perfectly with being agender, since it wouldn't automatically be associated with any gender, just like you :)
January 11th, 2018 5:52pm
Absolutely! People who are gender-nonconforming, no matter what gender label they settle on, change their names all the time to feel more comfortable. Not everyone does, so it's by no means a requirement, but if it would make you feel more comfortable in your own skin, go for it!
April 17th, 2018 10:43pm
Yes, I think that is okay as long as you feel like yourself using that name and it empowers you as a person, then you should go for it
June 12th, 2018 12:08pm
I don't see what would be abnormal about it. Gender neutral names are always a safe go-to no matter what your identify as.
October 19th, 2020 4:23am
whatever you're comfortable! being honest with yourself is always a good idea. "why do I want this?" "will it make me happy" If both answers are positive, it;s best if you do!! In the LBTQ+ community it is a spectrum and every one is unique, so truly expressing who you want to be is never invalid! If you're comfortable with your current name, then stick with it! As I said, It's all about expressing who you are. Names can be all gender nuetral, so changing a name to be part of a norm isn't necessary if you are already comfortable!! best wishes
May 2nd, 2018 6:12am
Yes. Definitely. Absolutely! Those who are agender, bigender, etc. change their names all the time to feel more comfortable in their own skin. Not everyone does, but most do. Names like Avery, Alex, Devin, or Karma are some great examples. Pick a name that suits you and your style, and that you feel comfortable with. Its your life! Live it how you want!
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July 8th, 2019 9:01pm
Sure, you're free to choose whatever name feels like who you are! Doing whatever makes us feel comfortable and true is always good. However, it might be hard for an agender person to obtain a legal switch of name... But you can still use the name of your choice in any aspect of your life that is not bureaucracy.
June 25th, 2018 3:12pm
Yes! You should choose whatever makes you comfortable about yourself, accepting your choices, feelings and opinions is more important than worrying too much about pronouns. Just identify yourself as whatever makes you feel more like yourself.