Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

He asked me out and I said no, but we still can be friends.. The last reply was good night. Then, he started to ignored me, and haven't talk to me for days. What did I do wrong?

7 Answers
Last Updated: 08/17/2020 at 3:31pm
1 Tip to Feel Better
United Kingdom
Moderated by

Tara Davis, Doctorate in Counselling Psychology


I have worked successfully with a wide range of difficulties. Nothing is more important than developing a warm, compassionate relationship with someone you can trust

Top Rated Answers
April 10th, 2018 8:13am
It must've hit him hard. Not the answer that he wanted to hear.. Hurt him deeply and now he has to try and get over that.. it's not easy to get over someone seeing their face everyday
April 10th, 2018 9:56am
Rejection can be very difficult for boys. I'm not sure if he will be able to be your friend the way he was before right now. It takes time and in my opinion the best you can do for him is to give him some space. Don't worry, he'll come back :)
May 29th, 2018 11:50am
sometimes guys don't always want to be friends after they just got rejected. if you were the one the suggest staying friends, give him some space. he might come around to the idea and he may not but you have to allow him to adjust and choose what he wants.
May 28th, 2018 5:50am
Well maybe he just feels hurt inside that you do not share the same feelings he does for you and I think he just needs time alone and he will come to you and talk to you again when he feels better for now just let him be
August 12th, 2018 3:20pm
You didn't do anything wrong. He too did nothing wrong. You both want different things, that's all. You wanted his friendship but not a relationship. He wanted a relationship, but maybe not your friendship. You have the right to offer the friendship and not the relationship. He too has the right to offer the relationship but not the friendship. When he is ready for the friendship, he will come back. If he does not, then you know his choice.
November 5th, 2019 1:10am
You didn't do anything wrong. You merely stated how you felt, and that was that you didn't want to go out with him, but you'd like to stay friends. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that! He may be ignoring you because of something beyond your control. It could literally be anything, but most importantly, he isn't trying to make time to talk to you, and that's not your fault. He probably had to deal with you rejecting him first. Just know that you did nothing wrong. If he isn't trying to talk to you again, then he probably isn't worth your time, because no matter what, those who really appreciate and value you will make time for you. I hope you can be content knowing where you stand and understanding that he is also dealing with it in his own way. Sometimes it can be hard to stay friends with someone you really like after being rejected by them.
August 17th, 2020 3:31pm
You did not do anything wrong, he may be needing space because he is hurt and wanted more than a friendship. Sometimes we have to put ourselves in someone else's shoes to understand what they might be experiencing. Maybe give him some space and time and see if he reaches out again. Just remember that some people feel like they cannot be "just friends" with someone the see as a person they would like to be with, it may be to hard or painful. So to be empathetic and give him time. During this time maybe do something for yourself to take you mind off of the situation, practice some self-care.