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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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Ribz
September 25th, 2020 4:25am
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Anonymous
September 25th, 2020 4:45am
Happiness extends beyond friends/family when you learn to find happiness in yourself and within your daily life. This is not a task easily developed and may take some getting used to looking at your daily life in a new light. Some of the ways that I have found to maintain my happiness amongst my own company is by taking the time to do something that I enjoy. One example of this is by taking a view minutes to spend outside in nature, or appreciating my surroundings inside of my home. I like to reflect on the positives of my day to day life and will sometimes even make a list!
JohnSteel1984
September 26th, 2020 2:11pm
get a pet like a dog, dogs cheer people up all the time but you have to be responsible for it...even a pot plant like a little cactus or bonsai would be good or a gold fish something to talk to even if it doesnt understand you. some say fake it until you make it so forcing a smile until you get used to it, it takes more muscles in the face to frown then it does to smile. go on YouTube and watch comedians and laugh your head off...find someone to follow on twitter or just read a book were you get attached to the characters...go out into nature and experience fresh air and the true wonder of the naturaly World...there are many ways to be happy and alone.
Anonymous
October 17th, 2020 6:22am
How can I be happy without any friends? What this pillowcase did for this hotel's guests is incredible. If you’ve found yourself without friends for any number of reasons—new school, new job, new city, or new lifestyle change—you may wonder how you can possibly ever be happy. It's possible! Social connections do make life more satisfying, but it doesn’t take friendships to lead a happy life. Learn how to be happy without friends by building self-love, keeping your calendar full of positive activities, and strengthening your relationships with other people in your life. 1.Recognise your worth--Oftentimes, people depend on friends for validation of their worth. You may think, “Sarah adores me, so I must be fabulous” or “At least I’m invited to all the parties.” Truth is, you should feel great about yourself regardless of who your friends are or how many you have. Learn to validate yourself instead of needing others to do it. For example, if you have always counted on friends to help you make big decisions, try to make a decision on your own by weighing pros and cons. If you think being needed by your friends makes you important, find other ways to feel important, such as reciting positive affirmations or volunteering.
CareME
October 25th, 2020 7:28am
In today's fast-paced world, we are always on the go with its instant messaging and fast foods. Fortunately, or unfortunately, the COVID19 has hit the brakes on all our lives. It has forced us to stop and look around, come out of our comfort zones, and do things differently for a change. Statistics show that about 50% of the Indian population is experiencing loneliness. Some others feel-What better time than now to celebrate my me-time? This article will give you tips that will help you, both if you are alone and if you feel lonely. So let's start right away! 5 tips to enjoy being alone If you are alone and looking to celebrate your me-time, here are 5 tips to help you do that. 1. Take yourself on a date: 2. Start your dream project: 3. Consider adopting a pet: 4. Plan for the future: 5. Practice self-love:
Anonymous
October 28th, 2020 10:37am
Happiness comes from within. Your friends and family members would most definitely contribute to your happiness and help you be in a better place socially. But it is truly up to you to let the little things and the positivity you feel help you be independently happy. It is important that you practise mindfulness and gratitude. Because you deserve to be happy and you deserve to know that your happiness does not depend on anyone but yourself. Once you see that, you can shine through and inspire others and help them through tough times as well. So it is possible to be happy without friends and family; but when you truly are, wouldn't you want to share it with them too? :3
padayon
November 6th, 2020 2:38pm
(In my own opinion) "Learn to be alone so that companionship will not be a necessity." You can be happy without them by doing the things that you want to do just like for example shopping alone, watching movies alone, travelling alone, etc. You can also learn new skills or talents that you want to learn such as learning how to paint, draw, play guitar, etc. Try not to depend your happiness on others. Generate your own happiness. Focus on yourself.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2020 10:24pm
Find things to do that make you happy. Try to find new hobbies, self-care, reading, etc. You may be surprised what you find out about yourself when you spend more time with yourself. Sometimes it is necessary to not be alone. Not in a negative way, but it will allow you to focus on yourself and what your needs are. In order to be your best self around friends and family, you must be happy and satisfied with yourself. Being happy with yourself will ensure that you will be even happier when you are around them. Just make sure you do things that you like!
Boon4U
November 20th, 2020 2:39pm
It looks like a big challenge when it comes to being solitary, i mean that's the work of monks and lone wolves because humans are social animals but we all experience times when we want to be alone and need a personal space, sometimes personal holidays. But being happy doesn't comes from being in a group or being alone. One can be happy among people and without them, like introverts are more comfortable without a big crowd. They might feel bad about not being able to mix in so that's why it doesn't have anything to do with happiness. On the other hand happiness is not an emotion it's a practice you do everyday, being comfortable in your body and being happy without depending on anyone else is a hard work no doubt, but like you have to learn to walk properly you have to practice to stay content in yourself, in what the present has to offer and to have hope on bad days. And most importantly explore yourself, when you focus on your well being, and I don't mean in a selfish or narcissistic manner but really the well being that you need to be happy and content. Find yourself a place where you can relax and ask what you need to be happy. If you're not happy change the thing that's making you unhappy, of you can't change it right now, try to look at it with a different perspective. Tell yourself that even if there's no one with me, I'm here for myself, I love myself and I'll be fine because the only person whose never gonna leave me is myself. I'm complete in myself, I know who I am, I know what I need. And if you are unable to say this to yourself then first work on this, you'll reach happiness eventually.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2020 4:52pm
Be your own friend. Write a diarybwhich help you to understand your thoughts. Enjoy yourself don't think you need someone else to be happy. Learn new things, set high level goals for a day try to complete them. Do something enjoyful, new, like sports swimming, try to learn new language. Visit new places. Stop thinking you need someone for a trip. Visit to watch movies restaurant alone. Workout, listen to independent music like I am on my way by Sabrina carpenter, lily, too soon by Keshi. First you should say to mind you don't need anyone command it. And see miracles.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2020 3:31am
The main challenge when we don´t have friends and family around is delaying with loneliness. A good approach is to stay busy with things you enjoy and fulfill you, like a good hobby. Some people have found a lot of comfort in having a pet, a pet gives affection which is something we all need at times, and using websites like this one where you can find online communities is very useful. We all want to be hear sometimes, if no one is physically available around you at the moment, there are many people online trying to meet others and engage in nice conversations. You can join a chat room with a specific topic you like or just have a casual one-to-one conversation with someone.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2020 4:45pm
You can be happy by giving yourself mental health time. Try and schedule 30 minutes to an hour every day to take time for yourself. During this time you can read, write, journal, watch Netflix, go on a walk, or do something else for self care. This allows you to rest and calm your brain from all the social interaction and allows you to be happy without friends and family. This also allows for your brain to realize that you can be happy when you are alone and you don't need people constantly around you to make you happy.
sophiasanae
January 12th, 2021 4:29am
Happiness is something you have at least some control over, even if it doesn't feel like it! It might be helpful to work on yourself and loving who you are as a person. When you do that, you radiate such an infectious energy, it really draws people to you! Also, it's difficult to be happy when you aren't content with being by yourself! I know many people in these replies have said to look into finding a new hobby, which is great! However, you may also want to ask yourself if you're looking for something that can give you a deeper meaning in life! For me, that's philosophy and I find that it gives me a lot of purpose and makes me feel okay with being happy, even if I don't have family or friends around. However, this could be anything that you're passionate about! Which is why it's great to explore and even experiment with the idea of self-dating if that sounds interesting to you! Finally, remember that you are never truly alone, there's always people that care about you in the most unexpected places. Plus, the 7 Cups community will always have your back no matter what!
Enjoyslistening505
January 12th, 2021 9:36pm
I have found good ways to be happy without family and friends involve doing things that you enjoy the most. I like going on walks in the morning or watching the sunset from a pretty spot and sometimes listening to podcasts that relate to how I am feeling. Try to focus on the act that you are doing and how it may bring you joy. Focus on what you can control in your life and possible ways to improve it rather than focusing on the areas that you lack. That’s not to say ignore the issues in your life but address what is in your control
Anonymous
February 24th, 2021 4:39am
Not having friends or family around can seem quite sad but in fact you can make it a happier time for yourself. You can binge watch a series or movie you enjoy, try new recipes out, or just do what you enjoy most. If you don't enjoy those things you could also treat yourself to a self care day and focus on improving yourself and your mood by taking a relaxing bath or meditation. Going outside and seeing new things can also be very exiting and memorable and you can socialize with others around you. Being alone is not always a bad thing but rather something where you can focus on your self love and reflect.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2021 1:12pm
It's weird but sometimes I find myself being more happier alone than with my friends and family. I can get lost in my thoughts and start laughing out loud before I realize that I'm alone just laughing lol. But basically you have to be comfortable with yourself and know that you don't necessarily need people to be happy. True people can add to your happiness but you don't need to rely on them to be happy. In fact loving yourself and being comfortable with yourself brings true happiness and no one can take that kind of happiness away from you no matter what. Love yourself and be comfortable knowing that you too can make yourself happy
OutdoorKate
March 3rd, 2021 1:05am
There are times when Family and Friends are not in the picture. Maybe you are living away from those you love or your community. Finding things that make you happy, like a hobby is always helpful. Being social in other ways by volunteering is a great way to alleviate a lack of social activity. Setting up online calls and chats is also a great way to connect with those you are apart from. Not all of us are fortunate to have big family and friend networks. It is important to really find those things that make you happy and take part in them for a strong sense of well being.
ellaempathize93
March 21st, 2021 8:26pm
Fill your life with as many things that bring you joy and more importantly find your self-worth and understand that it isn't based on how many that surround you, but who YOU are and what you contribute to the world. Dance, sing, paint, cook, run, read and/or contribute to your community. Volunteer, take yourself on holiday, and surround yourself with animals - animals will fill your world with unconditional love. I tend to feel lonely sometimes and so I create a routine based upon the advice I've just given. I spend time by the ocean, give love to my pets and take care of myself every day with as much care as I can muster. All the best.
bouncyWatermelon6770
April 8th, 2021 4:31pm
Find things in life that you enjoy and focus on them, friends and family are great but you have to be able to find your own reasons to smile too. Look into social activities you enjoy hobbies and other opportunities to get out and have fun. Once you identify the things you enjoy in life make time for those things, it is important to take care of your mental health in order to be happy and spending time on the things you enjoy about life is a key part of that. So find a hobby, read a book, ride a bike whatever you enjoy and make time for it. Good luck, and happy trails!
Anonymous
April 15th, 2021 11:19pm
I understand that things are really hard right now. Especially without friends and/or family to help you through it. To feel truly happy without family and/or friends you need to focus on yourself first. To be able to love others, you need to love yourself first! You may not see it now but you are a very funny, kind, and loving person. I know that you can do this! I am so proud of you for making it this far! Family and friends will just listen and give advice but to be able to know what you want, you need to find yourself first! You got this!
friendlyHeart9279
May 6th, 2021 10:14am
Happiness is not given to you by other people. Happiness comes from within yourself when you feel fulfilled. Great ways to feel fulfilled as a human being is to feel that you are needed and useful to other human beings. If you do not have friends or family, I suggest that you volunteer to help other people. This is a great way to get the social contact that will make you feel important. There are many ways to do this: working in a food banks, offering to help in hospitals, being a listener here. Finding positive human contact is a good way to feel happiness.
JJ1190
May 12th, 2021 3:00pm
You need to know that it is easy for a person to be happy without anyone else. You need to know what you are passionate about. For example, learn music, drawing, gardening, etc. If you know that you have something interested in since you are young, but you are afraid to try, maybe you can try it too. It is very important for us to try something new because it takes us to a mysterious world. And this might make you feel different every day. escape from overthinking about the reason, maybe focus on something about yourself, will be more useful for you.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2021 5:03am
Happiness is relative, and everyone has a different way of seeing it. Having meaningful connections is important for human health, both mentally and physically. People are social beings, and need each other's support. As humans, we need purpose, meaning and support in our lives to be healthy in all aspects. Without friends or family, finding comfort and support may be difficult, but it is not impossible. There are other ways to find meaningful connections and relationships in one's life. The answer is to truly know one self, and to look inward to understand one's place, meaning, and purpose. Once that is clear, it is easy to find happiness and fulfillment in this world.
hopefulArrow2212
June 5th, 2021 2:46pm
Happiness is from within. We can also feel unhappy although we may be with our loved ones. To be happy, we must feel satisfied with ourselves and our lives. We must be able to have a way to destress on our own, it is very important to step back and smell the roses every once in a while and be grateful for what we have, and take joy in life's small pleasures. It does not have to be something of a monetary cost. It could be something simple like making someone smile because you complimented them, in turn, that will also make you happy. Or doing some exercise, which is known for releasing endorphines which make one happy. It could be just spending some quiet time making a cup of tea and people watching. When we slow down and destress, and appreciate those moments, then we can find little pockets of happiness and satisfaction in our life.
Actuallynobody017
June 18th, 2021 3:49am
It a good question. The fact that you have asked this question shows your courage and independence. You are enough if you do not have friends or family with you. What is important is happiness. You can try things which make you happy. If you are religious then you can find happiness in God. What makes you happy? Some people find happiness in helping others. Some people find happiness in health. Some in adventure, learning new things, being postive and so on. But in order to live life happily, you would need courage. So be courageous and find happiness and everyone would like to be close to you. Take care!
Anonymous
July 9th, 2021 4:48pm
Everything we do in this life, we do for ourselves. We can be happy even we have to do that alone. Your life is imoortant, so don't thinking the way people judge yourlife. But sometimes relations in this life is important so we can build connection to each others. We life in this world is to know each others, to make friends. We life in this world to be a family. Friends and family become a important of the life, family is the connection to your past and future, and your friends is a connection make you just like this.
JustCallMeMike
July 9th, 2021 10:41pm
As for someone who has no family, and a very few friends. I find myself valuing the quality of the people I keep in life over how many people I can have in my life. What is important for introverts is to explore your own self and discover passions that can help being you to communities whether they are online groups or social groups. The older you get, the more you realize life is not about being the most popular but about making and exploring life how you want it to be. You got this, don't worry too much about making a lot of friends and just focus on making some really strong friendships.
TinCup84
July 27th, 2021 4:29pm
Finding self love is very important. if you can find love within yourself and be positive then your outlook on life will be more positive. Stay busy find a hobby that you enjoy and activities like hiking, biking, and arts. focus on yourself before others to find your happiness. I know its hard when you feel that you are lonely without friends or family but the happiness begins with in yourself. once you find your inner happiness and your new interest maybe you may find new friends along the way. Try new things explore what you've always wanted to try and you may find common interest with people a long the way and make new friends as they come.
Migulito
July 28th, 2021 6:46am
Happiness can be found in so many ways it could include small things such as being able to help others and be a reason for someone to smile, for such acts could be fulfilling to our souls and makes us an individual with a purpose. Other than that, happiness could also be found in the different things that excite us and things that we are genuinely passionate about whether it be through singing, painting, etc. In conclusion, happiness is indefinite, it is up to us as an individual to define happiness considering the fact that we are all different which means that what makes other people happy is different from what makes you happy.
FreyjaMay
August 1st, 2021 10:09pm
Learn and practise a hobby. Also appreciate nature, wildlife, and your environment. I’ve found walking in my local park helps to ease my emotions and appreciate life beyond my lack of friends and family. I also go swimming and eat healthy to improve myself. Volunteering is also a great way to feel happy, online or in person. I’ve started volunteering at a charity shop and it is very rewarding knowing I’m helping those in need. Whilst I’m volunteering I like to make small talk with strangers and try to make a lasting positive impact to those who visit the shop.