How can I be happy without friends and family?
Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
Elena Morales, LMHC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I believe silence creates a cycle. With empathic and collaborative therapy, we break the cycle. I help clients feel validated and supported passed anger, shame, and anxiety.
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Hi! In all honesty, find things that excite you. If you don't have or want friends or family around, then there's no one there to knock you down! Whether it be a hobby like composing or germinating fungal spores or breeding freshwater aquatics, or a particular show or book series, you have all the time to fully engross yourself in it without someone's vexing judgement hanging over your head! Don't be afraid to experiment with anything and everything constantly to find what suits the ever-evolving you. I'd hope you don't get lonely, as some force themselves into isolation without wanting to, but if that's not your case then go all out, my friend. Maybe get a small pet, like a fish or axolotl to keep you company (can you tell freshwater biology is my hobby?) or have another positive presence nearby. Best of luck!
To be truly happy, the sense of happiness should arise within you. Self-love and self-care can prove to be beneficial in order to be happy. However, the happiness should not fade thinking you are away from friends and family. Because this thought can prove to be detrimental as it can result in many negative thoughts. Calmness can be found from within without the assistance of others. However it has to be so strong that it can be maintained even if others are not around you. To put it in simple words, happiness from within comes from knowing your self-worth without it being dependent on whether others are with you or not.
Learn to covet and appreciate your own company. Do the things you love doing and recognize you have the freedom and privilege to spend your time the way you want to without having to worry about toxic family members and uncaring friends. Travel, read the books you want, spend as much time at home as you want, cook the food you want and whenever you want. Understand that the most important relationship any of us will ever have is with ourselves. We are the only people that fully understand our struggles and our motivations. We also need to recognize that the feeling of loneliness or of being misunderstood is a universal one, because no one really knows our past or our thought process or our characters. Once you appreciate that you are your own best company, and that others will often either misunderstand or neglect you, as much as misunderstand and neglect others, then you will learn to finally be free and content with your own company. Being alone is a huge blessing, and the faster we all realize this, the better :)
Some things that make me happy without friends or family is by listening to music, being by the water and/or nature, going for walks. I also enjoy taking the time out to reflect and when I feel myself being on the go too much I do my best to rebalance, become present and be still. It's important for me to nourish my soul with things that bring me joy and while friends and family is a big contributor to that being comfortable just with myself as well is great. I often find solace in exploring and doing things by myself.
We, as humans, are built for social interaction, human communication, and healthy attachment. It is one of our main traits and part of our survival needs. However, there might be some instances in life that we must need solitude to connect to ourselves. One can be happy for a moment through effective introspection, self-assessment, and positive self-communication. Isolation is necessary for growth and personal enhancement from time to time. Even plants need space to grow, so do animals who value time for themselves alone. And a person can achieve happiness through appreciation of the time of isolation and understanding the need for it for personal development.
The deepest form of happiness comes from you. Learning to be happy when alone is not easy and can take time, but it’s truly fulfilling. Try focusing on you, want you want and need, and who you want to be. Accept yourself for who you truly are. Take a step toward loving the person you see in the mirror. Remember that friends and family may come and go, and lonely times may get us feeling sad, but you can still have a deep solid happiness founded in your inner strength and commitment to living the best life that you deserve.
Learn to live with your own existence. Explore the things you like to do and remember that you are your life, others are just a part of it. It is okay to be all alone, yet it is also easy to drown in a state of misery as well. So remember to take care of yourself and have breaks every now and then.
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