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Maria Wasielewski, Master of Arts in Counseling and Guidance, University of Arizona
Licensed Professional Counselor
I am inspired when working with clients, who are facing challenging life experiences, to be able to help them to develop the needed skills to live their best possible life!
Top Rated Answers
By engaging in things and hoboes that you enjoy. Discovering and researching over things. Building our personality. Practising self care and mindfulness. Utilising our time in helping other and spreading kindness in the world. Being nice to the people we meet and giving in all that we have to the service of the world. Also, doing creative things helps like cooking embroidery and form of art. Etc. without friends and family, it is pretty lonely I agree but as long as we keep our selves company and enjoy our own company it’s not going to affect us much. We should keep that in mind
Anonymous
October 4th, 2018 10:06am
Learning to be happy without friends or family can include knowing your strengths without them. Some people do not have a choice to have a family or not. Those who don't usually find a remedy not having one. Some replace family with friends. When a person doesn't have friends, sometimes they can replace them with family. Some people have other alternatives and reasons for not having friends. Many jobs require multiple days at a time being there so you might not have time to maintain or make friends. Some people have social issues that refrain them from making friends.
Anonymous
October 12th, 2018 1:06pm
Sometimes it takes time to find your tribe. What I mean by this is that we have different periods of our life where it can feel lonely. What are some ways you can enjoy time with yourself? Maybe find a hobby that does not require others, but could lead to friends. A book club? How about a yoga class? Painting? It all depends on your specific talents and areas of interest. Maybe you can ask other members of this site even what they do to enjoy some alone time and self care. We all need to spend some quality time with ourselves.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2018 8:47pm
we can stay happy without friends and family doing the work what we love the most like we all need money for that we do study make ourselves a better person in so many ways and we do other things too to get a good job so we need to do what the person have always willing to be and other things a one can include doing exercises that would make the person feel positive and strong thorughout the day and will not feel tired and will be happy always other things can be including some musical instruments if a person likes one can learn playing that,that would surely work and friends and family would be not much required
Anonymous
November 1st, 2018 3:20pm
Without friends and family, we tend to feel lonely. But it's not impossible to be happy without friends and family. Happiness is created by yourself, it's not something that happens by chance. It depends on how you react towards a situation and challenges. Happiness is about how you think. Happiness is not about having zero failures or bad times in your life, but it's about how you can still be happy even with those hard times.
Besides, volunteering in social work by helping the others can improve one's happiness. It'll make you feel needed and most importantly, you'll feel great about yourself. By social work, you'll not feel lonely because helping the others make you feel that you are in a community. It makes you feel, togetherness. Sharing can also be a way to gain more.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2018 8:28am
Happiness doesn’t come from people around us it comes from within. Happiness is something that can never be found if we search for it . Only found when we accept things around us. Happiness is being contented and satisfied in the present. When start loving yourself there will be nothing that can break your inner peace and happiness. Every relationship that you have has come after your soul has taken a body. So every relation that you have is attached to the body not to the soul. Soul is free from every relationship when you realise this you will gain ultimate peace and happiness.
There are many things you can do to be happy without friends or family get a strong sense of self. Do something for yourself get a hobby, read a good book or learn a new skill. Create an environment where your are genuinely happy. Then anything else would just be a bonus. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone sometimes we discovered so many great qualities about ourselves in that space. That happiness also could attract people to you and with your new self-confidence it may help in meeting new people you can connect with and open your world.
You can be happy without friends or family by realizing your worth and value. Nothing is more empowering than self love and what you can give yourself. In this world, the amount of people that will come and go is astronomical. The one constant is yourself, who you are in the mirror and the person that you continue to build up. Life can be draining sometimes, and it may be challenging to stand and fight when the oxygen is knocked from your lungs, but you'll rise again. You'll stand, you'll walk and you'll be okay. Keep fighting, it's completely worth it. Be you, unconditionally and love yourself.
Use the time without them to focus on your own identity and your own interests. Explore a new hobby or try something new. Building experiences with the people in our lives is one of the best things we can do, but to see the excitement on someone's face when you tell them of your own experiences and then possibly even getting to do it again together. Time away isn't a punishment, it doesn't even have to be boring. Finding new crafts, games, hobbies and interests is part of being an individual. I love learning new recipes when I'm by myself. Sort of a preparation for when I see them again.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2019 4:29pm
Well, it is not easy to be happy without family and friends but it can be done. I would say you will have to learn how to love yourself and begin to appreciate yourself regardless if other people are in your life. One thing you can do is buy you a pet or perhaps some gold fish to give you something to care for and to love in the absent of having family members and friends that are active involved in your life. However, I would also suggest volunteering to other services that can use people to assist in places like the Red Cross, children shelters, nursing homes and hospitals that can use volunteering services. I wish you nothing but the best as you move forward with your life.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2021 12:08pm
To be truly happy, the sense of happiness should arise within you. Self-love and self-care can prove to be beneficial in order to be happy. However, the happiness should not fade thinking you are away from friends and family. Because this thought can prove to be detrimental as it can result in many negative thoughts. Calmness can be found from within without the assistance of others. However it has to be so strong that it can be maintained even if others are not around you. To put it in simple words, happiness from within comes from knowing your self-worth without it being dependent on whether others are with you or not.
Getting out in nature, enjoy what you have close by, appreciate your local wildlife, there is nothing wrong with going for a coffee on your own and reading a paper for a hour. Go out for a ride on a bike and enjoy what you see, or just watch a film, there are some good ones out there from time to time, I love to get out and see what nature has to offer though, use a camera or phone and enjoy it all, we live on a small planet that is dying make the most of what you have got
Hi! In all honesty, find things that excite you. If you don't have or want friends or family around, then there's no one there to knock you down! Whether it be a hobby like composing or germinating fungal spores or breeding freshwater aquatics, or a particular show or book series, you have all the time to fully engross yourself in it without someone's vexing judgement hanging over your head! Don't be afraid to experiment with anything and everything constantly to find what suits the ever-evolving you. I'd hope you don't get lonely, as some force themselves into isolation without wanting to, but if that's not your case then go all out, my friend. Maybe get a small pet, like a fish or axolotl to keep you company (can you tell freshwater biology is my hobby?) or have another positive presence nearby. Best of luck!
I’m hearing that you think you have to have friends and family to BE happy. I can understand how you might feel that way. But you can absolutely be happy!
Getting there isn’t easy. But you can do it! You have to be happy internally with yourself. It’s a process. Get comfortable with being by yourself, enjoy your time.
There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. Not having friends or family doesn’t mean you have to be lonely and unhappy.
Practice being confident and OK with not having family and friends. Practice displaying that internal confidence, and I bet your happiness will come automatically. And I even bet that it will draw people to you.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2021 10:09pm
Learn and practise a hobby. Also appreciate nature, wildlife, and your environment. I’ve found walking in my local park helps to ease my emotions and appreciate life beyond my lack of friends and family. I also go swimming and eat healthy to improve myself. Volunteering is also a great way to feel happy, online or in person. I’ve started volunteering at a charity shop and it is very rewarding knowing I’m helping those in need. Whilst I’m volunteering I like to make small talk with strangers and try to make a lasting positive impact to those who visit the shop.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2019 8:08pm
You can be happy. But not truly happy. You'll still feel as if something is missing, or there's a void that needs to be filled. But guess what, you can be happy by doing nice things for yourself, like exercising, meditation, reading a nice novel. Going shopping, things like that. But being happy without friends and family, let's admit that's really hard, as we need the people around us that we care about the most, the ones that can support us and be there. Without them the world is a lonely place. So to answer your question, you can't be happy without friends and family.
Create a list of goals, beliefs, or things (and even other people you meet along your way) that matter most in your life. The goals can range from something physical like a desire to get in shape to something not-so-physical like dedicate time and space each day to introspect. Even if you're not religious, it's always good to have a list of beliefs to adhere by. Of course, a particular religion may have some of these already outlined for you, but feel free to create your own (within reason), like "I will do nothing that my grandma won't like." Also, find some motivators to better help you focus on these goals. Do it for your dog. Do it for the people around you. Do it for a better future-- do it for yourself. Then, strive to accomplish the snot out of those things however you can.
Happiness can be found in so many ways it could include small things such as being able to help others and be a reason for someone to smile, for such acts could be fulfilling to our souls and makes us an individual with a purpose.
Other than that, happiness could also be found in the different things that excite us and things that we are genuinely passionate about whether it be through singing, painting, etc.
In conclusion, happiness is indefinite, it is up to us as an individual to define happiness considering the fact that we are all different which means that what makes other people happy is different from what makes you happy.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2019 4:42am
Friends and family are a huge part of who you are. They are the people who shape your personality and the way you view things. You can easily be happy without friends or family, but you must love yourself first. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll constantly look down on yourself and put yourself down without having anyone to express these feelings to or anyone to help you realize the things your thinking aren’t true. If you lose toxic friends or cut ties with toxic family members, in itself cutting those ties will make you a happy person because you’ll no longer be feeding off of the negativity.
Do some creative, it seems difficult very difficult very difficult but just start doing random if you like to paint read watch movies, talking to friends , take your dog or cat on walk ( have none go to nearest shelter and take any of them on a walk they would love a walk with you as nobody takes them), Cook or bake whatever cook whatever find a hardest 1 hour recipe and start doing it you never know you might be a chef ( i turned into in a lonely city miles away from my country ), just do something which you always wanted to do but could never do it
Anonymous
August 17th, 2019 2:49am
Family can be biological or chosen. So just because we might not have a strong biological connection, doesn’t mean we went surrounded by those who love us and we choose to have as family. So if really comes down to how we define family. Being away or feeling as though we also don’t have friends us hard. Luck thing is we often have the opportunity to make more or new friends. Most importantly we find happiness within our selves. When we are happy with who we are, other tend to be attracted to us and making friends becomes natural.
Having a good relationship with self is the key important factor in leading a good and content life. No matter what life throws at you, you will remain strong. You will be your own rock.
Finding self love is very important. if you can find love within yourself and be positive then your outlook on life will be more positive. Stay busy find a hobby that you enjoy and activities like hiking, biking, and arts. focus on yourself before others to find your happiness. I know its hard when you feel that you are lonely without friends or family but the happiness begins with in yourself. once you find your inner happiness and your new interest maybe you may find new friends along the way. Try new things explore what you've always wanted to try and you may find common interest with people a long the way and make new friends as they come.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2019 5:30pm
It can be hard to be happy without any reliable biopsychosocial support of family, friends, mental health clinician, counsellor, physician, teacher, colleague, etc. The fact that you are attempting to be happy irrespective of them is incredibly strong of you as many people cannot do it. You've got to have a lot of self-discipline in that case and work on bettering yourself doing the activities that you like. By bettering yourself, you will become more self-confident and others may approach you because they can sense it as well.
It is usually easier to be happy when you have at least one person (maybe an online gaming buddy or a pet) that can support you during times of need. If you do not have anyone, you can always fall back on your personal interests like your favourite music, talking to anyone on 7 Cups, etc.
As for someone who has no family, and a very few friends. I find myself valuing the quality of the people I keep in life over how many people I can have in my life. What is important for introverts is to explore your own self and discover passions that can help being you to communities whether they are online groups or social groups. The older you get, the more you realize life is not about being the most popular but about making and exploring life how you want it to be. You got this, don't worry too much about making a lot of friends and just focus on making some really strong friendships.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2019 9:59pm
You can be happy by Being your #1 fan! Self love is the best love. Yes you will need friends and family but at then end of the day you only got yourself. Do things that make you happy:) friends and family are the most judgmental/ supportive people in your life. Although they will always be there for you they don’t always support your decisions/ the things that make you happy. As I stated before, do what makes you happy!!!! You are the only person you can count on and you are the only person that understands how YOU are feeling. Not everyone is going to agree with you.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2019 8:46pm
Without friends and family, you need to love yourself. loving yourself is all that really matters. without loving yourself how can you love or be friendly to others? love is a very strong and independent emotion. anyone can have love or maybe not have love. either way show love the best way you can. You may think its hard but just sink into the thought of love and carry forward with it.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2021 4:48pm
Everything we do in this life, we do for ourselves. We can be happy even we have to do that alone. Your life is imoortant, so don't thinking the way people judge yourlife. But sometimes relations in this life is important so we can build connection to each others. We life in this world is to know each others, to make friends. We life in this world to be a family. Friends and family become a important of the life, family is the connection to your past and future, and your friends is a connection make you just like this.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2019 8:47pm
Who says you can not be happy without friends or family? Happiness is not about people. It is about you, your inner self. Happiness is an emotion and like every emotion it comes from within. Firstly, you need to be at peace with your own self. Many extroverts have many friends and big and rich families but they still feel unhappy. While, an introvert may not have many or any friends but he/she can be happy because he is satisfied.
Just stay away from negativity. Accept and love yourself. Do thing you like. Try to be a better person. Help people around you even strangers. Put a smile on others face and it will automatically come on your own. That is what you need to be truly happy.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2020 4:52pm
Be your own friend. Write a diarybwhich help you to understand your thoughts. Enjoy yourself don't think you need someone else to be happy. Learn new things, set high level goals for a day try to complete them. Do something enjoyful, new, like sports swimming, try to learn new language. Visit new places. Stop thinking you need someone for a trip. Visit to watch movies restaurant alone. Workout, listen to independent music like I am on my way by Sabrina carpenter, lily, too soon by Keshi. First you should say to mind you don't need anyone command it. And see miracles.
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