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How can I be happy without friends and family?

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Last Updated: 12/18/2021 at 3:50am
How can I be happy without friends and family?
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Anonymous
October 18th, 2017 10:37pm
Happiness is very much about finding comfort and acceptance in yourself. Of course, friends and family are important and can add to a persons happiness, but it isn't pivotal to being happy. I think that people think of happiness as smiling, going out and having fun, being the person you show to the world. But I think true happiness comes when you learn to accept yourself. When you try each day to better yourself and find success, whether it's in work, love or other adventures. Of course, finding contentment in who you are doesn't happen over night. For most, it's a process that takes years of self discovery. Finding out what makes you happy, without replying on other people to do it for you. It really is the small things: a hobby, a favourite food, a place - the options are endless. I know it's easy to sit on the other side of a computer and say that the key to happiness is X, Y and Z, but I've learnt over the years that when you're happy in yourself, that's when the important people in your life are revealed.
comfortableHorizon21
October 19th, 2017 9:56am
You can't basically. Make new friends. Step out of your comfort zone and know new people. Connect with them with an open mind. Don't always keep to yourself or dwell on the past. You have to move forward and reach out to other people out there
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 5:56pm
Realize that you're a unique individual with huge potential. You have a whole storehouse of happiness in you just waiting to burst out. Sure, friends and family help but at the end of the day you are a vital source of your happiness. Thrive.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 3:23pm
Being happy with yourself, in my opinion, is the first step towards being independent. Once you're happy with yourself, it opens up many doors for opportunities for you to gain extra happiness, regardless of friends or family are helping.
youaresobeautiful99
November 17th, 2017 5:59am
Take up plenty of hobbies. Earn lots of money to spend on what you like. Participate in some organisations that help others. ...
TheCup5893
November 18th, 2017 3:15pm
By making new friends. Online friendships, socialising in places that feel natural and comfortable - for example, a writing group makes me feel at home. Some people find peace at the church. Go to places where you can find like minded people. You may become friends.Books. It's the best feeling to read and soak up the fictional glory. I'm Cleopatra!I take lone dinners. Me and food = foodgasm.You'll figure it out, mate. Feel free to write me for a chat - I am not hiding my username. Hope you find a ton of happiness. Best wishes. :)
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2017 9:34pm
If anything I'm struggling with that myself but if our reasons are similar, in my case being that I've given up on both the concept of family and friends because of unmatched efforts from them. I've found that mourning the loss of both helps. With anything that needs to be let go of in life you must first grieve the absence of it and soon after acceptance follows and when you don't dwell on something any more you find solace and contentment in its absence. You might not be happy afterwards but surely not having family or friends will not be the reason for that
positivePoetry45
December 6th, 2017 4:41pm
Learn to be happy with yourself. What are the things that you enjoy doing when you are alone. For instance, songwriting, painting or even meditation. Its actually a good thing to spend alone time with yourself. Take a day out of the week that is strictly for you and you will find yourself being happy even when your friends and family are not around!
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 11:26am
One can be happy without friends and family by thinking what all god has given you. You do have a proper functional body without any deformity. You have food to eat,clothes to wear and a place to live. Try finding happiness in little small things.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2017 3:56pm
Happiness. Well, its not something that only friends and family can give you. Of course you can be happy without friends and family, find something you love- it may be a hobby, an object or maybe even a tv show it can be anything. Something that makes you smile. Or else you can discover yourself and find happiness through self-love.
Anonymous
December 22nd, 2017 6:33pm
You can still be happy without them. We must learn to not let our happiness rely on other people, regardles of they're our family
theuncomfortable
January 4th, 2018 6:02pm
Loneliness can be just a mental issue, also happiness does not depend on company, simple and little things can make a person happy, a dog perhaps, a bicycle, a book, etc...
Anonymous
January 11th, 2018 7:52am
Its simple try to see beauty and gratitude in everything around you see what you can do well alone and focus on yourself that will be good and try to distract yourself from the fact that you don't have someone beside you. And see little beautiful things around you. Like falling leaves, snow, bees, parks, pets
HappyRoses
January 13th, 2018 7:15am
You can be happy without friends and family by experiencing things that you weren't able to do and by taking some time alone to reflect on yourself and your happiness.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 5:59pm
To love yourself enough is important to make yourself happy. If you do not love yourself, what is the point of wanting to be happy? Friends and family could be a bonus. But they will not always be with us.
PieCat
January 14th, 2018 8:21pm
You can focus on doing things you enjoy, such as finding a hobby. You can do artwork or play games. You don't have to be surrounded by people to be happy.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2018 10:41am
start practicing self love and self care, when you become more at ease with yourself and you become your own friend, you can be happy even when on your own
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 4:43am
There are many things different people find happiness in! Some find happiness in caring for a pet or through the work their jobs provide them. Others may find happiness in music or in being outdoors. I think the most important thing is to find something you appreciate or care for.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 2:24am
You can be happy with them, by reaching your goals and dreams by enjoying every moments in your life
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 10:29am
Just find what you love to do and do that, it will make you feel happy, even without friends and family. Or you could go to a support group for lonely people, or to a therapist and they would help you find happiness.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 11:37pm
Plenty of ways. Doing volunteer work, having good colleagues, doing your favourite sports, enjoying nature, making others happy, taking care of animals.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 6:52pm
You can't be. Humans are made that way. If you don't have any family or friends then you'll eventually fall into depression.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 9:15am
Many times, I see that friends and family are not there as we always see and feel so learning to readjust to not having them there or depending on them teaches you to just be happy with what you have to see it period another words you just have to learn to find your own happiness because when you think about it you're all alone no matter what and how you see things
Zealous
April 7th, 2018 5:58am
Focus on things that make you happy. For instance, I read while listening to music. I find that very enlivening and engaging. Also, listen to books on tape and watch different types of videos. I recommend Nova.
resourcefulRainbow
April 12th, 2018 11:43pm
Learning to be comfortable and content with yourself is a difficult task, and even more so when you don't have those fall backs. But remembering to take care of yourself, and finding things to enjoy can be really powerful.
exsamaritan80
April 25th, 2018 1:23pm
I teach my kids that i am my own best friends and they are their own best friend. I speak to myself more than anyone else and i show my self-love and compassion. Moving to a new area away from family and friends was difficult and once i steadied my own ship, i started to look outwards for genuinely good people.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2018 2:25am
That is difficult. It really is. I'm not saying that to make you lose faith, but most people have a hard time dealing with that. If you'd want to find a meaningful substitute for that, you probably won't be able to. But if you want to find more meaning in your life, it's extremely possible.
Nasrz8
May 2nd, 2018 9:09am
This is usually hard, friends and family are essential to exist in your life, but if you insist, maybe by doing the thing you love when you're alone.
thoughtfulPillow12
May 3rd, 2018 1:48pm
I think we all need someone in our life, but relating to other people can be very hard to some of us, due to habits, emotional baggage, things out of our control. Try to love yourself, be honest with yourself, do activities you like. Integrity will draw people in. You find friends when you're comfortable with yourself, so definitely work on that! You have my cheers and well-wishing! Until then, it's okay to seek emotional support from online friends, 7cups, therapists (make sure they're good!), or even pets.
BrandonCares1074
May 4th, 2018 9:41pm
You could find interests in hobbies such as graphic design or sports. You could also learn instruments like the piano to keep you busy.